The Blog of Death

It is such a tragedy when someone takes their own life-especially at a young age & with so much going good in his life. I truly don't understand what could be so crucial at 23 that you feel the need to make the "great transition." May God have mercy on you soul, Najai.

I just can't believe than this man would do such a thing. you would have thought someone would have known that something was wrong. My prayers go out to his family

People can never tell when there loved ones are troubled. The person is very good at hiding it...I once was in that position. All my heart goes out to his family. My prayers are said for you. GOD BLESS

People with troubles don't always accept help from the concerned. Maybe his issues were considered common & weren't taken seriously. If he didn't want to be here I understand, this world isn't all that great anyways. It is especially hard on the black man. College isn't for everyone and I'm finding that most who don't care to attend/graduate will be doomed financially. No one wants to live their lives poor, unhappy & struggling the US.

i feel bad because of what happen but i know that turpin contributed positive while he was here. me and him look so identical that it makes no since and that scares me. but i give gratitude to his family and i wish that they could c me to c that me and him look juss alike

MY PRAYERS GO OUT TO HIS FAMILY AND ALL OF HIS FRIENDS.I BOXED FOR A LITTLE WHILE BUT DIDNT GO THROUGH WITH IT.ILL BE SURE TO KEEP YALL IN MY PRAYERS

Sooooooooooo Sad - soooooo Sad - really sad. It is possible to donate money for Najai's Daughter at the homepage of "The contender".

My condolences to his family and friends, from all accounts he was a very nice person. What a tragedy he had to end his life that way. Sometimes life can seem to hard to bear and you just dont want to carry on. I know, I survived a suicide atttempt in 2001.To anyone feeling depressed and suicidal please reach out to someone, a life is a precious thing.

I was sorry to hear of Najai's passing. His death is a tragic waste of talent. He may have been the next Muhammed Ali. My prayers go out to Najai's family.

May his soul rest in peace,Amen.Suicide is a very unfortunate means of ending one's life and we all should pray that none of our loved ones should ever be pushed into contemplating suicide.

thats was so sad. what made it worst my aunt use to date him like a couple months ago. She was so upset she didnt even attend his funeral. I dont really know him but i attend some of his fights. And all i can say is he is one of the best and It's sad he can't continue on to be the greatest

Its really sad it came to this. It makes u wonder what Angela said to him. He had great talent and could of gone far in boxing. I really wish he would of thought of his daughter before going thru with it. I feel bad for her because now she doesnt have her daddy there for her. Well god bless to his family and daughter and may you rest in peace Najai.

Najai Turpin...

In a world of extreme ups and downs, hard faces and passionate hearts there remains a large body of those with hard issues and inner termoil.

Suicide is a desperate option. I only wish this young brother could have not given up. There are people that would have loved to love him...that would have been there to listen...

My heart as well as others mourn for this loss as we do our brothers in Iraq and around the world.

Love eachother please, our children need their fathers and mothers.

Sincerely,

Gregory P. Maher

My heart goes out to his family. Its such a tradgedy that a man with such potential had to leave with no mark to really lay down. I pray for his daughter and in hopes that one day, his spirit will fall on those who need him the most. God Bless!

All I can say is, ANYONE who takes his or her own life, especially when they have great potential in life and have dependence to boot, and they just throw it away because they can't see past a bad period in their lives, and doing it to hurt someone such as his ex-girl friend. Makes him one of the biggest LOSERS OF THE WORLD! He does not have my sympathy but I will give him shame! My sympathy's to his family for having such a loser for a son and to the child. (Word, to all other suicidal people out there DO NOT DO IT, BE A WINNER !) God bless.

I don't agree with T-Man at all. We can't judge another man unless we have walked in his shoes. My boyfriend killed himself 2 weeks before Najai killed himself and he was also a fighter. Both situations were most likely a result of feeling hopeless about the future or feelings of worthlessness. If anything those that are left behind should honor the memory of those lost to suicide and we need to remember that in this life, there are those who feel they are fighting a loosing battle. We must remember that for some it is a reality and we must use this knowledge to reach out to those in the struggle. It's to late to bring my boyfriend back and it's too late to bring Najai back but we can learn from past mistakes and hopefully change the lives of those we encounter in the future. God bless and keep you, Najai.

WHAT A LOSS TO HIS FAMILY AND THE WORLD! Noone understands the trials and tribulations of a young, black man like Najai. From the absence of a father, to the death of his mother, from the responsiblilty of his siblings, to the responsibility of his daughter, from problems within his environment, to reported problems within his relationship, compounded with a unrealized dream, this was a young man on the edge. Many of us may at one time or another feel like Najai, but something or someone foils the plan -- I wish someone, ANYONE, had noticed the signs. Despite his final act of desperation, I HONOR NAJAI "NITRO" TURPIN. May God bless him and have mercy on his soul. WE MUST BE MORE COMPASSIONATE, USE YOUR TIME ON EARTH TO LOVE PEOPLE AND LIKE THINGS.

Why Najai?

In a time like this all one can do is pray, ask God to watch over the soul of najai turpin and to touch his family and friends. I am deeply saddend to hear of this news and I pray....i hope we all pray.

we have no idea what was going on... so it is not our place to judge.

I am sitting here watching the Contender now and it really saddens me that this young man took hi own life. While this is sad, it puzzles me that no one knows why especially since the girlfriend was in the car with him. She has to know why. But I guess that is neither here nor there. It really is just a sad situation.

Where do we start? The depths of depression is hard for most to undertand. For those who who feel Najai
took the easy way out,you have no idea of the pain a person can feel. Some have said it takes more nerve to live than to kill yourself. I disagree, when you feel so hopeless like your life is never gonna get better, what choice do you have? I need to say to his family, your are not to blame, there is no way you could have forseen his intentions. I too want to leave all the pain and make it all go away. But unlike Najai I don't have the courage. May he rest in peace, FINALLY.

You will truly be missed. R.I.P Najai.

Can anyone speculate about his suicide? His girlfriend was with him in the car; she might have said something really horrible.

Hi Najai! May God bless your soul!

Its sad to hear a great fighter like Najai Turpin will do such a thiing like that. I don't understand why, but remember always, you'll be missed the most.
R.I.P Najai Turpin

sincerely

Trey

This is a sad loss for our world and especially to Najai's loved ones. To those who knew him: Do not blame yourself and please forgive yourself if you have any guilt, as well as forgiving Najai. It reminds me of this song that I will dedicate to him now by the rock group Third Eye Blind:

JUMPER
"I wish you would step back from that ledge my friend,
You could cut ties with all the lies that you’ve been living in,
And if you do not want to see me again I would understand,
I would understand.
The angry boy a bit too insane,
Icing over a secret pain,
You know you don’t belong,
You’re the first to fight,
You’re way too loud,
You’re the flash of light on a burial shroud,
I know something’s wrong,
Well everyone I know has got a reason,
To say put the past away,
I wish you would step back from that ledge my friend,
You could cut ties with all the lies that you’ve been living in,
And if you do not want to see me again I would understand,
I would understand.
Well he’s on the table and he’s gone to code,
And I do not think anyone knows,
What they’re doing here,
And your friends have left you,
You’ve been dismissed,
I never thought it would come to this,
And i, I want you to know,
Everyone’s got to face down the demons,
Maybe today,
You could put the past away.
I wish you would step back from that ledge my friend,
You could cut ties with all the lies that you’ve been living in,
And if you do not want to see me again I would understand,
I would understand.
I would understand.
I would understand.
I would understand.
I would understand.
-Third Eye Blind song title is "Jumper"
Regards, Paula from Texas

Najai, I did not know him at all yet I am sad and compelled to say goodbye. For those that were blessed with his love and memories hold them tight so you can tell his story to his child. Hopefully your memories of him will keep you going through these tough times. I am the unfortunate one for not knowing him - but what I have read makes me wish I had.

His loved ones are going to miss him day in and day out, with many tough days to come. Perceiver, do not throw in the towel. Najai would not have. Some of the readers may think differently, but Najai made a huge mistake that can not be reversed - he did not throw in the towel!

My deepest sympathy to his family and his daughter. My prayers have been with you since hearing of Najai's passing. Hopefully God and Najai are hearing your prayers and helping you with the saddness you must be bearing. God Bless you.

My thoughts are sincerely with his family..God Bless.

I just read an article yesterday referencing some details. Apparently there was an issue about custody of his daughter and that he and the girlfriend had an argument and she got out of the car and she heard a shot. You can't always believe what you read but still who knows.

http://www.realitytvworld.com/index/articles/story.php?s=3287

How tragic and selfish!! Unfortunately, he
has left a 2 year old daughter to fend for
herself, it is a sad story on either end.
My hope is that his little girl will be well
cared for.

I only became a fan of boxing after watching the first episode of the Contender. All those guys got me hooked. I am so saddened to hear about this.

some people say that your spirit lingers when you commit suicide, we should all pray for his soul so that he can RIP, it is so easy to go down, unfortunately he went to far down. his family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

I'm taking the time to say that all our youth around the world could be loved and be paid attention on rough times..Please try to understand what they are going thru..as for Najai Turpin i want to say that they could give all these "real life shows" better counseling after these contestants leave the show's that way they can be listened to more closely..I trully hope that Najai is living a better afterlife and may he R.I.P. and my deepest condolences goes out to his family and hope his daughter get the proper guidance & attention as well. Octavio Hoyos

ok... no one has a right to sit there and put him down for the choice HE made. ok? none of us no what was going on in his life at this point of time. AND if you read ANYTHING about it you would know he had a really hard life. i think God will find it in his heart to forgive him and i think we should not judge. probably more than 1/2 of you whether you are going to admit it or not have had thoughts of suicide, he just went through with it. im sure if you commited suicide you wouldnt want people judging you and setting up a forum for people to comment on you decisions and actions you took. STOP JUDING AND ACTING LIKE YOU KNEW HIM! k now im done.
<3amber

May God bless this family. My thoughts and prayers always.

RIP Najai Turpin. Its a shame, he was a tough fighter and with dedication could have made some cash. i dont believe all that shit about him comitting suicide because he is black and the world is hard on him. if he did it on feb.14 it must've been an ex or something.

anyways

my prayers go out to you and your family. best regards.

Jason Nichols

Our heart goes out to his family, a true tragedy. He has left a small child with no father, how sad & selfish. The family of Najai our prayers and thoughts are with you.

God Bless all of you.

Najai I hope you find the peace on the otherside that you could not find here.

Too the very few of you out there judjing Najai, you have no right! You are not God and you are not better than Najai. Some peoples inner demons are very hard to deal with. Depression can be a sickness. It is not a selfish act, but a way for those who go through it to feel better. I have held a 45 to my head and wanted my pain to go away but did not go through with it. To all of you contimplating suicide, just know that life will get better. Brighter days will be instore for you if you want it bad enough! DREAM-- Keep your dream alive! My deepest sympathy and prayers go out to Najai's family, friends, and loved ones. God bless

I don't necessarily know common practice here, but after browsing for information on this topic I decided this might help others in making their tributes.

trib·ute
n.

1. A gift, payment, declaration, or other acknowledgment of gratitude, respect, or admiration: put up a plaque as a tribute to his generosity.
2. Evidence attesting to some praiseworthy quality or characteristic: Winning the scholarship was a tribute to her hard work.
3.
a. A payment in money or other valuables made by one ruler or nation to another in acknowledgment of submission or as the price of protection or security.
b. A tax imposed for such payment.
4. Any payment exacted for protection.
5.
a. A payment or tax given by a feudal vassal to an overlord.
b. The obligation to make such a payment.

http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=tribute

Numbers 1 and 2 may be the most helpful.

My prayers are with the Turpin family, they have suffered so much through the years.
To Turpin's daughter-your father is forever watching over you Precious.Perhaps your daddy felt he couldn't help you here on Earth for whatever reason--I strongly believe he will be your Guide through the rest of your life-I pray that this tragedy keeps God close to your heart through out your life!!
To the mother of Najai's daughter-Guilt is our biggest enemy. I pray you seek counseling for what you witnessed, what was said or not said, for the sake of your daughter be Strong and keep the spirit of her father alive and well. To the rest of the Contender boxers, Keep those memories alive! who knows Najai just may be with you in the ring sometime, smiling down, sayin 'Knock one out for me!'
Najai,with the untimeliness of the death, I can only hope that your family members were there to greet you on the otherside.. my prayers are with you as well. You are no longer hurting, no longer struggling, no longer suffering.
God Bless You.

I feel very sorry for Najai's Family I know how hard it is to lose someone special.I send my condolences to the family and I will keep them in my prayers.

If we want to truly show our respect for this man we should all give to his daughters fund. I did. I pray that you are with your Lord now Najai.

Are we sure it was suicide? Has the police investigation ruled out foul play? Has that even been considered? I don't know his mind set and I have never walked in his shoes, however, for someone who has so much talent and finally realizing goals, with everything to live for and nothing to lose...it sparks interest in me that the last person to see him alive was the person who has custody disputes with him.
They ruled my girlfriends death a suicide and it just didn't add up so we kept probing and questioning and finally the police found that her husband poisoned her because she had told him she was leaving and was taking the kids with her!
What ever the case may the truth come to light!

Suicide is horrible. It says... "I have no way out of what I'm going through". "I have no one to turn to". "I have no reason to LIVE". Suicide is never about anyone except for the person who is contemplating it. Najai was not selfish. He had no more to give. No more energy to fight. He was tired. Someone wrote that probably half of the people reading this forum have contemplated suicide. They are probably right. Life is not always a "cake walk". We all have problems in some area of our lives, and for some of us...prayer is not enough. I wish that Najai knew that God only gives you what you can handle. To me it seems as though God thinks I'm Super Woman, but that's a joke between He and I. It took me a long time to be able to laugh at the trials and tribulations and to know that "It aint always gon' be bad!" Unfortunately... some people never get there. Unfortunately... Najai and millions of others choose to die.
I pray for his everlasting peace.

To all of you who chose to finish reading this...Make sure you tell the people you love that you love them.

You will truly be missed. R.I.P Najai... My heart goes out to his family..

Before Christmas, our family was devasted with the news that my nephew, Keith - 21 years old - took his own life. I look at his picture and and try so hard to reach beyond time and space in asking why. My sister asked that I speak at his memorial. I did some research and discovered some poignant words on suicide. I am changing the name of Keith to Najai. I hope it silences those who think suicide is selfish and evil.
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"Our news today is dominated with tragic death in disasters and war. And as we try to come to terms with what has happened, we may not realize the scope of (Najai's)decision.

I would like to share a few words that I came across. For the most part, they are from Norman Vincent Peale. In addition he quotes a Rev. West Stephens and what he said at a eulogy for a young man that died by his own hand.

I have taken the liberty to change them, just a bit.

(Najai)died on his own battlefield. He was killed in action fighting a civil war. He fought against adversaries that were as real to him as his casket is real to us. They were powerful and they took toll of all his energies and endurance. They exhausted the last vestiges of his courage and his strength. And finally, these adversaries overwhelmed him and (Najai) lost the war.

But I see a many victories in his struggle.

(Najai) is to be admired for his bravery on that battlefield.

We should give him credit for the courage and pride and hope that he used as his weapons as long as he could.

We shall remember not his death, but the daily victories in his life that were beautiful, lovely and honorable.

We shall remember not his last day of defeat, but we shall remember the many days that he was triumphant over overwhelming odds.

We shall remember not the years we thought (Najai) had left, but the years he had.

Only God knows what this child of His suffered in the silent skirmishes that took place in his soul. But our consolation is that God did know, and understood.

“And surely this loved one who is gone did his best, for as long as he could."

Remember, now, that (Najai's) battles and torments are over.

Do not judge him, and do not presume to fathom the mind of God where this one child of His is concerned."
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I hope that Najai is at peace. That his family and friends will understand that sometimes the pain is too much and God calls the troubled soul home. A friend shared this with me as I stuggled to understand what happened. She said .....

"Remember, when it (the trigger was pulled) happened, he was beautiful and at peace and with his (Heavenly) father." I will take those words with me to the end of my days and I share them with Najai's family. God bless you all.

Our hearts,thoughts,and prayer go out to Najai's family and exspecially his little girl.

I was sadden to hear about Najai's death. I pray that God will keep her and that the ministering angels will direct her paths. I hope that she will become a very successful young women making her father very proud of her.

However, I do believe that his girlfriend must have said something to push him over the edge. It's true what the Bible says, "There's life and death in the power of the tongue."

man youll be in my prays

Sometimes a person finds themself in a situation where their back is against the wall and there is no other way out... but no matter how bad it is, there is always another way out... u just have to take the time to find it.

God Bless

I understand and I don't. It's a sad situation but for whom?? All that keeps going through my head is that there is now a 2 year old little girl with no father because he decided to take his own life. How could he do that to his family??? I truly believe that this was a selfish act which will forever leave his family picking up the pieces. All we can do is ask for his forgiveness and pray for his family. God Bless.

May life never strike with a powerpunch those who judge Najai for what he did. And if it does and the only thing you can hear afterwards is the count to ten, remember your own judgment... and stand up. Fight. For victory is of those who live through the furious battle of life and get to the final round.

Oh Najai, if only you could've seen the alternate choice you had..... But I also know that I have no idea what you were going through and what took you to that point. I hope you remain in your daughter's heart through her years and deepest condolensces along with God's precious blessings to your family, friends, and fellow contenders.

Najai,

My prayers go out to you and your beautiful daughter. In the worst of situations, you set a powerful example of work ethic, dedication, and humility. You conquered everything that came your way except for the one thing no young man can completely conquer. The infidelity of a baby's mama!

Najai:

You have taken from your daughter the most important thing in the world and that is your guidance and love!! My heart goes out to her and her alone, and may god have mercy on you for eternity.

From learning about Najai's "closet bed" to the fact that he is/was a Philadelphia fighter you just knew that this 23 year old man had put a lot onto his shoulders. A Philadelphia fighter deserves a much better ending than this. I can only imagine the mean streets Najai Turpin came from. They are not the same streets that I have known (nor anything close to them).

This is why it is so important for men and women to stay together. Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it. Wives submit yourselves to your own husbands are you do unto God.

If only a Mom and a Dad had still been in Najai's life perhaps he would still be with us today.

My whole heart and all my prayers go out to Najai's surviving family. May God bless you (in ways you may not yet see) for the rest of your lives.

Your toughest fight would have been to stay alive and make sure your daughter had a better life than you.......this is what most parents want for their kids.

You know how the Lord feels about the way you died. May he have mercy on your soul young brother.

My prayers go out to your daughter and family.

Paul

My brother was killed in a car accident 2 years ago. He had 3 young children. His life was taken from him. He had no choice. He wanted to live life. He was a great person, always smiling and laughing. I think it is really sad that he didn't get the choice to stay or go. I still wake up crying some nights missing him so much I almost can't breath. I feel so bad for his family, they have to live with that kind of greif because of a choice he made. It is not up to anyone to choose when we die. IT IS GODS CHOICE!!! Najai, may god have mercy on your soul.

Are we sure it was suicide?

Suicide is a permanent solution to temporary problems...

Why did no one, see this coming, this was not a solution. Rest in Peace Najai, and may God have mercy on you.

No one will ever know or understand what caused this tragedy. I believe we have no right to judge another person. My father committed suicide and I am still dealing with it, but one thing I know, we DON'T know what they are thinking or what causes the extreme depression that causes that final decision.

I will pray for Najai and the family that he left behind, that God will comfort them in thier time of need and that they will draw closer to the Lord. I hate to see something like this.God be with the Turpin family.

I don't believe this... I just watched the first episode and felt sad that Peter Manfredo lost - I didn't want either to lose because both boxers had worked so hard to get where they are. This just makes my evening worse.

My thoughts & condolences are with his family at this time.

It is not O.K. to judge others for something like this. I have a friend that tried to commit suicide with a 12 gauge shotgun and lived!!!
It is GODS choice whether we live or die.

4 years ago on January 17th, my family lost my nephew his loss was ruled death by his own hand. He was in a room of friends and his girlfriend was with him as he played a game of russian roulette wih a man 9 years older than him. His loss was extremely hard on all of us that loved him, and left many questions of why. He left his mother, father, brother, sister, nieces, nephews, aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, friends and a two month old daughter. With all the love we had to offer him, he still chose to move on with his journey.

Najai, has moved on in his journey. He has left those who knew him, loved him, and those whose lives he touched. I would say to them remember the best of Najai...and pass it on to his daughter, as my family has done with my nephew's daughter.

May God be with you during this time of heartache and bring to you the peace that comes with time. Listen in your hearts and hear the messages from Najai, if you listen and remember...he will help to bring you peace, my nephew did.

From what little inforation I've been able to find about this tragic event - that he shot himself right after his girlfriend left the car... it sounds as if he made a rash decision out of anger or upset that cannot be reversed.
He may have indeed been stressed by other things in his life, of course. Unfortunately, it doesn' t sound like he even thought it through at the time... almost like it was out of anger?

We will never know, and I have no right to judge. It just saddens me for him and all of his loved ones.
May all of you find peace and comfort in remembering the blessings of his presence in your lives while he was there. There are no words to express my sympathy for you...

Why anybody feels bad for Najai is beyond me, the people he left behind are the ones we should feel sympathy for. I could give a rats ass whether he was black, white, purple or brown. He is not the first person to have gone through a lot growing up, and in his present life. The selfishness of his act alone shows how much of a coward he turned out to be. Yes he did go contribute a lot to this world and he should be commended for that, but he should also be looked at as a tragic figure that left a 2 year old daughter without a father. I hope the world where he is now is a worse place than the one he left behind. The easy way out is never the answer.

People need to understand life is hard. 23 years of a tough life, you should have known by now. I think he is a coward. Being a father, I know that I am second. My son is first. Everything I do is for him. Now, since this person who couldn't face a tough road decides to off himself, a innocent todler is going to be faced with a tougher road than her father was on. I hope she doesn't turn to the streets when she's older, and lives a life of crime after she realizes and understands what her father did. I have no sympothy for an a-hole that leaves a child behind. Maybe it was a goodthing for the child. Maybe he wasn't going to turn out to be a positive role model. God bless the MEN and WOMEN who take care of the children. The world is a better place because of us.

so sad this had to happen. it sounds like he maybe was overwhelmed by life and maybe even upset with his girlfriend and made a rash decision that he could not take back. she should be questioned thoroughly to get to the bottom of this awful tragedy so his family can get past this loss and move on. questions left unanswered can really tear a person apart....so can guilt. let's hope the truth comes out soon for everyone's sake, especially his daughter.

May God be with you and watch over you family.

Yo Yo Yo. Najai.. You are such a strong fighta. Yo had 13 wins..7 Knockouts..1 Loss.. Thatz a great timetable of yours. Your daughter is beautiful.. But what I am wondering is why you commited Suicide. You have a Gf and a Daughter... Well.. R.I.P.. I just watched your fight against Sergio.. You should of won.. Wel I still believe in you. Keep fighting. Once again R.I.P.. *Props*

Najai. I hope god looks over your Family with good love and care.

God Chose you to come to heaven.. God had sayed to himself.. Najai's time has come. So God chooses wheather you Live or Die. RIP

I've only seen one episode of "The Contender" and it was the episode that Najai fought. I thought he was a great fighter and I cheer for him the entire 5 rounds. It's sad to see something so promising disappear off our earth. One thing is for sure...he'll be watching over his beautiful daughter and showing her the toughness he had and the determination.
My heart goes out the family.
God Bless and Always Believe.

My prayers go out to Najai Turpin and his family. Be strong.

Not everoyne who commits suicide deserves sympathy. Although it is always sad to see life lost in such a way, Najai proved himself to be a QUITTER of the highest order. He had everything going for him, a beautiful child, wife, and other family members who doubtless looked up to him and depended on him. What he did to himself was incredibly sad, but also galactically selfish, irresponsible, and pathetic. Even if all was not well with his home life, there are thousands upon thousands of othrs who have it far worse. Oh yes, it is incredibly sad, but if he could not see or understand what his decision would do to others, then we can feel sorry for him, but not commend him.

He did not have a monopoloy on loss. He quit the game, right when there was an opportunity to pick himself up, and prove to himself that he was a champion. Instead, he yanked himself from his child's life and the lives of those for whom he was responsible. Perhaps it was a mental illness to begin with, something he could not control. He certainly had the mental acuity to fight his opponent, however. He simply lost. He isn't the only one to lose a fight.

A very sad thing, but not commendable. A quitter like that is no hero.

Count your blessings, people. Always count your blessings.

I am really shocked to hear of Najai's death! All my prayers go to his family!!

Although I was not fortunate enough to have known more about Naiji. The glimpse I got of him had a very strong effect on me. He seemed to be such a beautiful person, and he was the kinda guy everyone admired and respected, because he was true and he gave it his all. We will pray for Anyae and I have made a donation to her trust fund. For his family please don't let mean spirited people bring you down. He did what he did on his own,and he didn't decide to take his life in one day. Please honour all that he stood for and the many wonderfull things he was. May he rest in peace and may God Bless his family and daughter.
Karli Roopchan

i just finished watchin the contender..n i was so0o shocked to hear dat naiji passed away.. wut a tragedy...i jus cant believe itt..hes a good fighter...his quick..solid ..n got that champion attitude in him...i jus cant believe itt..im speechless..who0a**...my heart goes out to his family n especially to his daughter...(u can donate money ..jus got to the contender site)...
R.est I.n P.eace -- Najai Turpin..ur name n legacy will b remembered...ingat tol*

he is selfish. My heart goes out to his daughter who will never know her father.

You guys have no reason what so ever for talking about how bad he is because he killed himself. I live in philly too because my parents came from poland with 5 dollars to try and give me a better life. you don't even imagine the struggles you go through just to survive and how your environment shapes you...i prevailed in a way, im workin 2 jobs and going to school at widener university in chester but only becasue i was lucky to get where i am, not everybody is me and im trying to help those out who cant make it. RIP Najai and my prayers are with your family

I am sorry to hear of what hapopened. I only can wonder why it happened. My prayers go out to his family.

I just finished watching the episode of contender where najai was beaten by Sergio and it just makes me wonder if he had won would he still be alive. I can't believe that he killed himself. I guess I don't want to believe that he killed himself. He seemed like such a great man. I really hope that his daughter will be okay. My prayers go out to him and his family.
By the way for anyone who wants to donate to his daughter go to: www.contender.yahoo.com

man, just watched the show, so sad. Najai, you will be missed man, you were a lion in the ring, and from what I can tell, a wonderful father. I heard his death was related to Custody of his daughter......

had a father who comitted suicide, dont feel bad for him, that was his fault, it could have been prevented. i feel horrible for the baby and mother who will have to live this down for the rest of their lives. doesnt feel good to know your father killed himself knowing he has a child no matter the situation.

this situation just is disappointing... it is unbelievable that a man would take his own life leaving a two year old to fend for herself. I do not pretend to know what it was like for Najai, but how you could take your life and leave your daughter alone is something that I can never understand. RIP... pray for the child

The pressure that society puts on young people to just "be" is a joke the fact is oportunity is hard to find and shows like contender that have no rebound effect for contesants like that of survivor or mtv's real world give people other ways of making money or being wanted.. The truth is after watching the contender i knew it was suicide just because sugar ray didn't say why but everyone knew. God bless and to anyone who asks or says i couldn't do that you aren't that guy or you don't know him to judge him \
our country is great but we still can't solve prejudice or poverty. in the end without poverty this show wouldn't have been anything

I LOVED THIS MAN----I WANTED HIM TO BEAT SERGIO SOOOO BAD. I COULDN'T BELIEVE HE LOST. IT KILLED ME WHEN I FOUND OUT HE DIED. I HOPE HIS DAUGHTER WILL DO FINE WITHOUT THIS GREAT MAN.

I hope that anyone that was close to him is reading this long list of strangers that truly fell in love with someone through a tv set. May God have mercy on his soul. He seemed like a man that given the right opportunity and chances, could have accomplished a lot in his life. I am deeply saddened by his passing and hope the best for the ones close to him. God Bless!

I was one of millions of people that just watched the Contender and I myself realize how hard life is.. Sucicide is never the answer, no matter how hard life is. I was surprized such a honest person like Najai would deprive his daughter of a life of her own. My prayers go out to his family.
I'm pretty sure everyone is surprized by this.
Again prayers to all of his family.
Rest in Peace Najai

I was in complete shock when I found out Najai took his life when I saw the episode dedicating to his memory. I send my prayers to his family, especially his wife and little daugter. Najai Turpin, may you rest in peace!!!!!!!!!!

Mah prayers go out to Najai and his family...It's terrible thing that this happened..What matters now is that his daughter grows up having a good life....cause thats what he wanted...RIP

Rest in peace Najai and my prayers go out to the family especially his precious little girl.

I''m shocked to hear what happened.

The show set up a trust fund for the daughter for those interested. You can get more info at The Contender website.

God bless.

god bless his soul and to his family www.contender.yahoo.com donate to this it will help out i wish he would not have done that but we wish a lot of things didnt happen dripute and pray for him

We can not judge a man for what we do not know. But in situations involving kids I could see through his eyes, for I am in a situation where my kids are being held. I love to box and I feel deeply saddened for his family, but god bless him for what he gave to everyone while he was on this earth. Celebrate his life, dont take away from it by asking questions, god bless Najai.

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem! I wish you would have waited.

My prayers go out to Najai and those who loved and continue to love him, stay strong and try to keep living your life as he would have wanted you to. I only hope that people do not judge that young man for choice that he made.

Suicide is a very selfish act. It doesn't take a lot of heart. What takes a lot of heart is commitment for better or worse... I am sad for his daughter. His wife's comments were classic. "She doesn't know the difference, neither do I." She had a lot of heart. God bless her. God bless their daughter.

Najai you were hurting so, I know. Two devastating events was too much for you. I wish I or someone could have been there for you. May God Bless your daughter and ALL concerned. Dave

No one can know what sadness lies within one's heart and what level of desperation exists excpet the person experiencing it. Najai appeared to be such a young man of promise, and to those who must carry on, I pray that you do not take blame, but remember the laughter...the good times...the promise...learn from the past so that you too do not repeat it. Tomorrow may seem so far away at times and yet it is so much closer than we think. May the angels in Heaven hold him close and the angels on earth support his family and especially his daughter. God Bless.

I just watched The Contender, and I am so saddend by the news of Najai's death. He was a good man at heart, and just by watching him on the show with his daughter, it touched my heart. Only God know what and why a person would choose to end their life. My heart goes out to his family, ecspecially his daughter.

My love goes out to his family and his little daughter, Najai turpin u r my idol, rest in peace, u woulda been a champ.

I am truely saddened by this shocking reality. Who can understand such a senseless loss. I am contributing to the fund set up by Sugar Ray for his little girl. God Bless her! Peace be with you Najai!!

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I hope everybody will be more understanding in the fact that they only know a small portion of Najai's story and that it may never be known as to why he took his life away. Instead of slandering his name and calling him a coward, it would be a much better choice to have sympathy for his family and pray for them as well as Najai so that he may rest in peace. Godbless.

I'm a fighter; never knew the meaning of quitting... i have no family and all i have in life is my friends and my cats.

I would NEVER have the dishonor of thinking of myself before my friends so i dont understand his taking his life... i mean he had a little girl!

THAT in itself is a reason to NEVER quit!

This is so sad! I wish there was a way he could have been saved. That's really awesome they are setting up a trust for his daughter. There's nothing more to say about it.

For all you people on here dogging Najai did you ever stop to think he may have had a chemical imbalance like bipolar disorder or manic depression? That interview he had with the counselor where he said people will only let you down. That's how a depressed person thinks. I use to live with one and I heard it many times. He obviously loved his family very much. Don't pass judgment on Najai you don't know the real circumstances.

Think before you speak. People with these disorders need help and he probably couldn't afford to get it or didn't catch it in time with all the work he had to do to support his family. Another reason why we need National Healthcare
. Think about this next time you go to vote.

It seemed as if he had everything looking up for him. I coulnd't believe what I was reading. I can't see what went wrong, he seemed like a smart young man on the road to boxing glory. He was a very tough fighter. It boggles my mind to think about why he would do this.

There is a trust fund for Najai's daughter
www.contender.yahoo.com

Najai, all i wanna say man, is "One life, One love." May God be with ur beautiful daughter. I wish u would of taken a better route on ur decision but hey only god can judge you. One love. GOD BLESS!!!

Why and how someone somewhere had to see his pain. I truly feel sorry for the ones around him who loved him so. My greatest concern is his little girl she just like many in the world will grow up without a father in her life. I am just shocked of how a young man like this can take his own life. I am truly sorry.

See you on the High Ground
SFC, United States Army

I just finishing watching an episode of The Contender, where Najai lost the fight. I was shocked to see "In The Memory Of", I immediately logged onto the internet to find more information. To his family, I am deeply sorry for your lost. My prayers goes out to the family. I plan to contribute to his daughter trust fund, I hope and pray others will do the same.

Suicide is never an option. I send prayers for strenghth,understanding,and forgiveness on behalf of Najai's daughter and family. God Bless You.

I might come across as ignorant, or sheltered because I do not know what it feels like to loose a loved one who took their own life. I do not know what it feels like to grow up in a home with out a dad or poor, but I will say this. My heart breaks for Najai, I only wish someone would have talked to him about the love of Christ Jesus and how in him we can do all things. So I send this message to his family. If you will accept Jesus Christ as your saviour, he will lead you through this life. The Lord has many wonderful promises for his children, if we would only accept them. My family and I have sent money to his daughter. They are in our prayers.

Me and my mom were watching the contender for only the second time when we saw at the end it said in loving memory of Najai Turpin we are so so so so sorry and our prayers are with the family

I was deeply shocked when I found out tonight on the show. I feel very badly for his little girl.

I just finished the watching the show with NT and I wanted to know what had happened. His family, his daughter, his girlfriend, his fans will miss him. Life is hard and we must be able to bend with the curves it throws. It's too bad he felt he had no other way out.
May you rest in peace, friend.

We will never know the reasons why things occur. Especially, those things that tend to make all of us stop and shead a tear. Najai, will always be in my heart as if I had know him all my life.

Najai - we will miss you and remember the passion and love you left behind.....

To all of najai's family i hope that you can grow from this lose because you lost an extraordinary man, he was a fighter and a great dad and when he lost that that i was in a state of shock and when i found out he died i had tears in my eyes....
I just dont know why he would do this with all he had in life i kno things were tuff but he had so much to look for later in life...R.I.P Najai i hope your in a grater place

Life, love, and understanding are the only true gifts that we have here on earth. Seeing Najai with his daughter was a beautiful thing, for him to waste something so valuable is senseless. I'm sorry that a great guy like Najai had to die, and for his family that had to deal with such a horrible lost.

My grandpa always sad "my life is as sweet as the next man". It saddens me that people don't cherish life. My prayers go out to najai and his family I know he will rest in peace.

So sad - such a young life gone in an instant. I didn't know he had passed on Valentine's, until tonight's show "go to yahoo site for a memorial"!?!?! Couldn't believe what I was hearing, until I came here and read everyone's blessings and scoldings of his passing. Goodbye, Najai, and Anyae, I hope you find peace and acceptance at the tragic passing of your daddy. He seemed like a tired young man - and only 23...so sad.

i cant believe the end of the show.my heart goes out to najai daughter,only god can judge not any of you a holes.

Najai Turpin,whom we never got to know,
Lost his bout on the TV show.
But he showed class with that defeat,
And now kneels at his maker's feet.
It is not ours to judge nor ours to say,
Why he took his life that day.
"For when they come to write against your name,
It is not whether you win or lose,
But how you played the game."
And you gave it all---GOD BLESS TURPIN!!

I just learned of Najai's passing this evening as the "Contender" came to an end. I was crying with Najai after he lost the fight. He had such heart and seemed like a wonderful man and father. My tears flowed even more after the news of his death. All I could think about was that little girl running around chasing her "dada" and how she will never truly know what she meant to him. I can't understand why such a promising person would go to this extreme and leave such a beautiful child behind to be raised without her daddy in her life. May God have mercy on your soul Najai.....If I were a millionaire, like Donald Trump, I would definatley contribute a sizeable amount of money for his daughter's trust fund. She's a beautiful child and I pray her mother and his family can make it through this horrific tragedy.

Najai seemed like a very humble and great man. he leaves behind a great family, and a legacy that had greatness written all over it. my thoughts and prayers go out to the Turpin family. you will be missed Najai. R.I.P

RIP God bless!

First I would like to wish his family all the best. Najai, I feel your pain........

Second, I am tired of postings that refer to suicide as a selfish act. Suicide results from demons that reach deep inside you and prevent any hope for the future. When depression sets in, it is almost impossible to come out without some sort of help....whether it be medication or counseling. Even then, in a lot of cases, this doesn't help. People with deep depression don't have big dreams......their big dreams are trying to find a way to make it through the next day. Ignorant people who post about selfishness or cowardly act of suicide, do not know one bit about depression and/or why people take their own lives. They don't take their lives because they lost a fight.......or got in to an argument.......it goes way back.....and the demons end up winning.....just like they do in most cases. God bless you Najai.......

My heart goes out to Najai's girlfriend and daughter, I will pray for you tonight. It is really too bad for this mans' family. What are his sibblings to think, no mother, now no brother. My prayers are for them as well.

I just watched the show and before the end of the show when they told us that Najai passed away I was totaly feeling for him and what he was going through. I wanted him to win so bad. So it hurt me watching him lose, but then it was too much when they said he passed away I couldnt help but actually shed a few tears. My prayers go out to you Najai and family.

My Dad and I just finished watching the Contender, and we were really stunned by the news. We really thought Najai had a good chance at becoming a well known boxer regardless of his lost on the contender. Our prayers and love go to his daughter. We really hope that someone near and dear to the family will be a positive role model for the little girl. The world is full of hard times and tribulations but we all must go on. I hope this act of tragedy makes people realize that actions always have consequences and there is NEVER an easy way out no matter what the situation maybe. I wish that all people will remember at the end of every dark tunnel, there is light as well as hope. God bless.

If only you would have waited...God always gives us a sunrise.................

I didn't even know Najai personally, but I was so saddened to know that someone from my hometown was getting somewhere in life, fought his heart out against Sergio, and wound up killing himself. It just don't seem right.....he had a future ahead of him and a girlfriend and babygirl to care for as well as family. It's just ashame...I just wish I could have seen him grow. My prayers go out to the family and everyone who knew him. I wouldn't be surprised to see a mural in his memory somewhere on Broad St....he is definitely a person/life to remember.

I just finished watching the contender for the first and probably the last time. I was yelling at the top of my lungs for Najai. I can identify with you about the struggles you make to care for your family. No ones knows what God has in store for us. I pray for your beatiful daughter and hope that your girlfriend is able to move on after your death. Even if she didn't say anything to encourage his demise she will always remember it. I pray for her and his daughter. And for all of you who think you are god yourself, stop right now and go and pray. Judge not lest ye be judged....

THIS GOES TO SHOW YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT'S ON A PERSON'S MIND SO IF YOU SEE SOMEONE FEELING DOWN, PICK THEM UP YOURSELF BECAUSE THE NEXT PERSON MAY BE TOO LATE. MAY GOD HAVE MERCY ON HIS SOUL AND GOD BLESS HIS 2-YEAR OLD DAUGHTER
PEACE BE WITH YOU.

This is really sad.....I pray for his family. I did not even know that he had passed away until tonight when I was watching his episode....He was so young I am really saddened to hear of this and will keep his family espically his precious daughter in my heart and prayers

MY HEART GOES OUT TO HIS DAUGHTER. SHE WILL NEVER HER FATHER. MY PRAYERS GO OUT TO HIS BROTHERS AND SISTERS, FOR THEY HAVE TO DEAL WITH ANOTHER LOSS 5YRS AFTER THEIR MOTHER PASSING. MAY GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU STRONG.

im sry that it had to end liek that for him..thats really sad... my prairs r with his daughter, girlfreind and the rest of his family, he was one of my favorites on the show and thats horrible that something liek that would happen..
god bless

All i have to say is "He who is without sin cast the first stone." Let's leave the judging to the real judge, GOD!!!!!

I just heard about this young brotha, it is a sad thing but I can understand I felt at times that life is so hard, we feel that ending it will make it better but in all actuality it isn't we leave those behind in alot of pain and we leave alot of unresolved things. I want his family to know that God will help you through this, and to the mother of his child he will guide you through the hard times of being a single mother keep your head up and remember prayer does change things. I am a mother of two and girl that is hard, well I have YOU most of in my prayers!

To my chrisitian brothers & sisters of all races,

I want to post this message to encourage anyone who is looking for a way out! Try to muster up enough strength to say Jesus, I need you right now. You will be surprise how quickly God answers pray. This mean demonic world has a way of breaking our spirit but, just know God is still in control.
To the beautiful family of Naijai- You have nothing to be ashamed of. I pray your strength and I break down any strongholds that your family may be facing---In the name of Jesus.
I also pray prosperity, love, and a full life for his precious beautiful daughter.
Lastly, I pray wholeness for his girlfriend (ex) whatever. Just PEACE FOR everyone who is hurting. I hurt and I did not even know him. To all the Naijais out there, Hang in there.
Peace!

Wow.. how breath-taking! Najai.. you will always be my favorite contender. you are a winner in God's eyes & definately through your admirers. YOU'RE AWESOME! you're in my prayers.

And to the family of Najai.. you'll see him again someday, you all are in my prayers & don't ever forget the unforgettable, Najai Turpin. Stay strong & know that he is now in peace.

To the precious daughter- you are a beautiful girl, you are in my prayers. I hope that one day you will understand the loss of your "Dada." I pray that you will be taken care of by someone, just as Najai would of taken care of you. Don't give up. You're precious!

GOD BLESS YOU ALL!

What a tragedy. I was just watching the show, and crying when he lost without even knowing that this happened until the end of the show. What a beautiful family he has. My heart goes out to his siblings, his daughter and girlfriend. There is really no words that can help, but please donate money to his daughters fund on the contender website.

I had never heard of Najai before the episode where he fought was aired. During the entire show, from the moment he came onscreen with the commetns made by his team's denmother, I felt I connected with him and his personality much more than the other fighters I had watched before on the show. I found myself cheering for him, even desperately, as he seemed to have a personality so similar to my own... the moment I say the announcement about his death at the end of the show I was shocked, and rushed to find out more about him. It is understandable to look at people as cowards for choosing suicide, but any person who has had enough worldly experience knows that every person is differnet and that one's experiences in life ultimately shape your perception. Najai's choice may have made life difficult for his daughter, but that does not mean he should not be pitied as well. Anyone who chooses to kill themself after fighting through such an incredibly rough life for so long must have found that to be the one and only conclusion... I sympathize deeply for Najai, and especially his wife and daughter. Whether you are religious or not, we can all agree that he no longer must deal with the trials he fought through his entire life. Therefore, I sympathize with him, but I also smile for him, knowing that he is free of his problems.
I would suggest that anyone who would condemn this man for leaving his family behind donate to his family before posting any comments that are derrogatory toward him. Otherwise, you don't care after all.

this is to najais' family and friends
and to everyone who wrote nasty and mean things about this situation
my heart goes out to the daughter that was left behind without a father to watch her grow to a beautiful young lady.
and to his girlfriend im sorry you lost him
to his family
Im sorry
and to the mean people you dont know what was going through his head i mean he loses the fight and then from what i read his girlfriend broke up with him and there was a custody battle for his little girl alot was given to him on a plate and he couldnt handle it i feel sorry for people like him i tried to do the same thing back in the day but like other people say god chooses who lived and who dies my heart goes out to najai, his daughter, and family and friends god bless and just remember he will always be there watching over you

Life is either a blessing or a curse. It's a matter of perspective. For one who is inspired by the miracle of the rising sun, it's impossible to imagine, to comprehend, the depths of despair, the cumulative effect of this cruel world's damage to the fragile human psyche over a lifetime, long or short.
I don'thave to judge, or prescribe punishment, to make myself feel better-to project my inherent outrage, my disgust, when another human soul chooses to release themselves from the bonds, the burdens of their mortal coil.
It is, thankfully, not my job. There's enough misery in this world to go around.
I choose to focus on the gifts I was given, by God and nature, to spend just a little time each day making a perceptible difference in the lives of those who tend toward a similar fate as Najai.

Face the fire. Be strong. Each step brings you closer to peace. Farther from the awesome gravity
drawing the human soul to darknness and despair.
And while you choose the path of life, sacrifice as much of yourself as you can spare to guide others, like Najai, to the light.

God bless...

I enjoyed watching Najai. I was touched by his story. But there is NO excuse for suicide. IT IS NOT AN OPTION. God gave you your life, you don't have the right to take it away. I'm not trying to be negative. Please understand. People that take their own life are only selfish. They are only thinking of themselves. That is not what life is about. Life is about what you can do for other people. If you truly have God in your life, you undestand that suicide is never an option. I pray for your family Najai.

His death is tragic and i am sure his family will miss him. I just don't understand what makes him or his daughter for that matter any different from the thousands of others who commit suicide every year. What about a fund for all the children who lost a family member from suicide not just one individual? She is no different then they are. Because her father was on tv big deal.

I watched Najai's story tonight an rooted for him all of the way. He was a tough little soldier and I plan to contribute to the fund set up at JP Morgan for his daughter. I am disgusted to read some of the posts placed here referring to Najai Turpin as "selfish" or a "quitter". Someone's father is dead. This is not the place for your personal opinions on suicide. Have some respect. You do not know the mental health of this man or what deamons from his past may have been haunting him. I know what it's like to come from a tough background where the men expected to be hard and tough all of the time. Not everyone has the luxury of talking things through when, in the ghetto, that is considered to be a life-threatening form of cowardice or weakness for any man. May Najai rest in peace.

Najai may peace be with you and may God watch over your precious daughter. Dianna Watson, you posted a message earlier; it seems to me that might need someone to talk to. You can contact me @ natb@udel.edu. Keep your head up!

To Najai, I'm sorry you felt like you had no way out and all alone. God Bless you and your family. To the negative people in the world how dare you bash the one's that have passed and question the reasons why. Thou shalt not judge, for ye shall be judged upon. Please be kind, he does have a family and a beautiful daughter. They've been through enough. If you want to show what kind of a person you are, do it by your actions not by your words. Make a donation! Make a difference! God bless you and your family. Our god forgives...

This one brings tears to my eyes.

I just watched the show--what a shock, what a shock.

I hope he was saved.

I send my sincere condolences to his family and friends.

I just watched the episode of contender where Najai had his fight. I didn't know that he had killed himself. This comes as a great shock to me, as well as a great eye opener. I am a beginning boxer myself, and want nothing more than to become a pro boxer. I have nerve problems and have thought of suicide myself in the past. Najai's death has opened my eyes to the reality of what a dramatic effect a death can have on people around you. I didn't even know him but, while watching the fight I saw he was a great fighter and a great guy. I looked up to his skill, and was envious of the chance he got to be on Contender. I am extremely saddened by his death, and feel for his family and friends. I think that everyone should take a look at what happened, and look at themselves, and take whatever positives you can get from such a negative and tragic event. I know it has opened my eyes. And I think that the name calling and slander of the man should stop. No one can understand what happened, and why he did it but him, and he is gone now; so, leave the man alone and let him REST IN PEACE... My thoughts and prayers go out to all family and friends of Najai Turnpin, and to everyone who has somehow been touched by this trajedy....

Rest in Peace Najai.

You gave me a new perspective on things.

God Bless Your Family.

This world has a way of trying to trap all of us into believing lies about our own lives. I know two things to be true for this life, Christ is always with us, and no man is island onto himself. We as humans need each other
to lean on. My prayers go out to Najai's family. May the love of Christ give the family strength to pick up the pieces. To all contemplating suicide. Talk with someone you trust, seek counsel!!

I JUST GOT DONE WATCHING THE CONTENDER AND WAS INFORMED THE NAJAI DIED. I JUST WOULD LIKE TO SAY HOW SORRY I AM FOR THE DAUGHTER AND FAMILY OF NAJAI. I REALLY WISH HE WOULD HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT HIS DAUGHTER AND HOW MUCH HE CARED FOR HER AND HIS SUICIDE WOULD LEAVE HER WITHOUT A FATHER TO WATCH OVER HER. THE SAD THING IS THAT SHE IS SO YOUNG SHE PROBABLY WONT REALLY REMEMBER HIM AND THAT IS A TRAGIC THING . I HOPE EVERYONE IN THIS FORUM WILL PLEASE DONATE TO THE TRUST FUND EVEN IF YOU CAN ONLY AFFORD 1.OO BECAUSE SHE DESERVES THE CHANCE TO HAVE THE BEST LIFE SHE CAN . NAJIA I WISH SOMEONE COULD HAVE HELPED YOU . GOD BLESS YOU, I THINK YOU WOULD HAVE BEEN ONE OF THE GREATS AND NO QUESTION YOU WOULD HAVE BEEN AN OUTSTANDING FATHER .

listening to Najai speak moved a lot of people who watch the contender. he had a GREAT heart, but what happened????? nobody knows the reasons. anyone who is reading these messages has no idea how he felt or how much pain he had. and if you think you have or do seek real help. I agree with many that there was an alternative to this unfortunate event. we all pray for his family

god bless his soul, and family.... pls stay strong

"In loving memory of Najai Turpin." That was the blurb before the show started. My wife and I had no idea that one of the contestants passed away. My wife said "I think he committed suicide...", I asked why? "You can see it in his eyes..." She was right and i only found out when i googled Najai's name and lead me to this website. I'm still shocked. May he rest in peace and I know America and the rest of the world will take care of his daughter.

I believe that the loss of Najai has touched many people. He was a man that loved his daughter with all his heart. My prayers go out to his family.

I was just smiling a few minutes ago when I seen Najai running around the locker room and his little girl following right behind him. But when I seen the final comments of the show, I was heart broken. It is sad how someone such as Najai was taken from the people who loved him so much in such a sad way. People can only wish that they don't have to experience such a loss in a lifetime. To the family of Najai, god be with you. And to Najai, the same.

No one can judge Najai but God!

I am a counselor and work with adolescents like Najai, it was very obvious that he was a product of his environment and had several disorders. He had no one talk to and no one to turn to in his mind, he needed to be reached before he took matters into his own hands; but it went overlooked. If you listened to what he said the signs were there!! He had the heart of a champion but was struggling psychologically.

May God Bless his family and have mercy on his soul.

this is so sad and such a loss plz everybody plz pray for his soul to be in eternal happiness in heaven and lets pray that god forgives him of taking his own life so plz lord forgive this young soul he was only 23 plz lord we are begging for your help if he wasnt happy alive maybe he thought it wudve been better off without him, lord he had a sickness he didn't no wat to do lord plz forgive him and let him be happy with u in heaven.

Jason Davis has no idea what he is talking about.......I hate posts like that. You will never understand suicide and peoples thoughts until you have a gun to your head yourself. Period.

I don't even know you, and I am deeply touched. My heart goes out to you and your friends. May you find peace and forgiveness. May we all learn something from this tragic loss; tell those in your life you love them, hug them, kiss them, let those who are important to you know how much you care, every day, in every way.

This truly is one of lifes' most heartbreaking moments. My thoughts are with his beautiful little girl. God bless her. Najai RIP

I just wanted to say how shocked that I am to find out that such a good competitor had taken his own life. The stress that he had to deal with must have been too much to handle. My family and I send our blessing to his family,more so to his daughter.
I hope she lives a happy life dipute the horrible tragedy of her father.
God bless...

Najai.......my heart dropped!! My first viewing of the contender. What a shocker!!
I went from watching 60 minutes and seeing a society of sea nomads, who live without knowing their ages and not understanding the definition of want, to watching this program of fighters looking for recognition, respect, and rewards in pursuit of the American dream. Go figure? This, like many senerio's , are a result of a very competitive society ( which also makes us equally great ).
My deepest regrets go to his family and friends
Never give up to the challenges of life.
Battle hard like Najai........but don't give up!!

This is a person who "wanted to keep his word". It is a curse. The true honerable person, is a double edge sword. On one hand, they judge themselves by their word. On the other, they don't realize no one else honors their own. They think others think like them and are honerable. Yet, most are not. He killed himself because he thought he was less than most. Yet, he was greater than most.

Although a selfish act, this child has no fault. This child deserves the same opportunity now as she would if her father were still here to provide for her I hope everyone who visits this site donates something to the memorial fund to give this beautiful girl a chance that some will never see!!! God Bless Najai's family, and his gorgeous little girl!

Najai was a small fighter with a big heart ... I was rooting for him .. I wish he would of fought his demons like he fought hard in the ring .... My prayers are with his soul and his family

He was an inspiration

God bless you Najai, you will always be in my mind. Now i have a new outlook on life. God bless your family.\

nothing is impossible

Najai and the other men on the show are reconnecting this country with a powerful sport that depicts the strengths and passions of the human spirit. Many young men suffer coming of age and finding their way in the world. I lost my nephew Andy Krueger to suicide. Najai's daughter will forever miss her father. Najai clearly will be missed by many and at a young age gave much of himself (raising his sibling after his mother dised in 2000)and stuggling to overcome poverty and make his way in the world. This was a young man with promise who was just getting started. Never judge others - we should all support each other and try to create a world where someone doesn't feel so alone that they feel unable to reach out .. when they need it most. Prayers to all his family and friends.

Naji was a true fighter it's really sad to hear what happened. We all need to began to look further than the person and look at the need in a person's life. My prayers go out to his family, it seems this young brotha had alot to deal with in the beginning and being voted off the show may have been the breaking point in his life although we will never know the exact truth or reason why. If there are any words of encourgement that I would say to the family is GOD is with you all and TROUBLE DON"T LAST ALWAYS!!

Why.... do some of you have to belittle the guy further by calling him a coward or a quitter. I dont understand you people who think that a god is going to punish this man because of this. God is love... and he/she I like to say the Universe is embracing him and he is with his Mamma now. May you all find some peace in your harden hearts and not take his suicide so personally. It's pointless to attack another soul.

Thats all i have to say

To "Christian" who commented above. If you saw his last episode, you would see that he had a problem trusting anyone, perhaps he came in contact with too many PERFECT folks like yourself.

Najai was going through some things that many people think that they have went through and did not choose suicide. Every person is different. He may have been bi-polar as one person stated. He may have just been tired since he was the bread winner and wanted to win that million dollars to make his family members lives better. The plan did not work out and he could have felt that lost an opportuntity. Opportunities which can truly elevate a person to a desired level in life sometimes do not come an often and you must be ready to capatalize upon them.

- God Bless and rest in peace Najai.

I know we all must make a finale decision so in the what will we make. I just feel so heartbroken that such a good respectable man could see such a tragic end my heart and condolences goes out to his family my god bless his soul.

Our heart goes out to his family. I truly hope that other people learn from their terrible loss, that it is not worth throwing your life away. I feel by learning about his life, it shows that even the best of people have the lowest of points, but as low as life can get, it's still not worth taking your own life. God Bless his little daughter, wife, and family.
The Smokstad Family

My deepest condolences to Najai's loved ones during this time of grief.

I have enormous admiration for this young man who was placed in a corner, not only in the ring, but in life, to fend for himself and his family at such a young age. It hurts me to think that Najai's precious little girl will never know her father, and that Najai will never experience the joy of watching her grow up. His life was filled with so many struggles, it was just more than he could take. I pray that Najai's soul rests in peace, and that all those who are able to reach out and help his daughter, will make a contribution to the fund that has been set up for her at The Contender website.

Life is so fragile, so fleeting and so precious. Please, take the time in your busy lives to stop and listen to those who need a shoulder to lean on. Be it a family member, a friend or a stranger on the street. None of us, no matter how strong we appear to be, can make it through alone. No matter how tough or strong we are, like Najai, we are all Contenders, sweating it out one day at a time, to overcome and win our personal battles.

Najai, rest in peace. Amen.

none of us have the right to judge this man on the choices he made, we can only give support to the ones we love. this is a hard world to live in
even harder to live happy , some just dont see things getting better and its to much. i know because for a long while i thought like this ,but
family and friends got envolved... i owe them all!!!!! R.I.P. NAJAI TURPIN

id liek to say that NT was my favourite boxer on the contender and even tho he didnt win he was the best one out there he is an awesome fighter and a great father its horrible to hear about what has happened i hope his family stays strong and look at NT as a good man with lots of courage! he is and always will b number one in our hearts! RIP ..may your family see brighter days ..your daughter is beautiful

Tonight was the first time I seen the show "The Contender". What a great show, and hats off to the producer of the show to allow this episode of Najai and his family to still air. If it wasn't for that decision, none of us would ever know who Najai was or what kind of a person Najai was and how important his little girl, and family, is to him. As I watched the show and learned about Najai and his family, I was pulling for him to win the fight. It was hard to see him lose the fight. My heart goes out to Najai and his family. My heart also goes out to the fighter that beat Najai.

I fell inlove with Najai when I saw him on the contender. I cried when he cried after the fight. I saw a man with a lot of spirit! His daughter was adorable, too. If only he could see what everyone else could see!

Kara from Texas

In this world we try so hard at what we love that when we loose at it kills us inside. Weather that would be a sport or just trying to make your family surrvive. Taking your life is not the answer to failing at a task. You just need to get back on the horse and ride agian. Some people
think that death is the easier way out of it, not realizing what they leave behind. If everyone gave up after being rejected there would be no one
left on the planet. I belive that everyone is delt
a certian hand in life and you just have to play it. Things happen for a reson and we all just have to get threw them one step at a time.

My Prayers go out to the family and friends of Najai and may God have mercy on his soul. R.I.P.

In all our troubles and turmoil we should believe Najai's words and realize that God has a beautiful plan for all of us. He said that God has great plans for him....pray for him and bring peace to those that knew him.

I was really cheering Najai on...
When this young man lost the fight, he put on a cheerful face but deep inside he must have felt like a real loser! He had struggled with very serious issues for a young man to have to face. The loss of his mother! The huge responsibility of helping to rear his siblings, a young child to raise, relationship problems, the sudden shot at fame and then when he lost the fight the depression just must have taken over. Depression is a serious illness that requires medical attention. If any of you know someone who is depressed convince them to seek help. All praise be to the Lord Jesus Christ, He Is Risen!
Shel Toth

What a shame! He went on the show to give his daughter a better life, now she's fatherless! What kid of life has he left her now.

Rest in peace Najai. He was one of my favorite Contenders, I was really sad when he got beat in the round but horrified when I realized that he had passed away at such a young age. It makes you realize that no matter how much money you have we all fight our own personal demons. I have lost two brothers in my life and my sympathy goes out to his family and friends. We are in no place to judge another person, so save the negative comments and just pray for him to rest peacefully with God.

I watched the show dedicated to Najai, and it broke my heart. I can’t imagine having to cope with such a loss in the public eye. My heart goes out to the Turpin family.

To those posting about "selfishness", you should be ashamed of yourself. I survived the loss of my father several years ago when he took his own life. Life does go on. Ironically, my father is more here for me now than he could ever be when he was alive. Now that's faith...

I am in shock he was my favorite contender. I was really hoping to see him in the near future.

May his daughter know that millions of people around the world knew her father as a kind and gentle man. He was respected and he portrayed himself like a real man facing defeat in the face. May she know that he was admired by many for going after his dreams despite the cards he was dealt with. My prayers go out to his wife and daughter. May God be with you during this terrible ordeal.

we commit Najai to your keeping oh lord, his body have been taken from the shadow of our night, he has been released from all darkness and pain, he has gone beyond our world.he is forever eternal and everlasting. why are the innocent punished. why the sacrifice, why the pain. there arent any promises. nothings certain. only that some get called. some get saved. he wont ever feel the hardship and grief for those left behind.He is no longer of this painfull world . amen

being a father of two girls, this is a hard subject for me . i know myself personally, could never conceive of such a thing knowing what i would miss out on in seeing, taking part in, or even hearing about my children. I will pray for the Family.

Najai’s death was vastly more than a “waste of talent” as a contributor commented. Irrespective of his education, color, neighborhood, or perceived failure on his part after the fight, he had a future. His kind-heart and character as evidenced by taking care of his family upon losing his mother in 2000 resounds much more loudly than his “talent” as a boxer. Indeed, there is a vast difference in “feeling” like a failure and actually being one. Sadly, too many of us macho dudes die prematurely because of bottling these "perceived" failures in for fear of letting very normal stuff come out. It sure is sad. Prayerfully, this will be a lesson for anyone bordering on making such an irrational decision such as suicide. May God’s strength prove continually more than sufficient during this tragic and painful time in his family’s life – especially his little girl. 'If a man should learn from losing, it ought to never be considered a loss.' -B. Jett

Peace

My thoughts and prayers are with the family of Najai Turpin. I read about his death even before I started watching the series. I'm more upset with the people that have placed such cruel words on this message board than anything else. I was always taught judge not less ye be judge. Know one knows what pain and heartache Najai was going through. No one had Najai's feelings. He had a big responsibility placed on his shoulder. In his eyes, he failed. Who knows, maybe if he had won his match, he would still be with here today. But we are not God, therefore, we don't know if winning the match would have made a difference. I'm glad that the people that are leaving these cruel messages are so perfect that they've never done anything wrong in their lives that they would even consider suicide or murder or robbery or anything of that nature. I'm not God, therefore, I will not judge Najai.

My husband and I just watched the episode of the Contender in which Najai lost his match. We were not worried about why he took his life, we wanted to know if there was anything that we could do. There is something that we all can do. We can make contribution for Najai's daughter to make sure that she has a better life. So while all of you sanctimonious people are critizing Najai for his actions, please be sure to send funds to take care of his child so that the streets will not have to. You seem so concerned about her, then make sure that she never has to suffer a day in her life. If her biological father is not here to take care of her, then all the rest of you can do it for him. My husband and I will be making our contribution, how about you?

Najai may you now be at peace. We serve a God that is all knowing, all powerful and omnipresent. You are now in HIS tender loving care. HE will take care of your child. Rest in peace.

I've read some commits said. I'm so sorry that one of my kind made a choice that he felt was right to take. We cant judge that young man just by reading what he have done. Most people said in thier tributes "I'll pray for you" but I'm really going to pray for his family and especially to his beautiful little girl and his loving and caring girlfriend. I'm only 15 years old, when I grow up to be a father, I pray that God would lead and guide me through the way. My love goes out to his family and I hope the best for his little daughter's future, also to his beautiful girlfriend. May God Bless

My deepest sympath to his daughter his girlfriends. Najai sounded like a very nice person a very strong competitor with huge heart. What went wrong. I wish he only thought of his daughter as he was hlding that gun to his head. I can't get rid of the pictures in my head of him running around in the locker room with his daughter chasing him. I wish he looked backa d thought of all the good times he has had with his daughter and the only time I saw a genuine smile on his face was when he was looking at his daughter. Rest in peace Najai and I hope your daughter will one day find some one who will explain to her why his dad took his own life, and we can only hope that she will understand and forgive and continue to love him because ther is no doubt n my mind he loved his daugter, this is a young guy who had a huge responsiblity.

My prayers go out to you and your daughter and may your soul R I P Najai Turpin

A fan who was looking forward to the future of watching your fights... STAR

It is so sad and unfortunate. Such a nice young man.

Just learned of Najai's dead today at the end of the program.

Felt the same strange sadness one feels when we lose a loved one.

My heart goes out to his little girl, his wife and all fo his family. RIP.

How can anyone say that we can't judge him? The judgement is already in!

My sincere condolenceses to Najai's family and most od all the little daughter he left behind. I just finished watching the contender and i couldn't believe that he took his own life; we can't really judge him, wedon't know what he was going through. May you rest in peace Najai you fought tough and like you said in the contender came short, but I personally was so proud of how you fought. RIP.

I just watched the show, unaware that Najai had taken is life prior to the show airing. I must say, it was extremley hard for me to belive that a young man with so much heart would let life's struggles weigh so heavy on him. This episode has changed my perpective(s) on life. My heart poors out to his Family and close Friends. Sometimes GOD exposes people to reality to PUT US IN CHECK! R.I.P Najai

May God bless all of those who showed their respects whether good or constructive.

I was *so* saddened to hear about Najai's death tonight at the end of the Contender. I cried when he lost the fight, and couldn't *believe* he had died when I heard the news. I felt so sad, almost as if I knew him. I hope he is in God's loving arms right now, and I wish his family love and peace in this time of grief.

Suicide is painless except for all those left behind. I too have struggled with what I percieved as a hopeless existance with nothing better in the future. I also have a young Daughter and leaving her to wonder why her Father was murdered by her Father will have a lasting effect on her and her whole family. I hope she can have peace and contentment in her life despite this tradgedy. I still struggle with these demons on a daily basis. God loves me and taking my life would be stealing from my creator. May God bless all those left to deal with the reality of this desperate act. I also hope Najai is finally at peace. Trust in God!

Najai Turpin, you will always be seen in your daughter's smile. You were a great fighter whose struggles outside the ring proved to be more than one man could handle. May the love for your daughter be felt by her on earth until you meet again in Heaven

My best wishes go out to Najai's beautiful daughter during this time of grief. A lost life can be so hard to deal with especially the way Najai's was lost. May God be with his family and close friends and may Najai rest in peace.

i really felt sad after the episode where najai had to fight. i was really cheering for him because he reminded me of me in some ways of thinking. i thought he dealt with the loss pretty well towards the end of the show and couldn't understand the reason for him committing suicide. i felt my heart drop. i just wanted to cry for him. i just wish we could get to the bottom of this so i, like everyone else that liked this wonderful person, can find out what really drove him to commit suicide. only then can all those that cared about him move on. as for those who don't know him to call him a coward, you have no reason to do that. he was a wonderful person and although we wish he had not done that to himself, it was a mistake he made that can't be reversed.

Najai, you were a great person. may GOD rest your soul. GOD bless. i will never forget you. i feel like i lost a brother. i really wish you hadn't done that. you had a bright future ahead of you. love you man.

god bless najai turpin

To Mr. Najai Turpin and his beautiful daughter,
The struggle of a college educated or uneducated black man is real and alive all over the world. As I watched the the young man interview about his distrust issues and also mourn about his loss---unwittingly confessing to his young daughter that he "broke his promise"--so disturbed and not understanding that his daughter didn't know the difference between a loss and a win--I felt and saw the Turmoil in Mr. Turpin's voice and body language. Even though Mr Turpin stated that he only looks into his opponent's eyes in the ring, he was unable to do this on Fight Night. As a black professional man, I am here to tell all young black men that the struggle is long and hard no matter what road you choose to take. Yes, supporting a family, let alone yourself, in an upstanding way is very difficult when you feel like no one will give you an inkling of a chance. Just to inform every young man, no matter the ethnicity, there are always other options--please get help (it's out there) if you feel like there's no hope. I am really saddened by this event because I have struggled and strived very hard all my life and at age 30 y/o I still struggle. Maybe I got a lucky break and maybe one day that break could belong to you. Yes, incidents have happened like this before on other reality shows, so now is the time to do something about it. Yes a solution to the problem is deemed necessary. A true characteristic of young boxers, i.e. young Mike Tyson, young Mohammed Ali, and yes young Najai Turpin are usually born into a poverty stricken, disfunctional background. Thus I feel that it should be necessary not to flash 1 million dollars in front all those young individuals face, Give them the "Good Life" as rewards and take it away if they lose. That would be devastating to the average middle class american, let alone a person that is classified as indigent. I feel like shows of this type "contender" where contestants don't have anything to fall upon if they lose--should be set up with a professional trainer so they can hope to return to professional fighting level one day in the future. Give the Contestants Hope of returning to the ring as a contender in BIG RING--Don't just turn them out. Unlike the Apprentice, These Individuals are "fired" but return to their plush education and background--thus "hope" of future success is always there. I Love both shows, but there is a distinct difference between the two. My heart goes out to the daughter and I think that it great that a trust fund has been set up, but an intervention has to take place in order prevent the deaths of other contestants on all future reality shows.

What a tragedy. We saw his charm, his charisma, his dedication and his talent. My heart goes out to the entire family, and espeically to the daughter, i'm certain he died loving her. The most important thing is to pray he gets to a better place where he can watch over her forever.

May god bless your daughter and family

I just watched The Contender and found out about Najai's tragic death. He had such a strong bond and a loving relationship with his daughter, Anyae. My fiance' and I watched the show tonight and she could not stop crying. It's extremely sad to see his beautiful daughter grow up without her father. My heart goes out to his family. I will pray for you Najai....rest in peace man. You can donate money to his daughter by going to the web site WWW.contender.yahoo.com. I hope whatever I can give (money)will help his family.

I know life seems like it is not going to get better sometimes, but why not see if another day will bring happiness. When times are tough don't act on impulse, and please take the time to think about the people that really care about you. If only he saw something in himself that others seen. I know this show would of opened up doors for him so he could provide the life he wanted for his family. MY heart goes out to Najai's family and friends, and I hope he is looking down on all of us that care about him and showing that beautiful smile. We love you Najai. Rest in peace.

I just wish he hadn't of done it infront of his daughter. Reports have her being in the car when he shot himself. I just finished watching the show in which he fought......so sad. I will be donating to her fund because she deserves to have a wonderful life. What a little sweetheart.

T-man with the post from 3/7/05, you are such an ass hole. So ingnorant. You can see how much he loved his daughter. He barely if ever even mentioned his girlfriend. All he talked about was the love for his daughter. If you've never felt suicidal, and pulled thru, you cant judge that man, and what he was going thru. His relationship was so called rocky at the time with his girl, i want to know what they talked about when he killed himself. I cant understand why he would do it in the car, outside of his gym. Something they talked about must have drove him to it, so quick he couldnt think about his daughter. The gun was probally there b/c he was carjacked before the show started taping. May God bless him and his daughter, and anyone else who loved him.

I agree with "Christian" to an extent.
And yes, the judgement is already in...
Everyone needs to stop tring to figure out if he needs praised for being a hero or condemed for committing the "unforgivable sin". Its already done, and we dont know...
Now everyone needs to pray for his daughter and family. They are the ones left behind to pick up the pieces.
Pray for THEM!!

My thoughts and prayers goes out to the family of Najai Turpin. He seemed to have been a good person and a great fighter. He lived a tough life and made a desperate choice. My heart aches for his daughter. I pray that she grows up to realise that we all have choices, our job is to hand pick the right from the wrong. May God bless and keep that sweet baby girl, her mama, his siblings, other relatives and close friends. God only knows whats around the corner when we could only see what's right in front of our faces. Im sorry that for that young, talented man, he couldn't handle what was in front of him. Please lord have mercy on his soul.

To Najai's daughter : Your Daddy is with our creator, where there is no more pain for him.
Sweetheart, your daddy loved your very much and I am sure he didn't really want to leave you.
My heart goes out to you and your family. Just remember he lives on in your heart and your memories.
May Jehovah bless and keep you.

Let God be the judge of this young man. No mere mortal has this right. Remember "He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone" John 8:7. Don't be so quick to point a finger at others, unless you're understand that three are pointed back at yourself. Please show more compassion than this.
This man's family, whether immediate or through the televised episode of his fight has been affected. We all have lost a little part of ourselves because of this tragedy. He was a brother, a father, a lover, and although he stated he was more of a loner, he had to have, at one point in life, been someone's friend.
I pray that he has found peace now for he will be surely missed. This quite evident through all of the tributes made on this site.

P.S. Please love one another. Brighten someone's day by saying I LOVE YOU. You never can tell how just one smile from you can make all the difference in another person's day. Put the differences aside, life's too short, we need to live it to the fullest and laugh a lot.

Everyone needs to stop and pray for this young mans soul. That someday his daughter will be able to see him again. And in the meantime, that she has everything she needs to lead a happy and healthy life.
No one has the right to judge his acts. Examine yourself before you start calling names and pointing fingers.
Praise God on this Palm Sunday! May God have mercy on us all on judgement day!

No matter what, I forgive and love Najai and his family. I don't know them, but the show proved to me that he was beautiful and so is his family. May God bless your soul and keep it in peace. May He watch over your daughter and bless her with eternal love and happiness on this Earth and in Heaven.

I saw the Contender episonde early this evening and can not believe that someone so young could have done such a thing. It seemed as though he understood that his heart and soul was meant for his daughter. My heart goes out to his wife and daughter.

To his daughter: As you grow up, embrace the love from those around you. It may be tough at times trusting others but face that fear and accept the good in everyone. You are a beautiful girl, love comes from within not the material things around you!

Damn, I wanted you to win that fight! Like they say a coward dies a million times, a soldier only dies once. You proabably grew up hearing that, and it's true. You could have been something...
RIP

Najai:
How precious you are; I hope now you can feel the love you couldn't feel here on earth. Some say you are selfish, but this was a desperate act. No one has the right to judge you. Anger is just hurt turned inside out. My prayers are with your family, but most of all for your sweet, innocent daughter. Although, she will be looked after financially, and emotionally, no amount of money can ever make the emptiness of her father's absence go away. May God send his angels to guide and protect her. My husband commited the same act a few weeks before you, and when my daughter comes to me in tears because "she misses her Daddy" I relive that day over and over and over. I plead with all people, to show more compassion for our fellow neighbors...we never know how far a simple smile, kind word or deed will go. Compassion can change our world and tragedies like these.

Best Regards....

Obviosly he must have been planning this because he had a gun.I had a girlfriend in high school whose mother and father were going through a seperation.One night he showed up at the door and when she answered he shot himself in front of them both without warning.I guess he thought his life was so bad that he wanted to get some satisfaction in destroying theirs.What a shame he probably would have had as many new girlfriends he could have handled once the show aired.What a waste.Tragic very tragic.

THIS IS TO YOUR DAUGHTER: YOU MAY NOT UNDERSTAND AND MAY NEVER WILL;BUT YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER IS HERE TO EASE YOUR PAIN AND HOLD YOU TIGHT AND ROCK YOU WHEN YOU ARE NEED HIM. I PRAY ONE DAY YOU KNOW GOD IF YOU DONT ALREADY. JUST ASK HIM INTO YOUR LIFE AND ACCEPT HIM AS YOUR SAVIOR. OH SWEET LITTLE ONE, I PRAY NOW HE HOLDS YOU WRAPPED IN HIS BLANKET OF LOVE FOREVER. I WILL ALWAYS KEEP YOU AND YOUR DADDY IN MY PRAYERS.

Najai, I am sorry for the way that this world is. I am sorry that you and your family were not as fortunate as others. I am sorry about those who will judge you without knowing anything about your troubles. I will pray for you and your family. I watched the show, you put on a great fight... May judgement day come soon so that young man and women don't have to suffer the cruelty and selfishness of this "civilized" world. God bless you and your family...

Let's stop with the drama!

People die everyday in this world. He chose the time and place for his ending. He has created a very big problem for his daughter. He was not a "great man." He was a man with issues and he chose not to face them.

I have heard some say that suicide is the unforgivable sin because once you commit it, technically you have no chance to pray for your forgiveness. This drives me to unfathomable levels of sadness, especially when I hear of stories like that of Najai...

Everyone, please, let us pray for Najai's salvation since he cannot do it himself at the moment...and let us pray for his girlfriend, his family, and his beautiful daughter, who will hopefully understand one day that her daddy's love for her will be unchanging and forever...

...and to those of you who may be angry at Ms. Chapple for supposedly setting Najai off, or at Najai himself for "giving up" on his responsibilities: I know it is hard, but please do not give in to this hatred

I pray that Najai has found peace and that he is able to watch over his family and give them the love and support he so desperately wanted to give. He will live on through his beautiful little girl and I hope she can find the strength and courage to embrace life for all it's beauty. A fund has been set up to help support her: www.yahoo.contender.com.

God Bless and show love freely and openly to your family, friends, neighbors and enemies.

My boss committed suicide about one year ago. He left behind a wife, twins and a newborn. Everyone in the community couldn’t believe he would leave them left behind. Why would someone do that to their family? Hopeless. No way out but heaven.
Who’s never thought about it? If you haven’t, you’ve never experienced hardships. That is life though. I’ve thought about suicide plenty of times. The one thing that always stops me, is imagining the even greater hardships of my family, and them asking why.
That’s what makes us human, the decisions we are able to make about life.
Don’t banish Najai to hell for what he did. Life is a struggle for most of us, and sometimes it just gets worse than better, but never end it. There is someone out there who loves you, and will help you through those tough times.
May you rest in peace Najai. I will pray for you and everyone else who’s felt hopeless, because we all have. Peace Brother.

How very very sad. To those of you who felt it appropriate to be judgmental, I hope God Blesses you because you need it.

To any out there who feel so alone, please talk to someone. No one is ever alone.

I believe that Najai wasn't alone, God was with him the whole time. Contribute to his family and feel good about yourself. Be thankful for what you have.

Najai represents everything that is good is this world. He was a soft-spoken, hard-working, respectable man. I pray for his family, and Najai. Thank you, Gregorio NYC

This was such a big tragedy. Najai was such a good fighter and had a 2 year old daughter to live for. But my prayers go out to his family
R.I.P Najai "Nitro" Turpin

Father, Brother, Fighter, Heart...These are only a few words that describe a person like Najai. I saw determination in him. I liked him; Najai took a challenge and wasnt afraid of it. I knew how he felt about balancing things in life. I too have to take care of two houses and make time for academics and dance. Boxing is an art and boy, did Najai know how to express himself. When I saw the episode of his fight, I felt his ending words. I cried. Najai only spoke of the truth. His heart was full of passion and joy for the sport of boxing; I thought that he'll make a come back. The kid had power; The kid had talent, but what beats everthing is heart, and he had that more than anyone out on his team and the other team combined. I wish he didn't make that choice that day. I know that his little girl is too small to remember what a wonderful father he was, but she will always see him on the show. She will remember what a big heart her daddy had.
Najai had to fight all his life, and at the end, the fight got him.
R.I.P Najai Turpin a.k.a Turbo, a.k.a Inspiration, a.k.a Golden Heart.
In honor of his memory, I would like to say his ending speech of "Contender" to my fellow team mates in presentation. I know it would touch many hearts, as it did mine.
God Bless Your Baby Girl, Wife and Family.
Najai, A WINNER TO US ALL !!!
WE LOVE YOU !!!

I was deeply saddened this evening to learn of the untimely death of "Nitro." My heart felt condolences go out to his family and to the person he cared for most of all his daughter. I'll keep all of you in my prayers during this sad time in ones lives. No words can even come close to explaining the tragedy that is the death of a loved one. If nothing else know the He is smiling down upon you all as you read this. Again my deepest sorrows, and god bless you all.

My prayers go to Najai's daughter.I was cheerin for him during the fight, I hope one day you see your father again in heaven. I also hope you understand your father was a good man. He would have been a great fighter, and hopefully you will carry out his dreams of becoming successful. I pray for you Najai, I am sorry you weren't as fortunate as others, but glad you made it so far.

R.I.P.

To nittro najai turpin you will be greatly missed by all those who knew and you and all those who wished they could have gotten the chance your perils in life are unkown to us and what you were thinking when you did it will always be a mystery but for those who have posted negative comments you have no idea what anyone else thinks but yourself so keep your opinion on what kind of person and what kind of act this was to yourself and spare all the caring people around the world the indignity of having to read the bull sh!t that you post najai you will be a great inspiration to many people around the world and more so to me such a great young man faced troubles many only have nightmares about and was a ferocious fighter in the ring and a loving man outside the ring you will be greatly missed you and your family and your daughter are forever and always in my prayer GOD BLESS

We feel sad. But, one can never fully understand what goes on the in innermost thoughts of another. Was it an impetuous decision or one that was one that he nursed in solace...we will never know. Our thoughts go out to his family.

R.I.P. Najai! I've got the biggest respect for you eventhough I whoop your ass in the ring. Much love brother!

God Bless You and Your Family Najai. I will pray for him and his family. When Najai was fighting Sergio on the contender, he was the best fighter I have ever seen. Something happened where he shut down after the 3rd round. The rounds he won contained the best boxing definetly on the show from Najai. Not only was he all heart but he took punches like they were nothing. He was the toughest and best fighter without a doubt. If something wouldn't have happened where he stopped he would have won the fight and the show. It is a tradegy to lose a fighter and a man like him.

GOD bless those who he left to mourn. May you find peace along the way and may Najai find the peace he sought. "To be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord."

I was extremely shocked and saddened when i found out about Nitro's death. My prayers go out to the Turpin Family and Najai's daughter. God Bless

He thought he had it bad? If he could only have known the feeling that his daughter and girlfriend may now have now that they are fending for themselves. Suicide is a selfish act that shifts sorrow from one side to another - very sad.

I had no idea that it even happened...until the end of the show. I was already going to look up information on him online because I know how much he wanted to win for his daughter, for her to have a better life. Here's the information I was looking for, before I heard of his death. Perhaps others will also want to contribute to a trust set up for the Anyae Chapple:
http://contender.tv.yahoo.com/01/fighters/najai.html

What a tragedy. Unfortunatly, suicide is both selfish and executed with such disregard to those left picking up the pieces. We wish the best for the daughter he left behind.

You will be remembered...

I just got finished watchin the episode where they announced najais death and after i heard i felt much sorrow for him and his family and i just hope he rests in peace... najai much love and god bless you

Man that is truly sad hopefully Najai did it for a reason he so thought he had to however for others in his position dont end ur life because it just seems like it was done becasue he thought it was his last chance the road is very long but it does come to a sweet end one day but let god be the judge of that. My prayers go out to Najais family and daughter but most of all To Najai himself may god have mercy on his soul

I hear all this pray this, pray that and that is all good for those who blindly see the truth. The family suffers, his associates suffer, his fans suffer and in turn offer compassion and tolerance toward his action. Suicide is never an option, it is a straight on firm choice. He chose the way out he could, but does it make it right. To me, no. To others, maybe. For everyone else affraid to say anything but the black or white issue of right or worng, it is a tradegy. Lets think of the word tradegy and how it is used freely throughout this blog and world. 5 million native americans slaughtered for lan, that is a tradegy. Millions of jews,gypsies, and gays are killed and persecuted, that is a tradegy. 200,000 plus killed in the latest tsunami wrath, that is a tradegy. A man who talked the game, talked about his daughter openly with love, was suppose to be about heart and honor, but for reason of personal doubt, dishonesty, and trouble, selfishly ended his life so his daughter will grow up fatherless. NOT A TRADEGY!.....

Dear Najai,

I am sending you a warm comforting prayer, because you are out there longing for your child now and you know you have made a terrible mistake. You will meet her again. You will hold her again. It will be awhile and you will touch souls again. You must let go of your terrible act and be free. What a beautiful soul, a beautiful light. Your heart touched my life. May you rest in the arms of God and know peace. I am so sorry you left your little girl here. You did not know really how glorified you are in her eyes.
Rest in Peace.

Najai represents everything that is good is this world. He was a soft-spoken, hard-working, respectable man. I pray for his family, and Najai. I hope I can make millions one day, so I can donate alot of money to his family. Thank you, Greg NYC

dude...Najai, man i just feel your pain, not being able to trust those around you. Everyone seems to be nothing but shadows in a time of grief and dissapointment. But i wish you were still with us, but your not and it was your time to go, you inspired me with your courage and the power of your heart, you have reasons for committing suicide and i won't ever judge you because of that, it was your choice and i respect that and i respect you, my heart goes out to your love ones and your daughter. GOD BLESS

R.I.P
Najai Turpin
aka NITRO

FIRST OF ALL,MAY GOD BLESS HIS SOUL.WHAT GAVE HIM THE THOUGHT TO KILL HIMSELF.ON THE SHOW HE SEEMDED THAT HE LOVED HIS DAUGHTER SO MUCH.BUT THERE WAS A WEIRD LOOK IN HIS EYES AFTER HE LOST THE FIGHT.I DIDNT THINK ANYTHING OF IT.AFTER THE SHOW THE "IN MEMORY OF" I KNEW.MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS GO TO IS LOVED ONES.GOD BLESS....RIP

Najai
You had it in you to survive I just watched you and in my mind you would have been ine of the greatest. Although I never watch boxing before the Contender I say in you I saw a heart of gold when you looked at your daughter. I hope that you have found some peace and trust that you so deserve. As someone who has suffered from deppression for many years I can understand your pain but, I can't see leaving such a beautiful daughter and loving spouse behind. I hope you are finally happy and that your daughter has a wonderful life even though you are not in it.
My heart goes out to you and your family and may your soul be at rest.
With love always

Najai will always be remembered as a great, humble fighter... who only cared about his family and their well being. Why he would take his life, I don't know. Najai was one of my favorites on the show, even though I am from the west. He will be missed forever.

My prayers go to Najai's family and daughter. GOD BLESS.

Najai - We will take care of your daughter.

i know you can see this Najai, I miss you so much it makes me cry. I can only say close your eyes and make a wish because we can only celebrate what you did for us. I submit to you and i will do anything for you and i hope you always smile in heaven for me. I miss you so much. U are my Hero

Like someone else said, suicide is a solution to a temporary problem! This makes me soooo mad! My heart goes out to his daughter and his wife! How can a father do this to his daughter, his wife, his family??? Its just not fair to all the people that loved him, through good times and bad! I guess he didnt realize that and took his own life....stupid!! Life deals ALL of us bad times, headaches, heartaches, whatever the case may be, but deal with it, learn from it and move on!

My heart goes out to the family he left behind. He really blew it! Think twice if you are thinking about doing it, because believe it or not, people DO care and love you! At a young age, I guess Najai didnt realize that!

Wow, this was a shocker, one minute we were enjoing watching these amazing young men fighting then the other minute the shows over and we hear the news on TV. Why? Only God know his destiny and it happened so soon. If you read his BIO he was robbed at gun point, then he gets a letter at home from the Contender, everyhting happens for a reason. We just hope and pray that his family continues to be stong and proud of their father, husband, friend we all will miss even thought I nor my partner knew...

Najai had wing in the ring. Now he has wings with God. May you rest in peace. For Najai's family,
our prayers are with you.

Good Fighter,i loved to see him fight.

When enetering a competition like this where the world is promissed to you,it can easily crash down after being defeted,when all that you counted on was to be the remaing one,the champ!

I seriously spit on the show for picking one winner,unsted they should see the potential in these young fighters and offer them all a legitame chance and a contract.....what is it all about?about the f**** ratings and the money that the networks and the producers make!

If they care so fuckin much about his death than why don't they just give his family the milion that they promised to a winner,and not ask us normal people to contribute to his fund....

They should all be ashamed of them selves.

They are all just trying to make a quick buck....

Im very shocked by the loss of a VERY GOOD! young boxer. He has alot of heart and will and that made him such a good fighter! im not a boxer but always wanted to be one. God bless the Turpin family and his beautiful daughter! May the lord take care of najai and watch over his family! He's in a better place now. God Bless.

Temo Liquigan
San Jose,California

My heart goes out to Najai's family and friends. May God Bless each of you to go on with your lifes and know that he is the one for you when you are feeling sad and down as Najai's must have felt in order to have done something so tragic. For those of you that have chosen to judge the actions of this young man, I pray that you'll never have to face such saddness as he was going through in order to do this. Instead of judging his actions why don't you just pray for the others that are out here feeling the same way as he did.

I feel so sad for his daughter and his girlfriend. Just remember you can make it threw this. Everyone is thinking about you two and his family. My thoughts and prayers are with you and wish all the best for his daughters and wifes future.

Najai, you are a brave man, a loved man and a good father to your daughter. Your daughter will always love you. I am so sorry you left us. May you find peace in heaven with God.

It is terribly sad. It is easy to see how Najai might have perceived his Nationally Televised boxing match loss as tantamount to his being a loser. Absurd, irrational, short-sighted? I suppose. But it sure seems that the devil will often use simple discouragement as a destructive weapon. God forbid anyone reading of his actions should judge him posthumously. The guy was a winner, he just didn't know it yet. God's grace and love be with his daughter and family.

total shock and saddness. Knots in my stomach and tears in my eyes my prayers go out to his family and friends.

very sad in Los Angeles, California

I' WAS VERY SADDEN TO HEAR ABOUT "NITRO"!
MY HEART GOES OUT TO HIS DAUGHTER, AND FAMILY! I CRIED WHEN I HEARD THE NEWS,,,,, LIFE IS SO PRECIOUS . WE NEED TO LEARN TO ENJOY EACH DAY,LOOK AT THE POSITIVE SIDE OF THINGS.
PARIS

East or West doesn't matter as a person Najai tried his best to step up and take the challenges from life i wish him the best and all his family he is now upstairs at a better place now god bless him

Prime

I really didn't like boxing, until watching the Contender, and being introduced to Najai Turpin and the other boxers. When Suger Ray announced that Najai had died I yelled at the tv "NO! Not another
child growing up without a father." Everyone please
go to the contender.tiv.yahoo.com site and donate to Anyae Chapple's Trust, anything, check, money order,
something. God rest his soul and watch over Anyae...

We are very saddened to hear that Najai chose
to end his life. We will pray for his Widow and little girl as well as the rest of his family.
He was a good Boxer and a loving Dad. So sorry.

I wish family best and hope that his family be alright. May God Bless you all.

3/20/05, tonights contender episode showed the true najai. he was so focused, determined and brave. it also showed a human side to him that displayed hardship and reward toward his life. he was so unbelievably loving toward his daughter before and after the fight. najai fought a courageous fight tonight, but sergio did win...but he had to work real hard for that win. during the end of the show, my five year old little girl was sitting on my lap and she began to cry when sugar ray was giving a heartfelt tribute to najai. that got to me and i began thinking about his little girl. it's great that the contender is setting up a trust fund for her. god bless his little girl and rest in peace champ, from a contender fan named lennie

Najai,

Sorry you couldn't get help in time to change your mind. You must have felt so down. It must have been so hard to justify to yourself why you couldn't stay around for your little girl. But don't worry about her, the show will collect money for her from me and from a lot of other kind people who liked your fighting spirit. I don't understand why people want to box, but I respect that it takes everything you have to do that. Like you said after the fight, you left everything in the ring. I would have liked to read about you in the future, but instead, maybe I'll read about your little girl and how you helped her by winning our hearts. Sly if you should read this, he really did have that Rocky Spirit. All the best to Sergio and his family too. Good night.

I am deeply SADEN for his little girl, and for Najai feeling like there is no way out.

my prayers go out to najai wife i feel her pain of having to raise her daugeter up at such a young age. may god give her strength to carry on for her child and i hope she will give always tell her daughter what a wonderful father najai was to her. unfortunaly his pain was to unbearable to handle. may god bless najai's wife and daughter and family.

YOU ARE ALWAYS MY CHAMPION WHENERVER YOU ARE ON THE SKY YOU ARE THE BEST STAR.

I'm deeply hurt and saddend after wathching this episode of the "Contender". I wish that there could have been a strong Christian male presence in Najai's life. One that could have ministered life to this young brotha'. Been the example that he needed to fight the good fight of faith, faith in the Lord and Savior of the world...Jesus Christ! He could have made it, ya'll! Your fought hard young brotha' and may God have mercy on your soul! "Lord, bless Najia's daughter that she may grow up in the knowledge of You so that when she is old she will not depart from it! Amen"

I just finished watching "The Contender" and I'm still shocked as to the news of Najai's death. Aside from Alfonso, I really took a liking to Najai because, thus far, he had seemed like the most genuine individual on the show. I'm saddened by his taking his life. It's unfortunate that some people can sit and play the blame game when someone commits suicide. His pain must have been profound and I feel terrible for his family. May he rest in peace and regardless of what some might believe, I believe God holds him now and offers him all of the support he's always desired. God bless you up in heaven.

Sorry D.J. bravery is the quality in one that can dare, challenge, and endure. I agree that Najai was a good fighter, a great team-player, and even troubled. However these qualities need to also be present inside the home and within the family unit.

Keep in mind, people that are troubled leave an open door for Satan's works to enter. I believe that suicides is a result of Satan's accomplishments and victories. We must always be willing to stand and fight.

GOD bless all that Najai left behind. ALL of us are in the same boat here on earth. We're all in this together.

The only one to lose is a little girl who will never again have her daddy give her hugs and kisses.

damn that sux he killed himself.he lookd so happy with his daughter

It is a tragedy to loose such a good soul. May God forgive Najai for all he knew not, and may God forgive us for not knowing his pain. I pray that our Heavenly Father will continue to comfort and be with his family always with endless blessings. May Anyae always feel the warmth of our Heavenly Fathers love. My condolences to Najai's loved ones.

Najai was never a contender. He didn't even give any thought about anyone but himself.

God has a plan and Najai fit into that plan. If Najai's actions educate, and enlighten us then he has touched and made a difference in all of our lives. He has touched my soul. I send love out to his family both biological and boxing as well as his beautiful daughter.

Peace be with you Young man

Najai I have so much respect for you...I was cheering for you on that fight ..I really wanted you to win. I don't know why you did it..u had so much talent and a reason to become the best...you will be missed and remembered...i was looking forward to seeing you fight again. U had a big heart....My depest condolenceses to Najai's family. May you rest in peace my brother.

We love you man, I'm sorry life got the best of you. I've prayed for you and all the others out there who have fallen short. And I am a sinner to this day and forever more till I die. We all love you ....God Bless You Najai Turpin

I am truly saddened about Najai's death. I feel very sorry for the family though. I don't want to judge Najai but I do have to say suicide is not the answer. Not when you have people who love you and a daughter who is counting on you to be a father to her. I have a father who has several kids and could care less about any of his children. My father has a choice. Najai's daughter does not have a choice now. When I was younger I was depressed alot and I knew within me something was not right. So I saught help. And I know life gets hard but I know God put us all down here for a reason and it's not about us all time it's about serving GOD and not giving up the fight cos things do get better. But giving up is not the answer. It's not about the fall it's about how we get up after the fall. We have to take responsibility for ourselves to make our lives better no one is going to give you anything and yes it's going to be hard but in the end it's all worth it.

that sux u had to commit suicide, were a hella good boxer too,god bless the family and all the loved ones

there are a bunch of rude a$$ people on here judging knowing dang well you're temple ain't tight. look in the mirror of your life and make sound judgments-not in someone else's life and condemn...his girl or family could be reading these remarks you people have made...geez

It really is sad how people don't really understand the value of their own life.
Najai obviously took this lightly and ended his life without understanding how important he was to his loved ones. After hustlin his ass of by taking care of his siblings alone, working three different jobs, and making it to the contender show, all to end his life by his own hands is redicules. You think someone who virtually grew up without parents wouldn't ever think of depriving his daughter of a parent. All I can say is my heart goes out to your family and peace brother. (hope your shinin in heaven)

I'm sorry that Najai made the choice that he did. The little girl is the same age as my baby and I can't imagine how she will feel growing up knowing what Najai decided to do. So sad. Please don't be stupid there are peolple that will NEVER get over what you do, if you take this path.

Najai, my prayers for you and for the beautiful family you left behind, especially your beautiful baby girl Anyae.

May God bless you and bring you peace and love in heaven.

I am sad that Najai didn't know his worth. To those who say he was "selfish" or a "quitter"...maybe he was, but who hasn't been at one time or another?
Sometimes we can feel that our loved ones would be better off without us!
My prayers are with the Turpin family and all others who have not been taught or shown just how important they are!

I hope and pray his daughter will one day understand why he did what he did, cause she is the only one that will feel the effects of all of this after all of us have posted our tributes and thoughts. Anyae my prayers are with you!!

It's so sad to see an ending like this. Najai's warmth could be felt through the T.V. He seemed ready to fight the good fight. I pray for his family, especially his daughter. My heart goes out to another fallen soilder.

Keith

It is sad to see that another young man has taken his own life. As founder of a non-profit, "Families Affected By Violence" that has worked with families that have lost love ones, I have seen the pressure that have been put on our young people. As these reallity shows continue to take regular people and put them in arena that give them the assumption that they will be, or have the chance to be rich in a short period of time,THEY MUST BE CAREFUL. The pressure of not being a winner and failing those you love has a heavy price to pay, when you have put all your eggs in that one basket. We have so many young men having to grow up faster now due to family situations, but we are forgetting that they may not of had a father in their home to show them how to be that man. This young man had alot of weight on his shouders since his mom died in 2000. That meant that he had to be that man at 18 years old.

Let us not let this death be in vain, but a wake up call to all those out there, that our young people need more from us than pipe dreams and instant wealth, they need guidence. GOD BLESS THE FAMILY, AND MAY HE WATCH OVER THE BABIES.

i cant believe that a young fighter would just give up like that. that's not how you were trained you was trained to exceed not to fail.
i just hope that your daughter can forgive you when she is older. i have two daughters and i could never leave them like that.

fu*k you Matthew, I hope you and your family die. Najai was very troubled, and that's a shame. He had more talent than he realized, he could have won that fight. I think the boxer on the contender summed it up the best. Najai is nuts, and you don't want to fight nuts.

Let us pray:
Oh Father, touch the lives of the real victims: his family. Please God protect them as they live learn to understand what has happened. Save each soul that reads this message and inspire them to save other lives as they celebrate salvation; in the name of Jesus we pray. Amen.

To Najai's wife and daughter - may God be with you to comfort you and to sustain you both. May God have mercy on Najai. If he has found peace, let yourselves find it too. I'm sorry for all of his and your struggle in this life, and I don't say that from a place of security and safety. But from understanding. It seems to me you loved him a great deal. You were so comforting to him after the fight. I will contribute to your daughters fund for his sake and your sake and for the sake of my own fatherles daughter and grandchildren, and will think of and pray for you in the coming days. PS I can't understand why people must place blame at this time when you are hurting. I hope you will ignore them. Don't listen, don't remember. For the sake of their ego, I guess, it seems they need to express their opinion,as if this were just another chat board, without thought of your pain. God Bless and help you. Sylvia

r.i.p najai a grate boxer and good father your daughter will miss you most i know you will be with her for the rest of her life.

Unless you have truly experienced the depths of dispair related to depression, you will never understand why anyone would take their own life. Suicide is not selfish nor an easy way out. It is what it is.

Learn from what is written above and if you are feeling overwhelmed, understand that YOU are important. Make that cry for help...you'll lighten your load and in the process learn you are not alone.

Dismiss Najai's suicide as vain and history will repeat itself. Only next time it may be someone you love that is suddenly gone.

Carpe' Diem.......Carpe' Diem (Seize The Day)

This suicide was a selfish act on 2 levels. Number one, he was the man of his family. His younger siblings looked to him for guidance and support. He took away their leader and most probably their breadwinner. Number two, he robbed his daughter of her father. His girlfriend now has to raise the child herself.

He chose to kill himself in front of his girlfriend. Why traumatize her if you want to take your own life???

Suicide is so stupid. There is always a solution to a problem, even big problems.

I hope the fund they made in his honor is able to support the darling little daughter. This is very sad.

my heart bleeds for najai, but more importantly his beautiful little girl.. najai, u r in everyones hearts, and your daughter will be taken care of, because we all know u will be looking over her for eternity.... god rest your soul and may he have faith on your decision!

May god bring nothing but great things to come for little Najai, you will never alone. Your daddy loves you and he will always be an angel looking after you.

This is a terribly sad story. I want to say that I am very disappointed with the organization of the trust fund. NBC has no problem creating a multi-functional web site, but they ask people to only donate via a check and mail? this is sad... how many more people would have donated if NBC would have made it an easier process? There is no doubt that they share some of the responsibility in his death... they could have put a little more effort in making his daughters life easier

Najai, what can be said for the loss to yourself, your daughter and the rest of your loved ones? You were not alone, my friend, regardless of what anyone says -- GOD was with you in your final moments, as HE is with us all, regardless of how we arrive at that point. And only GOD knew the depths of your despair, and the anguish that you were living through. When I saw your final episode, I could not help but think,“Najai, brother, you are on your way, win or lose, someone is taking notice of your talents.” Now you will never know what you could have become and that is tragic. Unlike some of the people who wrote in, GOD knows all too well the plight of our young people. Najai was not alone; other of our young people are killing themselves daily, albeit slowly, through drugs and lifestyle choices because of sheer hopelessness. YOu can hear it in their music.
For those of you who are judging Najai, answer me this please: do you think that GOD will turn away the person who accidentally overdoses after a lifetime of drug usage or will HE sent to damnation the patient who decides death is easier than chemotherapy and commits suicide? None of us knows. Therefore we should be humble enough to offer nothing more than our condolences to Najai’s family and pledge to assist his daughter financially, rather than just the empty words of hoping her life turns out well.
GOD is the Creator and therefore the final Judge, but even before that, GOD is merciful. Don’t let the little bit of information you heard cloud your mind to the big picture because believe me when I tell you, you don’t have the whole story. Don’t be so hasty as to speak on things you cannot fully understand, except you were an eye witness because GOD’s judgment won’t end with whether or not you think Najai is guilty of wrongdoing; your words could fall back on you, my friend.
Rest well, my Philly brother; your sojourn here has ended!

Our thoughts and prayers are with your daughter & family. Our hearts go out to you. I am sorry your heart suffered and you had know where to turn. You are now safe and in the arms of God. Please know that your daughter will be loved forever and in her eyes you will always be a champion! The Roses

His adorable little daughter is the one who will feel the greatest loss. Someday they will be together again. A hui hou, Najai. (Until we meet again)

Send donations to this address:

J.P. Morgan Trust Company, N.A.
1999 Avenue of the Stars, 26th Floor
Los Angeles, CA 90067
Attn: Fiduciary Services Dept.

my family sends their thoughts and prayers to the turpin family. God Bless you all!!!!

"What if death was the begining and in birth you depart....."

It was such a shocker to see at the end of the Najai fight episode that he had passed away.Rest in Peace Najai Turpin...and god bless.....

To all of those on this blog who are being judgemental...well..just remember..- " You can never judge an Indian until YOU have walked in his mocassins.."......You never know what transpired that led to Najai's untimely death...so stop being so bloody judgemental!!!

I happened to be watching the last 15 minutes of tonights show, and found myself wanting Najai to win. In his last interview, after the fight, I cried with him. He was so sad he 'broke his promise'. Whatever happened between he and his girl is between them. Let it be. God WILL forgive him for taking his own life. And for those of you who believe differently, try putting yourself in HIS shoes!! YOU DONT KNOW WHAT HE WAS GOING THRU!!! He felt it was the only thing he could do, right or wrong. Only God knows what was in his heart.

God Bless You Najai and your family and friends. I hope to meet you in Heaven when I get there. I would like to give you a hug.

It saddens me to hear that someone so talented and committed take thier life. My heart and prayers go out to his family.God Bless!!

R.I.P. Najai. My heart goes out to your baby daughter who will grow up without a father, wondering y? She is a beautiful little girl. Life can be tough livin in Philly. Those who have downed or disrespected Najai on this messageboard, be ashamed of yourselves. You are the scum in our world. Do us all a favor. How dare you people comment on a young, bright, deprived, lost man who didn't know what else to do but take his own life.

With much sympathy we send to the family. We were truly touched. We will never know the depth of you pain, but GOD cares and all I can say is put your trust in him. He will give us strenght and help when we need him most.

The Taylor family

Only God can judge me! Since there are so many of you passing judgement, I guess that you must be God. WRONG!
I have been unfortunate enough to have to deal with more than one person that I loved having suicidal ideations. When I was in the Army back in the early 90's, my boyfriends brother had been killed. He felt like he could not live with the loss of someone that he loved more than himself so would beg me to kill him. He would tell me that if I loved him, I would kill him. And I would tell him right back that it was because I loved him that I could not do it. I would like to think that my love for him made a difference in his life so that one day he would not try to do it himself. To this day, I never told his mother or anyone else about the many troubles within that he faced. He did die later, still a young man, in a car accident. His family kept him alive for about a month on life support. It is funny, because I thought they were selfish for not letting him die. There was someone else in the car and there were questions as to who was really driving his car at the time of the accident. It really does not matter because the end result was the same, we all lost someone we loved dearly.
In another incident my boyfrinds best friend hung himself, but lived. He was like a child after that. Whenever I would talk to him he would say, "I dead, I dead". And I would always say, "No you are not dead." But I guess in a way he was dead. However, not once, did I ever think of him as a coward, quitter, or loser. I love them both in life and death. I only pray that my brothers, including Najai, took the time or had the time to ask God to forgive them for there past and future sins.
I AM sorry for Najai and his family. I am sorry that he did not have a friend to talk to, I am sorry that the love he had for his daughter could not defeat his demons within, I am sorry that he did not have the strength to carry on. Peace be with you my brother!

For all reading this that have contemplated suicide, please reach out! You are not alone, God loves you, your family loves you. The only thing that keeps me awake at night is an untimely departure from my Wife and Son due to some crime or something out of my control. All you have to do is watch the news for 5 min and see how someone who has it all can leave us in an instant. Nothing can hurt that bad to cause you to create so much pain.

What a shock, today was the first day I watched The Contender.. I was going for Sergio to win, and at the end Sergio did win, They were both great fighters, I told my wife that all Najai had to do was to keep trianing and he would be there one day because he looked so focused, But after the show Sugar Ray announced that Najai had passed away. All I have to say is that it's not worth it, we all at one point have been there.

I just hope people look at this and prevent this from happening to anyone or themselves. If you or someone you know need help, please ask for help, dont be afraid, nor assamed.. there will always be people to help you out.

My heart and prayers go out to his family.God Bless!!

If yo can
Send donations to this address:

J.P. Morgan Trust Company, N.A.
1999 Avenue of the Stars, 26th Floor
Los Angeles, CA 90067
Attn: Fiduciary Services Dept.

Let us Pray!

Lord please have mercy on Najai Turpin's soul.
Lord we ask you to bless his family and everyone that had the honor of knowing him. He was a blessing on Earth. Let mercy fall upon his soul. In Jesus name we pary! Amen!

Najai you are truly an inspiration for people that try to make a difference in their lives. May your soul R.I.P.

I was saddened to hear about Najai but know he is in a better place.My thoughts and prayers go out to his daughter,girlfriend and family. Even though he is not here physically to take care of his daughter I know he will be guiding her from above. She has a guardian angel who will always be with her.

I feel so saddend at the thought of this great young man seeing no more hope in life. I was shocked when at the end of the show they said that najai had died. And then I found out he took his own life! How my heart breaks at the thought that no one was there to help him through such a hard time. I know I have gone through moments in my past were i saw no hope for a better tomorrow. I thought that suicide might be a way to ease the pain and hurt in my life. But somehow I managed to overcome those feelings. Oh Najai i wish you had been able to overcome. You were a great fighter, a great father, and a great man! I will remember you. I will pray for the family and beautiful daughter you left behind. To those who feel so alone and that nothing will ever change or get better, remember tomorrow is another day! The sun will rise again! Good things can still happen! You are not alone, God is always there, your family loves you, your friends need you, they will not be better off without you, the people around you need you, be strong, fight the desire to take your life it is not the right way to go, Hold on things will get better, don't lose hope! Hold on! Hold on! God loves you

In this life I'm on the ropes
On this bout rests all my hopes
Poverty l will break away
Should I live to fight another day
Inside my soul you can not see
What this life has done to me
For I am not just a contender
I am my families defender
I will not let them see my eyes
For that's where fear of failure lies
What brings about this tragedy
Is I did not believe in me

Being a young father myself, I understand the pain Najai felt when he lost because he wanted to give his daughter everything he could and boxing was his only reality for that. He was very young and felt he let his family down when his career really just begun. I wish he would of just got back up and kept trying, with this show his daughter will always see how much he loved her and how he will always be watching over her.

I my heart truly goes out to Najai's daughter, she will truly miss her daddy.

I pray that God forgives you and everyone else do. There's been times that I've wanted to kill myself. People stop passing judgement!!!It saddens my heart to know that you took your life. I was disappointed when you left the contender but I knew the love you had for your daughter and family would keep you going. I felt you prove yourself on The Contender and that your career would soon blossom. Rest In Peace...

what a selfish bastard he had a daughter he loved.now she has no dad over dumb crap.what a idiot

I just want to pray blessings over the family and friends of Najai. He was truly a wonderful fighter and he had such heart and you could tell how much he loved his little girl. I hope and pray that his daughter knows how much her father loved her and that this was not her fault. This fight in life was just one that was too hard for him to fight. May God be with your family and friends as they go through this. Lord I pray that you would send your Spirit to comfort them. It is not our place to judge but to have compassion and mercy. I hope that everyone will donate whatever they can so that Aja can have a good chance to see how much Najai touched everyone's lives. Love will conquer all even in death. Keep love alive for Aja.

Send donations to this address:

J.P. Morgan Trust Company, N.A.
1999 Avenue of the Stars, 26th Floor
Los Angeles, CA 90067
Attn: Fiduciary Services Dept.

this really sucks cause when someone takes there life it is someone quiting on life, when he is only 23 you have a whole life ahead of you, time passes and now his daughter doesnt have someone to raiser her. because of his mistake now others suffer, now im not going to get into religion but if you beleave in god then you would know that by killing yourself you dont have a chance to g2 heaven, i wish i would know this guy just so i could help in some way best of wishes to his family this is a tragic story god bless his fam.

God bless you and your family. Only God can judge you.

Incorrect grammar friend, “What a idiot”...

The correct wording is what an idiot, words beginning with a vowel are preceded with (an not a), see what happens when you judge. Let God judge him.

He gave in to the feelings of depression that were crowding his mind. Instead of crying out for help he looked for a way out and gave up. Mental illness is a terrible disease. It is sad that this young man gave up and ruined his life and most important, damaged the life of his small child and his family. There is ALWAYS another option. Turn to God, he does have all the answers if we will just listen.

My prayers go out to his family, it is sad that prayers are too late for Najai

MY PRAYERS GO OUT TO NAJAI'S FAMILY ESPECIALLY HIS BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTER.IT IS SO TERRIBLE THAT HE HAD TO DO THIS TO HISSELF AT A VERY YOUNG AGE.HE DIDNT REALLY GET TO ENJOY LIFE.THIS IS A VERY SAD TRADEGY I JUST HOPE HIS FAMILY IS OKAY.I JUST DONT GET WHY HE DID IT WHAT WAS GOING ON WITH HIM THAT WHAT WAN TO MAKE HIM TAKE HIS LIFE.

I am so saddend by this. I don't even know Najai. The tears for him and his daughter as still streaming down my face.

I have attempted suicide when I was younger on a couple occations. I know the feeling of total desperation. I still feel that way on occation. The only thing that provents me is the total anxiety of fear of my daughter living with out me. She is my life and I am hers.

To all of the people who wrote terrible things about this young man you should be go hide under a rock. How can you judge. You have no clue how he felt. Your not him. Let his soul rest in peace. It is bad enough that his daughter will grow up without him and never realy know him. And that his loved ones will miss him. And that because he was so deprite that he will never know the greatness that he may have achieved. Everything that his family and he have lost. Go somewhere else with your critisism. This family has suffered enough.

Najai, I wish I would have know you. I'm not saying that I would have saved you. But I know where you were. I seem to visit the place but I find strenghth. And I pray that your daughter will find strenght. And I wish more then anything that I could turn back the clock.

You had so much to live for and didn't even know it.

May god bless you and your family. And I know that if there is a god that you are looking over your daughter with your mother. No matter what people believe, or what religion says or religion you are: if your heart is good nothing else matters.

All my love and prayer
Jennifer

Najai,
I dont believe life ends at death. So Im writing this from my soul to yours.
I know you watch from above over your daughter and I pray with you that God will help bring love, warmth, understanding and compassion into her life now and as she ages.
I pray that your loved ones will be filled with strength and courage and that they can heal and get on with their lives.
Najai, what I saw in your fight tonight on the Contender was strength and determination and with this you made a fan of me.
I will be sending your daughter a donation to help, and hope others will do the same.
I got this address off the Contender Website to send your daughter donations, so Id like to post it here for any one that reads this that may want to help as well.
My prayers and love is with your beautiful daughter, wife and family during this difficult time.

Sincerly,
Sean Tataryn, Creator of The Myumee Dolls

...........FROM THE CONTENDER WEBSITE............

On Monday, February 14 the Contender family was deeply
saddened by the passing of one of our own, Najai Turpin.

If you wish to donate to a fund for Najai's daughter, make all checks payable to the
Anyae Chapple Trust:

J.P. Morgan Trust Company, N.A.
1999 Avenue of the Stars, 26th Floor
Los Angeles, CA
90067
USA
Attn: Fiduciary Services Dept.

Although I did not know Najai personally I can not help but shed some tears for him. I hope his family finds the strength to overcome this sad event and may god bless them. May he find peace where he is. Life is to short to take people for granted so let those you love know that you do.
*Rest in Peace =( and I know ur a champ wherever you are!!!

I was very sadden to hear such a tragedy. We all have problems in our lives and we should keep God first in everything we do. Unfortunately, Najai let the devil overtake his life. My prayer goes to his family. God is the way out to every situation and people still don't see that!

I was really sadden to hear of his death. What has the world come to when young lives' feel that death is more important than life. My children were deeply touched by the loss. May God continue to bless the family and curse the sucide thoughts of any family members.

My heart was broken after hearing about this tragedy. I lost my sister-in-law and my brother to a murder-suicide. They left behind two children and so I know first hand the despair and loss felt when something like this happens. My heart goes out to his girlfriend and daughter. May you look to a higher power when your world seems to be falling apart around you.

Najai had me in tears durring his final episode, even before I realised his fate. He was the most sincere, sensitive man I've witnessed. His love for his daughter was so apparent and his want to win was unremarkable. The demons that took over his body on that fateful night can't be explained. I am deeply saddened by this event, disturbed. But me, myself will remember the earnest young man who chased his little girl around the locker room after he realised what was so important to him.

Rest in Peace Najai. You are a beautiful man, father, son, brother, fighter. You lost this battle of life, but will watch over your loved ones from above. You were a loving father to your little angel, and she will always know that. We all love you.

Death is always hard to understand, and why it happens whether at our own hands or that of another is harder to know why. Seeing Najai with his daughter on the show was so sweet the way he played with her. My thought is maybe he felt by dieing while everyone knew who he was that support would come to his family and by that he was making a better life financially. What he didnt think of was how hurt his baby girl will be growing up without her loving daddy and the tears she will shed in missing him. The years in school when other kids have their dads pick them up and go to their activities, how sad she will be because her dad is not there. My daughter is 4 and also at 2 she lost her dad, but not to sucide but to a driver on Meth. She is now 4 and talks about him daily and cries that she misses him though she only saw him a few times, it shows that the lost of a father is remembered and I hope that if anyone else thinks of sucide will think of everyone around them and of their future without them and not of the just here and now. My life has lost my Mother,Sister, Two daughters,My dauther's dad, my nephew and all my grandparents. I have learned to find something positive out of each one, it has been hard.I hope that Najai's family can do the same and that out of this they can move forward and heal.

I was truly in tears watching the contender yesterday. Watching how Najai was playing with his daughter broke my heart. I am so sorry that
he felt that suicide was his only way out.I hope that God has some mercy with him and that his daughter Anyae will know that his father really did love her and wanted the best for her.

Such a beutiful life gone in the blink of an eye. Najai you should of thought about the lives you left behing in pain. My condolenses go out to your family. Rest in peace Najai, you will always be missed but never forgotten.

I watched The Contender for the first time last night. I wept when Najai lost the fight. And then to learn of his death was tragic. I have tried to commit suicide several times in my life. I have four daughters and now relize, with the help of medication and therapy, that I HAVE to live for my children. Unfortunatly, so many people go without support. For anyone reading this today PLEASE seek help if you are contemplating suicide. Life CAN get better.

I will pray for Najai and his family. Please make a donation to his daughters trust fund so that she may have the chance Najai never had.

A great fighter and a selfish person. So much promise and potential wasted by taking the easy way out.We all have our own problems to deal with, but most people are strong enough to handle them in an appropriate manner.Najai has left behind a beautiful daughter who we all can see that he loved.One loss is not a career killer.What could have been so bad.You saw your family all the time.You had love in your life constantly.Think about all the soldiers who do not have their families for 6 months to a tear at a time.And they are really struggling to survive.Don't tell me how tough it is to grow up in Philly.It isn't that tough.I grew up in Baltimore but you don't see me crying about how hard it was.Life is only as hard as you make it.It is sad that Najai had so much heart, but so little mental stability.My deepest regrets to his family.May God bless you.

Prayers go out to you Najai.Your heart and will inspires me alot.God Bless your daughter and family.Always be remembered,always.God bless you Najai Turpin

Love and Prayers for Najai and his Family.....
Godbless.

It is very sad to see that such a determined man inside the ring is actually a cowardly person outside of it. I'm not saying this because I hate him, but I'm saying these things because I really admire him. I admired him because even though he lost to Sergio, he didn't gave up the fight until the end. It' very sad to here these things, but I still salute him for a fight well done. To Najai's family... I give you my sincerest condolences and to you Najai, Rest In Peace... my friend and thank you.

A great man who moved me to tears. A life worth remembering and a man worth paying tribute to. Love and affection to his family.

I just watch the contender that is played in Singapore. At the end of show i was shocked to know that Najai Turpin know as the Nitro is dead, but did not really how he passed away. It is Until now that i found he end his own life. At the end of show, he express his feeling that he take the lost as a lesson and hope that this lesson can make him a stronger person, at that moment i felt he is already a champion in my eye. He take his failure as a lesson. But never will i though he will end his own life... cause he had so much loved for his daughter, in the earlier part of show he spoke to one of talent manager saying that he do not trust anyone EXCEPT for his daugther. Maybe he felt he lost this match and lost the shot of giving his daugther a better life a better future cause this kind of chance only come in a life time. HE just couldn't take it, he felt that he let down his daughther, which in his deep felt heart he WANTS TO WIN AND BECOME A CHAMPION and provide better life for his precious daugther. Najai Turpin u will always be a champion in my heart for living your dream as boxer n makin ur way up as who u are today. May god bless ur kind Soul. KC siging out

I don't really know what to say...i don't know why this had to happen and i don't know why i care so much when i didn't even know him...i don't judge you najai for what you did, and i wish you and your family peace of mind and the love and strength to get through this...you were an inspiration to so many....know that you did great things in your life, even if you didn't realize it...I know your daughter will realize this too...rest in peace.

SAD? yes of course - I will be contibuting to his daughters future. BUT - this was a man who was obviosly disturbed by an obsession not a dream. "Keeping his word?" - his "Word" was to take care of his daughter. This can been done many ways in "the land of opportunity" I am 30 - high school only - and will make $80k this year by doing what ever has to be done. Yes it is harder, but education IS NOT the only way to take care of someon - neither is caving in another dudes grill. I can't have children with my wife, so this seem very selfish. If I coul, it would take God himself to separate us. Good luck little girl- you'll be just fine. Your father has taught you one great lesson, never give up. God bless

Just saw the contender.. suicide is never the answer.. no matter what problems you're faced with.. life is precious. Either he just sunk into depression or he had a major depressive disorder for sometime... lost his rational thinking. Poor kid..hope it doesn't affect her when she grows up.

What do you say to a this lovely little girl?, this in now unfortunately "Her Reality Show", we can not begin to judge this young man for his actions, only pray for his family and friends, and also pray that we, ourselves, don't someday be faced with such inner demons that we feel this is our only altenative. While watching this show, I was touched of how his daughter was able to cheer him up, after his loss of the fight, and how he seemed to see promise and restored hope thru her innocent eyes, and this became even more poignant,after the knowledge of his passing. Remember, any pain that we feel as casual observer of a TV program, pales in comparision to the everlasting journey of understanding that his family(especially his daughter) must travel to come to grips with this tragic loss. As someone who lost his father at the age of 2 1/2, I know the pain and unanswered questions, never go away. Though my father died under different circumstances, after 35+ years I still miss him deeply. The many nights this child will cry for her father, will go on forever. I'm sure, that the fact that her father chose to take the path,that took him away from her forever, will only make her pain that much deeper, For her peace, I Pray. I, myself, almost lost my life at about, Najai's age, although someone else was holding the gun, I was robbed, and shot at point blank range, three times, for 8 dollars. And at the time, my life, wasn't exactly in high gear, I was at the end of a relationship and my financial resources we next to none. But the gun man underestimated my "Will to Live", I survived. Years later,and after lots of hard work, I'm at much better place and now have my little girl, that I love and adore. I pray nothing ever takes me away from her. I'm not saing all this to make it about me, but just for the family of Najai, or anyone else who believes they are facing overwelming odds and contemplating suicide as an options. Read this and Don't Do It and know that tommorrow will be a new day, and through the love of your family and our God above, you can and will survive. And years from now you can look back and remember the "bad times" which will really make you appreciate the "Good Times". What aver the situation is, you have the power to change it, Hold on to that "Will to Live" and don't leave you children Fatherless or Motherless, they need you both, ALIVE. God Bless You All.

I was very saddened to hear of such a tragedy. I just want to pray blessings over the family and friends of Najai. It is a terrible loss of such a great man with so much potential. Nothing in life is so bad that we should take our own lives. God will be our final judge and we should all take comfort in his never ending love! R.I.P.- Najai and God bless.

I JUST WANT TO SAY IM SORRY FOR HIS GIRLFRIEND AND THEIR BABY GIRL THE SHOW JUST AIRED LAST NIGHT AND I CRYIED FOR HIS BABY SHE IS SO CUTE AND NOW SHE DONT HAVE A DADDY ONLY IN SPIRT I WILL KEEP YOU IN MY PRAYERS MAY gOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR BABY

REST IN PEACE........ MY CONDOLEGENTS TO HIS FAMILY..

THE WORST PART IS LEAVING BEHIND YOUR LOVE ONES, SPECIALLY YOUR BEAUTIFUL LITTLE GIRL....

was floored when whatched this epoisode,when sugar ray with his message.Nijai sperit was so so strong I cont under stand.My heart goes out tho his family and friends

Go Najai to the place in witch you wonted to go feel that your life was not waisted but a raminder to thoughs who feel the same as you,to your doughter who will fight as you did and win,to me who with out seeing your story would have forgotten you and ignore that there is a problem within the youth,To all may our God bless thoughs who strugle with life Know that the treasers you have here are meningless in heven.

I just finished watching the show (3-21 10 pm,Philippine time) and I was so shocked!!He was a personal favorite and I know with the talent such as his,he will go places.Im trying to stop from crying but I cant.The only thing I can do now is to pray for his soul.Im not promising it but it will be my mission now to try to reach out for his little girl and hopefully personally see her someday.She should be proud of her father who have touched so many lives the world over.

You are a great fighter, a good father and a man who stand alone. Rest in Peace brother. Happiness is the greatest thing and sadness comes and go. I am a great fan of the Contender. I just got this news today that a great fighter of my favorite passed away. And at my age of 23, there are alot of things come and go. Why you did this brother? You are a fighter. You should stay strong. Something will come on your way ahead after this. But things are over now. Love you brother. May GOD have some mercy on your soul.

Stevenjit
Kuala Lumpur
Malaysia

I live overseas and I don't receive the show "Contender" here. I was online and first saw Najai in his Contender fight.Just over a month after this tragedy. The aftershow interview crushed me. The way he so desperately wanted a better life for his daughter. That was before I knew of his tragedy. When I found out, I sat here and cried like I've known him for years. WHAT A TRAGEDY OF SUCH A TALENTED LOVING YOUNG MAN! He was truly a fighter...INSIDE AND OUTSIDE of the ring. He fought his whole life. Not just with his fists, but with his heart. There is a point in ones life when he cannot see past his own hopelessness. Suicide is a terrible thing, but I understand that he had no hope or direction left. He was a tired soul, he grew up fast. Raising a family is NOT an easy task, especially at such a young age. Noone has the right to call this young man a failure, when you have not lived his obstacles, heartaches and defeats. My heart goes out to his loved ones, he is at peace and he WILL be remembered...as a fighter, a father and a WINNER. God Bless you Najai.

Just finished watching contender in Hong Kong and reading above messages, everyone have different views towards this tragedy. Victim or coward, regardless, Najai has taught us a very precious lesson. One that some of us may only realize when it is too late. One that gives many of us a new perpective in life. One that proves there are people who care even you do not see them.

RIP Najai

May the Lord bless Najai's little girl. She loves him and does not know or understand where her 'Daddy' is.
May she have more strength and less grief in her life.
Claire Branden
Las Vegas, NV
West Coast

After watching the show I was already crying in the fact that he had lost the fight. He wasn't fighting so much for himself but to better his daughters life. You could see the love he had for his daughter by looking in his eyes even after his fight was lost.
I will pray for his girlfriend and daughter that have many tough times ahead.
This is a very tough world and people are so judgemental! I just hope that those that love him will be stong and over come any hurtful comments from others!

I was deeply saddened when I heard the news that Najai had taken his own life. Having attempted suicide before I could slightly feel the pain he was probably dealing with at the time. The fact that he leaves so many loved ones behind, especially his beautiful daughter Anyae saddens me even more. I wish that he would have thought twice about leaving his daughter behind. Now she will have to deal with the loss of her father for the rest of her life. It's not fair to her, nor any of his loved ones to have to deal with this pain. As they say, everything happens for a reason so some how some way, SOMETHING good must come out of this tragedy. God Bless the whole Turpin family.

I watched the episode of The Contender today. I had heard in the previews that he had passed away but would never have imagined it was from him taking his own life. As i watched Sugar Ray speak I cried like I had known him my whole life. I just had to say Najai I truly feel that you left a mark here with so many people. I personally feel you were a remarkable young man and I am truly sorry that you felt like so many people in the world that you couldnt go on any longer. I pray that you have peace. I also pray for your family and friends you must now have to go on living without you.

I would also just like to say that as a Reality TV addict I think it is ridiculous to blame the show in any way for Najais suicide. Whatever caused him to take his own life had been eating him up for months maybe years. I feel that I could never take my own life. But if faced with the feelings of losing my daughter who was the one thing he loved most left with him on this earth I can sympathize with the pain he was dealing with. Especially after everything else he had been through. As he said in the last episode. He trusted noone but his daughter....and his mother who was deceased. Maybe he wanted to go home to his mom because he felt his daughter was being taken from him.

Again I pray he finds peace....and that his daughter does too.

God Bless Najai's family and friends. My prayers go out to them all.It made me very sad to hear that Najai had commited suicide. Only God knows what he was going through when he made that decision but I pray that God shows mercy and love. I alos pray that God will look over his beautiful daughter and give her peace in her fathers absence.

it was very heartbreaking to find out that najai had committed suicide over an argument about his little girl. it really struck me that some one with najais ability to fight like he did that he would turn around and do such a thing. i dont see how he could leave such a beautiful daughter and a loving girlfriend behind like that. lets just hope that they make it in this world and never get hurt again. god bless u and im sorry to hear about najai. he was truly a great contender and fighter. he will be missed greatly.

My heart is broken, because yet I didnt know you I felt you and hurt and pain, I have to commend your girlfriend for saying all the right things after the fight..I dont know why you took your life but may God look upon you and bless you..and keep your family..your beautiful baby..

I saw the Contender episode, and I must say I was really pulling for Najai. I thought the guy was fearless, motivated, and dedicated to his family as well as future plans. When I heard the guy was woking two jobs and still found the time to train, I thought my god, what an inspiration. When he picked a bigger fighter because he had the heart of a lion, I thought my god, what an inspiration. When I read that he was taking care of his Brother and sister, a niece and nephew, I thought my god, what an inspiration. Well, I would like to tell the Najai's family for the rest of your lives let Najai be that inspiration, God Bless.

I am extremly sadded by the lose of Najai.
watching his last fight i keep hopeing if he could just win then feb 14 wouldnt have happend.
but as we all know if it wasnt a boxing match it might have been something else.
He had to be extremely sad & unsettled to take his life because his love for his daughter was so strong that it seem like he would have done anything for her not to feel any pain .
I just hope her and her mom will always carrie that love in there heart.

I was sad to see how hurt he was last night. The sad part is he took his own fate into his own hands. Sorry, some may not like this but, it's too late to pray for his soul. The deed is done, he is where he is and praying for his soul won't to him no good.
I could see the hurt in his eyes and I really felt bad for him. But, his daughter has to live with the fact that her dad is no longer here. Hopefully she'll have pictures and will be able to see this episode and see the good things he had to say about her.

LIFE AFTER SUICIDE is so hard...compared to the previous life... because u see your whole lifetime in 3D,but can`t do anything about it.It`s an internal turmoil for eternity.Najai was living in the past and it was hard to let go of the pain and hardships he went thru,so it all came out thru BOXING.
That was the only time he felt free.He honestly tried his very best to provide for his family but 9 outta 10,it back fired on him...so he got used to the cycle...WORK HARDER.He gave his all until his soul got tired.There`s some void in life that can never be filled by anyone out there but GOD and YOURSELF.
So Next time u talk to your loved one,look beyond the Platinum chain,listen to what pours out of their heart and not their mouth.Don`t be PASSIVE because that`s when situations becomes EXPLOSIVE.

NAJAI REST IN PEACE KID... ONE.

Everyone is so easy to say that no one knew his problems and that is just an excuse to condone what he did. No matter what happens in life, you should never take your own life, the only one who suffers are the ones left behind. I had family members do it and there children are left behind to think it was there fault. That burden should never be felt by a child.
There is never, never a good reason to take your own life, No matter the sob story. Everyone has one. And for buddy up there, being black is no excuse, different people of all colours have rough lives.
Do however wish good luck to his daughter and hope she has a good life.

Didn't know him but feel for him...to be at such a low point to where you feel the only way out is death. Some may think they understand, you've been there, however if you are here posting, then you don't know - you are still alive. For you people who have never been that depressed and all you can do is judge- may you never have to feel that way. Fortunatley, I have never been that low, hopefully I never will. I hope that he is at peace and reunited with his Mother.

In a land divided by large expanses of land, where heroes are paraded in our living rooms on the toob, this man's death is the most awful thing I have been presented since 9-11.
Terrorism is about the individuals in our tribal society, who suffer and are killed , wiped out, mutilated, murdered, and basically cannon fodder, for being independent, strong, dedicated, in pursuit of happiness, and so often forgotten.
How could so many, be so lost, in the false hope that this could not happen to them. Suicide, HA!
Just follow the money as it goes right to the rich kid on the block with the expensive habit that daddy's money pays for. There might be a terrorist largesse right there in city hall, with an agenda that doesn't include people like Najai and his daughter.

My wife and I were saddened by the announcement that Najai died. Our prayers go out to Najai's siblings and daughter as they will always deeply feel his loss. It is sad that Najai did not seek help but instead elected to end his personal pain. We had hoped that after losing the fight that he would rebound and become a better fighter.

it is always sad when you hear someone who committed suicide especially when they have young children, they often will wonder if they were the ones at fault, and will always wonder why? and will have no answer for them it's just something they will have to work out for them selves. my best to the family and especially the beautifull little girl, that when the episode aired it look like she really loved her father.

i was shocked to have watched those words of him passing away,he will always be on my mind forever.

For those of you who have the audacity to judge Najai's suicide as a selfish act, or worse yet as the act of a loser/quitter, I would like to personally step into the ring with you and beat the shit out of you - you should be ashamed of yourselves for not having more respect for the deceased! While I'm not a boxer, I do have eight years of martial arts experience and a very deep respect for those with the courage to fight for a living, for a family or to fight in military combat.
I have also dated someone who went through a period of severe depression and at one point made an attempt on her own life when she had a hell of a lot more going for her than Najai. While we are no longer together, I have nothing but the utmost respect for her, for what she went through and helping her overcome her difficulties was one of the most important, illuminating, inspiring, transformational and courageous periods of my life. If Najai did suffer from clinical depression (and the symptoms are not always obvious and can sometimes be hidden very effectively), his suicide may be partly due to chemical imbalances in the brain - not something he could control by his own volition.
I do not know if Najai suffered from any such ailment, but it certainly strikes me as being possible. Everyone who heard Sergio's pre-battle statements heard him describe Najai as "the one guy no one could get a handle on, the one guy he (Sergio) didn't want to fight - he (Najai) was a bit of a nut". Everyone who saw Najai's moving interview after his fight could clearly see the pain he felt at not being able to deliver on his promise of a victory for his daughter. As a poor kid from an rough urban area, he might not have had access to proper diagnosis and treatment if he did have a mental disorder.
More generally, it's very evident that he did have a difficult life. And that he held himself to very high standards. And that his daughter meant the world to him. That should command respect from everyone.
While I probably shouldn't speculate, it's quite possible that it became clear to him from his "discussion" with his girlfriend that she was going to get sole custody of their daughter and that he was going to have very limited, or perhaps no ability to see her again. And if Anyae was, as he described, "all that he had", the pain of not being able to raise her or even see her might have been too much to bear - especially on top of his visible emotional agony at his loss in the boxing ring. So for all you judgemental assholes who presume that it was a selfish or weak act for him to take his own life, you should learn to think with a little more sophistication/education and feel with a little more compassion/humanity. What happened is a tragedy and I have the utmost respect for him. Do what you want, but I am going to make a donation to Anyae's trust fund.

I've just finished watching the contender here in Malaysia, and i was really shocked to heard that Najai had passed away. I was curious to know how did it happen and so i straight away log in the internet looking for this news. I still just cant beleive it why did he chose to end up like this. He's got a great life ahead of him. My condolences to his family especially his daughter. May u rest in peace my dear bro Najai.

Regards,
Andy.

PSALM 23: The Lord is my sheperd; I shall not want. He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadth me beside the still waters.
He restoreth my soul: he leadth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake.
Yea though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me. Thou preprest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the Lord for ever.
Rest In Peace Champ !

Najai i feel so bad for your daughter that has to go through life knowing that her dad is dead because he committed suicide.I LOVE YOU ANYAE!I will pray for your family NAIJA!!

Najai was a good boxer and he had a lot of heart to get into the ring multiple times and he did it all for his family. He should be respected for that
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I watched the Contender last nite, and I was watching the fight between Najai & Sergio. I was really rooting for Najai to win. Then when the show was over i was really shocked to learn that Najai had died. Even though i didn't know him, if you watched the show you could see how much Najai wanted to make it through for his daughter's sake. I hope his daughter grows up to become a sucess in life & I hope that Najai rests in peace!!!!!

I have become hooked to the show and I really was routing for him to win. I was so shocked to hear of his death. My sympathy goes out to his family and daughter. I hope they will be taken care of.
It's hard to understand and we don't know what he was going through and he must of been in a really dark place. But he was quite a fighter as he had to take care of his whole family at a young age and I can only imagine how hard that must of been for him.
May he rest in peace!!

Najai-

May youre soul rest in peace. I was rooting for you all the way. I was so shocked and saddened by the news after the show. How could you leave youre beautiful little girl? Although you took the easy way out leaving youre loved ones behind, i will still keep you and youre family in my thoughts and prayers. At least Najai is with his mother now and getting those big hugs he talked about.

I was truly shocked to learn of Najai's death after I saw The Contender last night. I find it so hard to believe someone could take their own life. He seemed sad and troubled in the beginning of the show, but when in the prescence of his daughter, he really "lit up". It terribly saddens me to hear of someone committing suicide. It is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. My prayers and love go out to his family and friends and especially his precious daughter! Najai would have probably become a boxer we would all remember. God be with all that miss and love Najai Turpin.

Jen, Richmond, VA

Wow, what a shock, does anyone know what pushed him to these limits. I was a boxer for 2 years and I never endured the kind of pressure that would make me take my own life. I believe that there had to be something in his personal life that pushed him over the threshhold. I have heard rumors that his better half was not so nice to him. God Bless You Najai Turpin, I hope you found what you were looking for...

My heart goes out to this family. I will be praying for you. Are they taking up donations for Najai's daughter.
love and prayers
Tiffany

May God Have Mercy On His Soul and May God Care For His Family.

Wow! I just saw a full episode for the first time last night and I saw the fight between him and Sergio. He had so much fire and passion about fighting and winning, that it is so ironic that he took his own life. My heart goes out to his family, especially his little girl and her mother. Hopefully, they will be able to sustain such a powerful blow like this. With so much adversity in this world we have to look to the Lord and have faith he will carry us through the tough times. One love for One life! Live it to the fullest because tomorrow isn't promised.

My heart goes to Najai Turpin's family. I am praying for your loss. May God Bless You Always.

Your loved one is not being tormented in a fiery hell. And the mental and emotional anguish that led him to suicide have ended. He is not suffering; he is simply at rest.

It might be best now to focus on the welfare of the living, including yourself. Solomon continued: "All that your hand finds to do, do with your very power" while you are alive. (Ecclesiastes 9:10) Rest assured that the future life prospects of those who have committed suicide are in the hands of Jehovah, "the Father of tender mercies and the God of all comfort."——2 Corinthians 1:3.

You shall always be loved, Najai.

To the girlfriend of Najai.....pay no mind to people who want you to feel guilty. Guilt is a waste of time. Unfortunately, Najai made a decision in haste in the heat of the moment. This...you cannot change.

People will be there for you to help you take care of your daughter. You have lots of support and love.

Keep your chin up.

why did you kill your self. I loved you man. I'm gay and I relly loved you. Oh god. Why have you forsaken me?

I was wacthing the show last night and i was happy to see Peter come back.When Peter came back he supported Najai in the ring and out the ring.When Najai called out Sergio I was going all the way for Najai.Even though i didnt know Najai by the way he he talked and expressed his self he really opened my eyes and had me yelling his name Najai,Najai,Najai over and over. After the match when Najai was playing with his daughter it was an emotional feeling for me to watch them.It brought tears to my eyes to see Najai leave his family like this.Wish the best to his family and freinds,God bless.REST IN PEACE NAJAI

I watched the contender last night and was so moved by this young man's story and was stunned when I found out he had passed. We are worlds apart but I was shaken emotionally by his struggle and felt saddened that he had no one that he felt he could to turn to in his strugles. I wish his family the best and hope that his daughter grow up to have a struggle free life. No life is ever in vain.

I feel very badly for Najai's family, especially his beautiful daughter. He seemed like a great man and I wished for everybody's sake he could have found a better way to deal with his life and the cards he was dealt. What a tragic loss and I hope his daughter will have her own memory of him and if not she will always be able to look at that Contender tape and see how much he loved her. I could tell that little girl was his life and I wished he would have chose to stay around for hers. God Bless.

I just got done watching the contender it was saved on my DVR and before the fight was over Najai had me in tears from his amazing heart and courage to fight for what he loved most his little girl!!! Then I saw he had passed and now im even more upset. We never know what we have till its gone. It is no ones fault he made a decision. Little one remember always your DADDY was a hero!!! He faught for YOU baby!!! And He loved You every moment he just had alot of hurt.. Never ever feel like he left because of you, i never met him and I know he loved you more than anything. He loved Boxing too!!! Just Keep his memories close to your heart!!! If the family is reading this i was very compelled by his story, I wish you all the best. Najai was an amazing Man boxer and father. I will keep you all in my prayers. To Najai you truely touched my heart. Ive never met you a day in my life but am inspired by you to be a better person for my 2 year old daughter. You are amazing!! Wish i would have had the oppertunity to meet such an amazing man!! I will keep you in my prayers Rest in peace NITRO!!!!

Im sorry for the lost of Najai he was a good fighter. In the start of the Contender I hoped he was gona be the one to win and watching the show last night and hearing that he had passed has tuched me alot. Best wishes to his family and his daughter.

I am a loyal fan of "The Contender", and as a former boxer, I pray for the families of all the participants. Take heed to the short time we have here on this earth. I praise each and every one of them in living and taking that leap of faith in reaching for the brass ring. "Go for it all my brothers" !! Najai wouldn't have wanted it any other way... I know he would have had he had that second chance.... Rest and Peace be unto to you my brother. My condolences to your family...I know you'll be missed....but not forgotten.

hey i just want to say that naji was an inspiring fighter and it is so sad for his daughter to lose a father that young rip naji

I am a fan of the new show. During the episode when Naji lost his match I even had tears. When he speaks of him family and especially his daughter you could tell that it came from his heart. He was crying when he talked and I was crying as I listened. And then cried even more when the show ended and they explained about his death. It was very exciting to watch Naji, he was a great fighter and seemed to be a great father and husband. I hope that his daughter will grow up knowing how much her father cared for her and that his heart belonged to her! I wish the entire family well.

Others never even get a chance, and you did. There was no reason, you had a million shoulders to lean on, and million hearts of compassion.

RIP Najai! You ARE an incredible fighter, and you touched our hearts. I wish the best for your daughter, may she find someone in her life who she can TRUST, so she does not feel the need to follow the same path as yours. I sincerely hope that you found peace where ever you are now, you deserve that. My compassion is with you and your daughter. I only wish someone could have been there to stop you, but that is for my own selfish reasons. I enjoyed watching you fight, and I would have enjoyed the opportunity to watch you fight again. And to Anyae - Your daddy loved you like few fathers love, his pain must have been extremely deep to have left you in this world alone. But never doubt his love for you, you were his everything, and he will watch over you and help you in your life. You are cared for and loved, whether he is physically here to show and tell you that or not. God Bless!

To all those against Najai - you are quick to judge, and your judgements here on Earth effect people in ways you will never comprehend. Perhaps if we all stopped judging each other while we are here on Earth, there would be less of those so eager to leave it. Try loving each other more, judging each other less. It just might make a nicer place for all of us.

Our Father, Who Art in Heaven
Hallowed be, Thy Name
Thy Kingdom come, Thy will be Done
On earth, as it is, in Heaven

Give us this day, our daily bread
And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors, lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil For Thine is the Kingdom, and the Power, and the Glory forever
Amen

May the lord comfort Najai's family at this time.
I never knew you, but may you find peace my brother

I watched the show lastnight and just wanted to really break down and cry. And I did I was just thinking of what a wonderful person this young man was and the dreams he had.I will pray everyday for your family and I hope you are in heaven now with our maker.And your little girl I will pray for her everyday because it will be so hard for her when she is old enough to know. May God be with you and your family
Tammy

I am from Philadelphia so immediately I was a fan of Najai. He had so much heart and strength. He had so much potential for him to die so young. I was literally in tears at the end of the show.

God Bless his family and my prayers go out to them, especially his daughter and girlfriend.

eras un gran boxeador te rrecordare siempre bendisiones para tu hija

You know i really dont know what gets in peoples heads, That they feel lifes so messed up that they have to take their own life. They dont even have enough consideration to realize all the family, freinds and people who have been hurt over it. Now im in no way saying he wasnt a good boxer, or good person i just wish people would take more time to think about all the things their missing. rest in peace Najai may god be with you...

Ashes to ashes, dust to dust

Thinking Out Loud.....
Its hard for me to analyze or come to an understanding about why a brother such as Najai would go out the way like he did for the fact that i too am a product of the streets.The pain that i winessed in that mans eyes were like looking at a mirror.Luckily i somehow always know that things get greater later,but i too always slip and fall into that spell of not being as successful as you thought you would, or like that brother Najai said: His word is his bond and when your word is not bond,one can get very depressed and be in a state of suicidal thoughts. I want people to be aware of your close ones and not be afraid to encourage one another,a friend and sincere conversation can save a life,it saved mines a couple of times! I love you Najai,even though we never met,i got that street love for you cause to this day i still struggle,but you will live in all the hearts you caught by being a true contender!!!!!

First and foremost I wanna say to those that are judging Najai "Only God can judge him!!!" I really grew to like Najai as a person as well as a fighter and I really wanted him to win, once the show was over and they announced that he had passed away I could not help but cry. I guess that was the type of person he was many didn't know him and yet were truly touched by his death. To his family may god bless you and may you find the strength to overcome this tragedy. To Najai I know that you must be happy to see how many lives you touched.

*May you Rest In Peace*

It has been said a million times already but none of us can judge Najai. Only three people know what was said in that car...Najai, his girlfriend, and God. May your soul rest in peace and my prayers go out to your family and daughter.

I shed a tear for this man Najai....I saw heart and soul in this man but the disappointment was far greater in his eyes.....A sad thing to leave a family behind....I can only imagine the anguish in his heart that lead to his suicide.....I feel his pain in my heart.....life is often a sad place,especially for those from such tough places as Najai.....SOmething to think about in this world.....take a moment to touch someones life with a kind word each day....some different each day......someone you don't even know.....you never know if maybe your kind words may change a sad path or even just bring a smile to an otherwise unhappy soul....do it everyday as often as you can....it will warm your heart ....it is easy to give and powerful to receive....how many lives may be saved from suicide or depression when people can see that a stranger cares enough to acknowledge your existance with a kind word or two!! It all starts with one random act of kindness and it exponentially goes from there!

God bless each and every soul who reads this!!

Mike Goulden

only god know where his heart was .we will always have you in our mind because you touch us brother i know what it feel like to lose ,but i put it all in his hand he know what best.to the family hold on to gods hand and no matter what dont let go cause he will be there when we are all gone away from you.

His relationship was getting bad with his girl and on top of that he lost his fight to Sergio and his shot for his family. He also got robbed at gunpoint, so he had a really tough life!

This reminds me of the book "Tears of a Tiger." You should read it, it is similar in many ways.

I wrote an earlier message and just wanted to qualify what I wrote earlier. I was very angry with those who presumed to judge Najai's suicide as a selfish or weak act and that criticism stands. You people disgust me. However, I did speculate that he might have had depression or that his discussion with his girlfriend may have been a catalyst for his decision. I want to publicly apologize for speculating on such sensitive issues when I have no knowledge of the situation. While both may have been possibilities, it is no one's place to speculate let alone judge. To the ex-girlfriend, I apologize if my words were inappropriate.
I was just so damn infuriated by the assholes who were judging Najai's act that I wanted to bring up other possible motivations, so that people would hopefully learn to think with a little more sophistication and to feel with a little more humanity. Again my condolences to his family and friends and especially to his daughter.

One less person to worry about. God have mercy on his soul.

Personally, I think it was very SELFISH for Najai to have killed himself to have left his little daughter and wife with nobody. He said it himself, he was all they had and he left them with nothing. And now his daughter gets to grow up wondering why?

I dont feel bad for Najai at all. I feel for his wife and daughter. We all go through tough times and we all have our downs which sometimes seem more than our ups. But that is no reason to take your own life. He was a QUITTER.

To his daughter, I pray that she grows up in a loving enviroment. My heart goes out to his family and his family alone! "Najai, we never met but nothing ever gets that bad. What'd did you expect to accomplish.... PAIN... congrats. Did you think people should feel sorry for you. I feel sorry for you and anyone who gives you sympathy. Thats just sick. I thank god for allowing me the pleasure of never knowing you, and never will I have to worry about losers like you darkening my doorway. SFL's

This story has truly touched my heart. I don't understand how a young man with so much to live for could take his own life. He seemed so poised and determined with his boxing career it was unreal. To see the love in his eyes when he looked at his daughter touched my soul. I pray for his daughter to one day understand that her father leaving her does not undercut the love he had for her. Also Lord please bless and keep him.

I totally diagree with T-man. I dont understand why he took his life, but he is not a loser. in my perspective he is a winner. he won the hearts of all the veiwers. I got love fo ya Najai!! GOD BLESS. Have fun in heaven.

Dear Najai,

I just watched your exit interview on the website of the contender, you said so much more than they showed at the end of the show. Wow, it felt like you were saying Goodbye right then. I wish you could have been stronger, you had so much to live for.

What a great fighter you were, it's just sad that you did not have the final fight left in you to go one more round with life. I will make a promise right now to contribute to Anyae's trust fund.

Poem for Najai

Don't judge,
who knows what we would do if we lost
everything, and had just "one" thing left that meant the world to us
remember he said, Anyae was the only one he could trust.
Someone may have threatned to take her away,
and in the end, he could not bear the thought of life without her, even for a day.

Rest in Peace Najai

Glenda

i was shocked i thought that najai got shot or somr thing even in the show at the end he said there is no reason for me to feel bad

My heart goes out to his families and his one and only daughter who he loved with all his heart. If only we could turn back time, I wish that you would have talk to someone about your feelings and maybe we can prevent you from taking your own life for the sake of your daughter and your siblings whom you loved so much. But it's too late now, but no matter what, our thoughts and prayers are with you always. May god be with you and take you to a better place where you won't feel hurt anymore. God bless you...

I don't admire this man who made a conscious decision to shoot himself. Ok, so life is hard...life is hard for lots of people and they don't kill themselves. I feel sorry for those he left behind. Why should one feel sorry for a man who was given the opportunity of a lifetime, to win enough money to forever change his and his daughter's life forever? He chose to pull the trigger. There are alot of people who suffer, from disease, from loss, from financial ruin, and from heartbreak, yet they go on living.
Shame on this "man" for taking the easy way out, and don't tell me I should feel bad for not blessing him.
And what does him being black have anything to do with it? Alot of people, of all races and colors, suffer way worse than he did, and they suffer unspeakable horrors...look around the world! being a black man does not make your suffering any more of a degree than anyone else who is suffering heartache or loss.
There is no RIP for this man....look in the bible, for those of you quoting this and that about being with the Lord..suicide is hideous sin and a cowardly choice.

While watching the contender last night, I was listening to Najai Turpin pour out his soul and could sympathize with his since of hopelessness. I wasn't getting a good feeling about what he was saying. So when Sugar Ray said he had passed. I knew without a doubt that he had killed himself!

To me he was saying his good bye he had fought his battle, he had went back on his word, he had failed despite giving 200%.

God Bless Him we all go through it, some of us pull through some of don't. When I'm depressed I try to be thankful anyway for the life that I have. Thinking of South Africa, Rwanda, people living all their lives with cancer or what have you, it bring me back to the reality that it's not that bad and I will press and make it through.

Regardless of what anyone thinks, Najai has a father and his name is God. His ways are not our ways. Najai and God is handling there business and it's none of nobody else’s

God Bless The Memory of Najai Turpin!

May God bless him and hold him in the palm of his hand. Rest in Peace Najai

Babs...I totally agree 110%

Before I even had the opportunity to watch Najai box, I was already connected to him in away that I couldn’t explain. There was something about the way he interacted with his daughter that placed a smile upon my face. He loved that child and she loved him. His words spoken and his smile, that smile just touched accord in me. It's a feeling that I can't explain. I already had tears in my eyes when I watched him with his daughter before and after the match and then all of a sudden Sugar Ray announced his death. I can't begin to explain to you my reaction to this news. I only remembered teardrops coming from my eyes. I'm talking about heavy teardrops. As I stood there watching television and listening to Sugar Ray, I begin shaking my head and saying "what, what". What is Sugar talking about. I immediately called my niece and her husband who also watched the show and they were as upset as I was and still am.

Unfortunately, Najai was not aware that he had the hearts of many people around the world before even learning of his death. And I guess this is what upsets me the most because he didn't know that he was so loved, so loved by people that didn't even know him personally yet he had a caring and loving spirit that it drew so many people to love him and his daughter. This is something no one can ever take away. He will be remembered not just for boxing, yet for his "Smiling Spirit" of the heart.

As many of you, I didn't know Najai, yet I knew him in spirit just like all of you.

And for those individuals that may have written something negative about his death, I will only respond to you by saying "one must love one self first in order to love or care for another". So when you look in the mirror, you have already answered your questions of why people always responds to you in such a negative way in you life. Remember you have to be careful with the words that you write and speak because you’re only harming yourself especially if those words are pure selfish and pure negative and directed to others.

I am a 46-year mother of a 20-year-old only child and I guess this is another reason why this younger man’s death effected me so much because I’m a mother.

NAJAI, YOU ARE LOVED!

Hello,

Upon reading a few of these posts, I feel the need to chime in regarding some of your thoughts on suicide.

Unfortunately, suicide is not a cognitive choice as so many of you put it. It is the result of a well documented mental illness known as depression. Depression is the result of a chemical imbalance in the brain that is completely uncontrollable by the patient. It is not, simply, prolonged negative feelings, although this can be an ADDITIONAL symptom. People who have depression and feel the need to commit suicide suffer from a medical condition in which they have no control. To try and compare your healthy selves and minds to a mind suffering from depression is an exercise in futility for these minds are wired differently. One who does not suffer from diagnosed depression cannot have a true understanding of the depths in which the disease takes over your mind.

It is very difficult to describe to those who do not have it. The disease manifests itself in such a visible form to others that it is difficult for others to distinguish it from common behavior associated with feelings of sadness.

It is quite the contrary that "they" don't have enough consideration for their family and those affected in their lives. They are fully aware of the consequences of suicide. The mind is incredibly powerful in its ability to shape experiences into conclusions and its conclusions into further actions. This is the essence of human existence and survival. Depression causes disruptive and significant obstructions to this fundamental mental process, changing the way we see ourselves. This takes place at the subconscious level, not the conscious level and therefore is hardly a choice, it is rather an evolutionary solution.

Depression is fully treatable through a combination of psychotherapy and medication. Depression is as much a disease of the mind as lung cancer is to the cardiovascular system. Cells in the brain with neurotransmitter receptors are altered in patients with depression. Just like stress causes blood pressure to elevate, depression causes neurotransmitter production to fluctuate widely. Depression is similar to bipolar disorder, this disease is also fully treatable.

I am no expert but I have educated myself on these disorders and I encourage you to do the same. Hopefully when somebody brings up the notion of suicide as being an inexcusable act, you can sympathize with them and educate their understanding of depression.

Bruno Araujo

I am a very huge fan of the contender and i came to admire Najai for everything he stood for. I was shocked to hear that he had committed suicide. I don't want to critize him for his decision but as a father of a two year old girl, I would never imagine myself doing that. You all have to realize that once you have a baby, she should be the most important person in your life, even more important that you own life. You have to work hard to give her a better life and not take the easy way out and leave her to struggle on herself. My heart goes out to his family but espescially to his daughter who unfortunatelly will never have the pleasure of knowing her father. May god bless Najai and I hope that Mr. Stallone and Sugar Ray can support Najai's daughter.

TO THE FAMILY: WEEPING MAY LAST FOR A NIGHT BUT JOY WILL COMETH IN THE MORNING. BE STRONG AND KEEP GOD AS THE HEAD OF YOUR LIFE AND ALWAYS KNOW THAT GOD WILL PUT NO MORE ON YOU THAN YOU ARE ABLE TO BEAR. MAY GOD BLESS THE FAMILY AND NAJAI SOUL.

Oh wow!
I couldn't believe my ears when Sugar Ray announced the sad news on yesterday's episode of "The Contender".
Najai looked so sincere and determined of what to do with his life.Even though I don't know him, I really do feel touched by his passing.May God continue to be with his family and may Najai's soul rest in perfect peace.

don't tell me I need to be educated about suicide and depression. I work in the medical field so I am educated enough on the subject. And yes, it is a treatable mental illness and this is where you story falls apart. Many millions of people suffer from depression, to varying degrees. But this man was an intelligent man, and he could have sought help and therapy. All he had to do was talk to somebody, anybody. And he would have and could have received life-saving help. And I speak from personal experience. I was diagnosed with depression, so don't write as if those of us who have the guts to write something negative about this subject are just unkowing or not intelligent enough to know the "truth". Truth is, I lived through depression, I know people in my family who have been severely depressed (my brother in law who is a doctor, watched his son die after an auto accident), yet they would never commit the ultimate...suicide...because they know the trauma and loss it would bring on their loved ones.....and that's where being selfish enters this picture.
I don't need to look into a mirror. I'm happy with my life. I've been through horrible times, and I pulled myself out of each and every one of them. I've contemplated suicide. I've been there. This man does not get sympathy from me at all.

bless you while you rest in GOD's hand's now.may your soul be in harmony and your family be protected by the angels from heaven. may you rest in peace now.

and for the comment made by" Posted by T-man on March 7, 2005 10:10 PM "... and by those who try and judge najai for what he did keep in mind..

" judge not or let thee be judge on the day of judgement "...

for hateful words and hateful thoughts towards individuals that do or have done something wrong, remember you TOO will have your day of JUDGEMENT
when you stand before the LORD...

najai you will always be in my heart you are the #1 contender in my eyes i dont care what people say about you . you always belived in your self you never had your head down for anything you always had your head up looking to the sky and now i look up in the sky asking my self why the sunny dont shine any more and when it does shine i know you are looking down at me and my fam we miss you alot and you will always be in my heart love your sister inlaw heather

it's very hard hearing this because i was just watching and thinking how wonderful and sweet hearted of person he is. it's hard to hear this cause you've just seem him. but i best wishes to family. in the memories of najai turpin.

rest in peace

It's amazing how one man's words, actions, drive, tears, tribulations, triumphs, and defeats can effect many, and that man never knows.

RIP to young Najai Turpin, may god bless your family and soul.

To whom ever said "one less person to worry about", I hope god has mercy on your soul, that comment is extremely heartless and calous and indicates you probably don't worry about too many other people besides yourself. The world has suffered a great lose but when we forget about this tommorrow, his poor family will have the pain with them foever! My sentiments differ from many of you. I will not call him a Hero! because he is not, Heros are the men and women that go to work at a job every day, rather the like it or not, when life knocks them down, they brush themselves off and get up for the next round. (Heros)They do all this, rain or shine, for the love of themselves and their family. But I also not call him weak or a coward for committing this act of desperation, although I understand how someone could say he was in fact, being selfish, because IF he was in his right mind and thinking of others, he would of thought of his daughter, that he obvouisly loved, and stopped short of pulling the trigger, Once that is done, there is no turning back! It is unfair for us or anyone to judge his actions so harshly, but More importantly I believe it sends the wrong message, to others, if we call him a Hero. It takes true courage and tenacity for a man to face the world and all that it can throw at you, black or white, and come back for more, in spite of what might be percieved as insurmountable odds working against them... when you see these men(and women) on the streets, in the stores, at the warehouses, on the battlefields, these are truly Heros. God Bless you All and may Najai's family find healing in his hands.

What a selfish thing to do.

Men,nothing bothered me more last night... after i watched the contender.... I really respected Najai, I loved his heart,his personality...and most of all the will 2 keep his word. But losing that match must have left him really devastated. Anyone watching could see it... from the way he cried. I really rooted 4 him 2 win, he was such a talented boxer. I can't remember the last time i shed tears watching T.V... until yesterday... i felt his pain, the love 4 his daughter.... n what that fight meant 2 his family. If only he remembered that in life u lose, and get up another day 2 fight stronger and wiser. I feel sorry 4 his daughter. Soo young, this is the best time she would have needed her father. Najai, i'll keep praying 4 u and your family. May the lord have mercy on you, and bless your family abundantly....May you rest in peace Bro. You were definetely an inspiration 2 all of us.

When I saw Najai with this daughter on the show, I thought,"Wow, I bet he is a great dad!" He seemed to love his baby girl so much, I don't understand how he could do this to her. I realize times can get a little tough, but you have to pull yourself through and realize you have a little one counting on you to always be there to love and care for her. My heart goes out to his family, especially his daughter!

i notice how people say they dont have sympathy towards individual's with suicidal thought's...and i notice how people say they " TRYED " to commit suicide...but it's like what most doctor's have also come up with. The one's who TRY to commit suicide only want attention..And the one's that really do commit suicide i have sympathy for them..Why ? Because they couldn't take the pain they were suffering from. Even if it was personal.Most people who do commit suicide show no emotion or even tell anyone they want to commit suicide..Majority of the time it's the unsuspected who commit suicide..because if you just contemplated suicide all your trying to do is GET ATTENTION...you want people to have pity towards you or feel sorry for you..

I am deeply sadden by this tragedy. I feel soooo sorry for his little girl. She needs her father and it is such a shame that he took his life away from her. NOTHING in life is so unbarable that you would have to end it. That is not of GOD. GOD can and will take care of all of your troubles...as long as you believe that.

It's all been said. Either people feel for him or are convinvced he is in hell for committing suicide. It's not my place to say or judge him. I do know that Najai must have had A LOT of stuff weighing on him to take his life in the car with his girlfriend. Can you imagine what must be going through her head?

Regardless of what side of the fence you stand of, we have lost a talented young man who never knew how many people cared about him. It may be too late for Najai, but we can help make his daughter feel loved by contributing to her future. I want to believe that Najai is looking down on us and thanking us for caring and watching over his precious baby girl.

First my condolences and sympathies to his family and friends. R.I.P. Najai you have touched me personally.

Second to all those people out there judging, Shame on you. Najai seems like the type that tried everything he knew. He did not have a full life of guidance from 2 loving parents, like most of you on this forum. He was shot into maturity unlike most people. It is one thing to provide for your own child, but to take on the resposiblity of your siblings. It is HARD. He had to have been suffering from depression and he must have felt that he would not be able to do right by his daughter, I would bet my life that his daughter was what he thought about last. A father wants best for his child(ren) regardless the consequences.

I pray for Najai, his siblings, his friends, and mostly for his daughter. I pray that she is taught peaceful things of her father and that she learns strength to make it through the rough.

I am going to make my donation to the fund set up for his daughter and I hope that many others do also.

GOD BLESS!!

TO THE CONTENDER FAN: I SEE YOUR JUST AS IGNORANT AS CAN BE... IF YOU READ THE BIBLE COVER TO COVER, THE ONLY WAY YOU CAN GO TO HELL IS TO DENY GOD, AND BLAASPHEME THE HOLY SPIRIT... SO I DON'T KNOW WHAT CHURCH OR BELIEF YOU HAVE BUT READ THE BIBLE... NAJAI DIDN'T COMMIT SUCIDE IT WAS A SUCIDE MURDER... MAY GOD HAVE MERCY ON YOUR SOUL AND SPIRIT FOR BEING SO IGNORANT

You were a champ. Now you can visit your mother. Life is harsh. Take care.

Wow!

I am so sad about what happened. The sadness in me is comparable to the pain you feel when someone close to you passes. I also wish someone could have got him some help.As many have said, no man is fit to judge but out Lord and savor.I must say that it is sad that Najai will never know the positive impact he could have made on perfect strangers lives particularly ones that face adversity similar to his. What a tragedy!He will be missed.

TO MY BROTHER NAJAI: YOU ARE SADDLY MISSED. YOUR NEPHEW WILL GROW AND FOLLOW IN YOUR FOOT STEPS. YOU ARE AND STILL WILL BE THE GREATEST BOXER THAT EVER LIVED. THAT FRIDAY AND SATURDAY WHEN YOU CAME HOME TO US, YOU TOLD YOUR NEPHEW THAT WHEN HE GETS OLDER YOU WILL SHOW HIM HOW TO BOX. WELL I JUST WANTED TO LET YOU KNOW THAT IT IS IN HIS BLOOD AND SPIRIT TO BE JUST LIKE HIS UNCLE. AND I WILL TRY MY HARDEST TO LET HIM ACCOMPLISH THAT GOAL. I LOVE AND WILL ALWAYS MISS YOU. YOUR IN HEAVEN NOW REGARDLESS OF WHAT SOME IGNORANT ASSES SAY, BECAUSE NO ONE KNOWS THE TRUTH. I THANK YOU AGAIN FOR THE GIFTS THAT YOU HAD GIVEN ME, THE GIFT OF LOVE FROM YOUR HEART, IS THE PRECIOUS THING THAT YOU COULD EVER GIVE SOMEONE. AND THAT WAS YOU,,, YOU GAVE YOUR ALL AND FOR SOME THAT WAS GOOD ENOUGH, YOU GAVE LOVE FROM YOUR HEART, AND THAT'S ALL I WANTED. OTHER'S WANTED MORE FROM YOU AND TO ME THAT IS NOT RIGHT, THEY COULDN'T SEE THE NAJAI, THAT GOD GAVE THEM.......KEEP ON FIGHTING, YOUR UP THERE WITH THE GREATEST. LOVE AND MISS YOU ALWAYS YOUR SISTER LISA

I truly disagree with anyone who says that Najai commiting suicide was not selfish. I can't judge him because only God can judge but in my heart i feel if i killed myself and left everyone that needed me or loved me i would be selfish God bless

i am very empathetic towards Najai's family, i pray that the daughter will grow up and be strong, and have a good life, and i pray for his girlfriend or wife whatever it may be, and i just wish that maybe stallone or something could spare some money so that Najai's pride and joy could grow up and be something.............but God has a plan for everything.......Najai seemed like a good man

I am truely sorry for your loss and may god bless the family of Najai"Nitro"Turpin

After reading alot of the comments I am left to remember Najai running with daughter while she was trying to catch him, the sound of her laughter and the love & smile in his eyes and stop trying to understand his reasons for making his last decision in this life. It is hard for those left behind to find peace when one is trying to understand someone elses actions.

For his family, friends old and new, time will heal all wounds, Najai is not forgotten just remembered a lot more.
Now Najai can breathe!!!

i'm sorry i posted again, but to some of you people, never judge where someone's soul goes, only God can do that, and it's not very christlike if your a christian, because if you had a son, would you want someone to tell you that he is going to hell or not........and everyone has different beliefs and you have to respect that........never think your belief is always right, and never try to put your believes on others, well God bless to Najai's entire family

le deseo mi pesame ala familia y asu familiare y hija el era muy bueno pero no tenia que haser eso solo tratar de mejoral por su familia el era un buen bolseador que decanse en paz

I was hooked just because of the contenders previews, but once it aired I felt/ feel as if the fighters were actually in my family! Of course I cried when the show aired Sunday March 20th, 2005 because it would be the last fight "NITRO" would fight and since they broke the news to us before the fight it kind of side tracked me from watching the fight because I was watching him closely for a sign of sadness so I could stop/help him (but in reality i knew i couldn't)! When he lost he was not a cry baby and even ran around the room with Anyae, so those who say his daughter will never know him she has already bonded with him! I mean sure she may not remember but her heart will have already had that forever bond that of a father & daughter.
Angela was by his side @ the fights, but she wasn't by his side truthfully or he wouldn't have ever got far w/ the gun! She holds the key to all answers because she was w/ him in the car requardless if he pulled the trigger or not. When she got out the car he still did it and I think she may have been heartless in conversation (that's the father of your child: never would I allow this kind of act to happen or for words to over power!) Now Angela will have to explain it to Anyae and that could cause a great deal of issues for there mother/ daughter bond in years to come.
To his family all things happen for reasons & not always do the seem right or fair, but each day will make you stronger and help you all to be Anyae's father through spirtit & memories! Also Ayae will lift you all up through her fathers bond which he left in her heart through his last touch/hug, kiss, and wink!
Many say suicide is that of an act of GOD and all who act in such ways will not have a chance in heaven, but I hope this isn't so and God will evaluate the situation and open his gates & allow him to be with his daughter the way he was trying to this night!
If Each True Fan On Here Donates Anyae will grow up and realize all those loyal to her daddy and who were behind him are going to be or were there for her!
Keep Your Head Up & Always Before Acting Out!

I was so saddened to hear this news of Najai. I feel so bad for his daughter that must grow up without a father. I think that many people don't realize the impact that we have on our children by not being there for them, dead or alive. Don't do this to our children.

I hope that this experience will inspire people to take suicide more seriously. And hopefully be of assistance to those in need. We may never understand the deep despair that he felt before taking his own life. But would any of us had done if he had reached to you or me. If he had come to someone and said I'm hurting, and I don't feel like going on. What would we have done talk is cheap when you feel so bad you just want to die.

I had read the story before the showing, but it did not hit me until after the show who this man was. I thought both fighters had great families and wanted no losers in this contest. The little girl was so sweet and the mother of the other fighter touched me as well.

Najai's story of determination was felt in my heart and the heart's of other. He was a good guy who was misunderstood throughout his pain.

I hope for security for his family and the family of the other family.

I never met Najai and only came to know of him from watching a few episodes of The Contender but after reading many of the comments I can only ask... Who are we to judge this man?

It seems to be the way of this country to consistently pass judgement on someone that we dont even know and its sad. We dont know what was in his thoughts or in his heart and to be honest, we really dont know all of the circumstances surrounding his death. With this in mind, why cant we allow the family & friends of this young man to mourn his loss in peace and simply pass along our blessings and prayers? My last memory of this proud young man will be the closing scenes of him running in the dressing room with his daughter lovingly trying to catch him accompanied by the sounds of her laughter.

May God bless his family and friends and help to ease their pain.

I've read about twenty-five or thirty of these postings, and I can't believe the general illiteracy of the respondents. I think their time would be better spent reading than watching another reality show.

Such a terrible loss, He seemed to have everything going for him dispite the loss on the show but one never knows. My heart and prayers go out to his family and friends. May he rest in peace.

Najai, may god have you in a better place and my blessing to his family.

He really touched my heart with all his words that he spoke on the contender. He was a great person, fighter, friend, and father.

I hope only the best for his family !

God Bless!

"FYI: Suicide = Hell

So Najai is having dinner with the big "D" not with our Lord, God.

So maybe God Bless his Burning soul is a better sentiment.

Posted by Its me on March 21, 2005 01:57 PM"

how awful people are,and ignorant of other people's feelings, and we wonder why there are so many atheists, when christians don't act like Jesus, then we can't witness, and i apologize for the person who left that

Sorry you had to go out like this man. God bless you and your family.

I've read about Najai death last month(Feburary).
And yes, its an sad event that someone has taken their life. But it saddens me more to know that he had more to live for. We don't know the true story of it all, and we may never know. To take your life is an unforgiven sin in gods eyes. No matter how many times you've ask forgivness before you actually go through with it, but on the other hand God is an forgiven God. While watching the Contender Najai was an well preserve gentleman. He had taken on the responsiblity of an father figure to his family. He had hopes to become someone.. to give his family something more. He wanted his family to have from what was taken from him at such an young age(mother/father). When he'd lost he'd lost something inside and that was faith. And so perhaps the burden became to much for him.
His dreams were lost and he had nothing to give back to his family. Najai failed to realized that when God closes one door he opens another, God give you chances. God tells us through him all things is possible and if you have faith as small as an mustard seed and just believe in him he will make it happen. Prayer goes a long ways. If Najai prayed just a little more instead of taking the obvious God would of open another door for him for God has seen his pain and all that he had gone through the role he has taken in his life a brother a father a uncle and a provider, God has seen all of these things and his blessing would of been of great measures if Najai would of held on a while longer. Najai was a boxer and an excellent one, perhaps boxing wasn't in God plans for Najai. We will never know. Najai you will be truly missed but always in our hearts. Your light will forever shine amongst us and your family. May your family always be blessed for your present from God will always be known. To your family always remember whenever the sun shines it is he(Najai)smiling and when there is a warm gentle breeze it is he(Najai)holding you along with God just to let you know he is still here. Blessing to all, Lynda

in the fight on the show i was definely rooting for him. I didnt know him and didnt hear of him until the show aired. i am a little guy and so was he. he will be one of my idols as i grow up (other than the suicide part). i think it was impossible not to cry after he was ( knowing he had passed ) my thoughts and prayers go out to his family and friends

p.s najai if youre reading this from heaven tell my uncle i said hi and ill talk to you and him tonight in my bed please talk back

p.s again lighetn up phil

It's shock for me to hear that Najai is already gone to be at a better place, he's a great fighter, he fight for his family and the people around.It doesn't matter he lose or win, he still a champ in our heart. May God bless him and his family.

NAJAI TURPIN... 2000 years and counting ,and the good children of our "GOD" continue to be lost. How can you wonder why the faith of the multitudes grows weaker ? I ask you Lord how is it the devine creator allows the destruction of the creation with such apparent ease.You ask of me to love my neighbor, yet you forsake your children.Please Bless Najai..We need a new era,"Freewill" or not,i ask you to use your hand as historians have claimed to protect your future children and show mercy on Najai's soul.

rest in peace man!

RIP Najai. Now your daughter will no the difference

Najai Turpin i love you to death ur a strong fighter ur the most talented fighter i love u so much!! Najai Turpin fought for his family and he also fought for his daughter!!

May god bless you and keep you ur always in my heart ***

R.I.P

IT REALLY SUCKS TO SEE SOMEONE JUST GIVE UP LIKE THAT!! WITH THE TALENT THAT HE HAD HE COULD HAVE BOUNCED RIGHT BACK. MY HEART GOES OUT TO HIS DAUGHTER WHO WILL NOW HAVE TO GO THROUGH LIFE WITHOUT A FATHER. MY GOD BLESS YOU NAJAI!!

Najai, Najai, Najai....I wish you didn't do that to yourself..I cried watching the episode when you fought Sergio...I know you're in a better place now looking down upon all of us...I love you Najai... RIP

To my dearly departed brother-in-law:

First and foremost I would like to thank GOD for being able to know you and letting us keep you with us for as long as he did. GOD seen your pain and how you suffered and you are such a great man and an inspiration because no matter what you were going through you never wanted anyone to see you down. That's what shocked me the most you always had a smile on your face and no one could see your pain. You never wanted your family to see you hurting. You never wanted to let anyone down so you didn't tell us how you felt or what you were going through because you had siblings, and family members looking up at you for strength. NAJAI I didnt no you on a more personal level but whatever happend that night is between you and the CREATOR. When judgement day comes you are the one who has to be judged by him for what had happened. Personally I believe that you did not commit suicide. I beleive that the devil knew you were a great man, a great man of GOD and the devil and his demon spirits were all over you that night fighting with you and only if you had someone to lay hands on you, pray for you or even just be present to fight them spirits with you, you would still be here. I pray for the those who has any unkind words about the passing of NAJAI (REMEMBER FAMILY MEMBERS VIEW THIS SITE , IF YOU DONT HAVE ANYTHING NICE TO SAY DON'T SAY IT AT ALL AND YOU WILL BE BLESSED)

Najai I wish i would have known you better but your gone.

But your life and legacy will always go on.

your love , your smile and your punch was the best.

Now may your body and spirit lay and rest.

Najai you will always be missed and loved.

But no one can judge but the man above.

Love you forever

Your nephew Marquis Smith and
Sister-in-law Robin Miller.

xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

This is soooooo sad I mean he looked like a real down 2 earth guy!! Then the thing that makes me whant 2 cry is his lil baby I mean what are they goin 2 tell her when she gets older!!

God Bless his Family!!

First and foremost, it is always sad when someone takes their own life.

I casually stumbled upon the show and watched him lose the fight to the "Latin Snake". I knew that a contestant had committed suicide, but I did not know it was Najai. Only God knows his heart and the reasons why he did it, but I can say from a purely human perprective that it's a selfish cowardly way out. Why wasn't he married to his "girlfriend"? Why not make her an honest woman and form a stonger bond as a family? Now he's done the same basic thing to his family that happened to him when his mom died; he has left a woman and her child to go it alone. Lastly, why are there so many posts giving prayers for a dead man? Who we should be praying for is poor Anyae, she's the real victim here. She's also the one who has a chance to stop this pattern of wedlock warfare when she grows up and has kids of her own someday, hopefully with a husband.

This has been one of the sadest things I have heard in the longest time. I mean taking ur life is horible but what can we do!! only prey 4 him 4 the lord 2 fergive him! and God will be there wit his daughter and his family..

Rest In Peace*

only God knows whats best

Najai was so full of energy and it looked as if his daughter meant everything. I am sure she did the way she made him smile and the fun they had. I do not understand how life could be that tough but I have not been put in his shoes. His shoes would be very hard to fill and I give my condelences to his family. He is still a star in my eyes.
Tony Dettore Ortonville, Mi

i agree with the writer who spoke earlier it is a shame a young man with so much a head of him would think he had no option but to quit...

i to wish he would have had or reached out for support... sometime we don't know until times like this how fragile someone we may think to be strong is...

it goes to show we all need the lord... we may try and act like we don't but we do...

Gob bless u NAJAI my prayers are with u and ur familyy

Rest in peace

I will like to thank the people who are taking there time to give a Tribute to Najai.I dont want to be rude but, fuck all the haters who are being stupid and just saying things about Najai and his family. Najai's family keep your head up and stay up.RIP NAJAI AKA NITRO

This gentleman gets no sympathy from me. He is a coward and took the easy way out.

Writers, please ignore the individual(s) that may have written unfaith filled words referencing Najai. Ignore those that critize your positive thoughts of writings. Don't give into the Enemy in his tactful ways and trying to debate! Don't even respond to these people because believe it or not, they are lost individuals with a heart of deep darkness. So continue to write your positive thoughts and know that your words are accepted by many who admired Najai.

After reading so many entries> I'm amazed how so many intelligent people can be so ignorant. The negativity over this young gentleman's death overwhelms me. It seems as if they take pleasure in other peoples pain. Perhaps they should tell us about their lives before they past judgement on others. If you are going to be a Christian then be one,but be a Hypocrite somewhere else. If you don't have respect for the dead then what respect do you have for the living more or less for yourselves. Show some compassion better yet respect for this family. They need our strength.
They need our prayers. Mostly give respect to his daughter, she deserve that much from us.
Remember God has a way for you seeing these days again. He don't forget. You would won't people to give you respect. Before you speak THINK and if you can't think don't speak. Silence will tell alot...Lynda

God bless the family!!
All i gotta say about this is when i watch the show last night i noticed is that befor the fight started His woman did not even give him a kiss or wished him luck or anything!!so as i take it SHE was everything for him and he could not think of being withought her!!!sad for the lil one thought!she is cute but at least she knows that maybe her daddys is better where he is now!NO ONE KNOWS!!

R.I.P NAJAI

I USED TO BE THE BAD GUY.IT WAS ALWAYS ABOUT ME,UNTIL MY SON CAME ALONG.REAL LOVE BEGAN IN EXCHANGE FOR STREET LOVE.I KNOW HOW HE FELT WHEN HE LOST HIS FORSAKEN DREAM AT THE TIME.I LOVE EVERYONE NOW NO MATTER WHAT THEY DO.TRY TO HOLD ON PEOPLE,WE WILL GO THROUGH GOOD AND BAD TIMES.
"I BELIEVE IN YOU"ONE....

My heart goes out to the family and friends who loved Najai. I too lost someone on Valentine's Day a little over two years ago and the pain is still overwhelming. Just watching the Contender, you could definately see the love he had for his daughter. She will miss him so much growing up. My prayers go out to the family.

I think najai is looking down giving thanks for all the love his daughter will be gettin R.I.P

i didnt know najai in person but seeing him in the contender i knew he was a good person inside and out. just by looking at him you could tell he was a really nice guy . he leaves behind a beautiful little daughter and a wife, i know people will donate geneoursly to help your family , you have all touched us , we will miss u najai rip, our prayers are with you

I just want to say to family and the one that was close to him the people that wrote all of that disrespectful stuff up there about Najai dont have a tad bit of common sense to have respect for you all. those are the kind that you have to look over and remember people are going to talk about you when you dead and gone and you cant stop them just look over there stupidity and know that God has to judge them like He has to judge EVERYBODY else .

Just hold on and remember that God has all Power to do every thing But FAIL!!!
Even though Najai is no longer with us you all yet in my prayers!

my thoughts and prayers to the family of Naji the boxer who will always be a hero in my eyes and of the poeple I to have lost a family member just like naji he also killed himself after I watched the last fight between naji and serjigo and after seeing that naji had passed away brought teres to my eyes and filled my heart with sadness and hurt and to the family of naji I send my condolances and prayers on belf of the people of Canada may you rest in peace for ever naji and know you will never be forgotten to us you are a hero and you made a difference in the world and that's what countes so I say to naji as my final words may you rest in peace and may god be with you

Rest in sweet heaven

May God bless your soul Najai, and bless your family.

R.I.P. Najai Turpin 1981-2005
"Great boxer even greater person"

najai sounded like a great guy a guy i would like to be when i grow up. he was well respected and i looked up to him im sorry that he passed away and i will pray for him and the family.

Wow..After watching The Contender last night and hearing what had happened..He seemed like a very bright, intelligent young man..Dying at such a young age..My age in fact..I was so shocked..His story intrigued me completely and defintiely was a shocker in the end..I wanted to find out how he died..and it's so unfortunate that he took his own life..He had a lot to live for but now his daugher can live for him. God bless him and his family as well as his soul. Hopefully God took him in his hands and he is well taken care of now..

it's so very sad that najai had to take his own life. sad and very selfish. he has now left his family to fend for themselves. suicide is never an option. nothing is as awful as burning in the eternal flames of hell. my thoughts and prayers are with his family. keep strong, make jesus number one in your lives and everything will fall into place.

This is such a tragedy. When I heard about it I was in shock. May the peace and comfort of our Lord Jesus Christ be upon the whole .Turpin family. We are all praying for you guys

Naji was a great man and i watched the show for the first time when i saw that epeisode and was shocked. He had a huge heart and i know there was a better place for him to go

I had a shock when just before the credits of the 4th episode, a frame bearing "In memory of .." came on. It's a real sad outcome for someone so young to go out the way he did. Perhaps, the people who was supposed to manage this young talent during the course of this program did not do their job as intended.

Rest in peace, Najai ... you kept it real in the ring. Wished you could have put up a better fight in life.

what was he doing with a gun??

I WANTED TO TELL ALL THE PEOPLE WHO THINK THEY HAVE THE RIGHT TO JUDGE NAJAI THAT ONLY GOD ABOVE HAS THAT RIGHT AND YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT THE FUTURE HOLDS FOR YOU. ONE DAY YOU MAY BE SITTING IN YOUR CAR CONTEMPLATING THE SAME THING. BUT EVEN IF YOUR NOT AND YOU DIE OF OLD AGE, WHEN YOU ARE STANDING BEFORE THE PEARLY GATES ON THE DAY OF YOUR FINAL JUDGEMENT AND GOD LOOKS BACK ON YOUR LIFE TO SEE IF YOU HAD MERCY FOR YOUR FELLOW MAN, GOD MAY ASK YOU " WHAT GAVE YOU THE RIGHT TO JUDGE ONE OF MY CHILDREN? DID YOU GIVE YOUR ONLY SON SO THOSE THAT CAME AFTER HIM COULD BE FORGIVEN FOR THEIR SINS?" WELL WE ALL KNOW THE ANSWER TO THAT, DON'T WE? SO MY ADVISE TO ALL WHO THINK THEY CAN JUDGE NAJAI, IS THAT THEY BETTER ASK FORGIVENESS FOR IT NOW BECAUSE THEY DON'T KNOW WHEN GOD WILL CALL US HOME, AND THEY WILL HAVE TO ANSWER FOR IT THEN.

NOW TO LET EVERYONE KNOW WHY I SAY THESE THINGS: I HAVE LOST A CLOSE FRIEND, A COUSIN, MY CHILDRENS FATHER AND MY OWN FATHER ALL TO SUICIDE AND THERE WAS A TIME BEFORE THEY ALL TOOK THEIR OWN LIVES THAT I TO THOUGHT IT WAS THE COWARDS WAY OUT, BUT I NOW KNOW THAT IS NOT TRUE. THE FOUR PEOPLE I SPEAK OF WERE FOUR OF THE MOST HONORABLE, LOVING AND GIVING PEOPLE THIS WORLD HAS EVER KNOWN BUT THEY HAD GIVEN SO MUCH THEY HAD NOTHING ELSE TO GIVE. YOU JUDGERS SAY THAT YOUR SYMPATHY IS WITH NAJAI'S FAMILY BUT YOU SAY THIS AFTER CURSING HIS NAME, DO YOU PEOPLE REALLY THINK THAT IS OFFERING SYMPATHY? THAT HAVING TO HEAR NAJAI'S NAME TARNISHED LIKE THAT MAKES THEM FEEL ANY BETTER? WELL FROM MY EXPERIENCE LET ME JUST SAY THAT IT MADE ME FEEL WORSE AND THOSE JUDGEMENTS MADE THE GRIEVING PROCESS THAT MUCH HARDER ON ME. SO IF YOU DON'T HAVE WORDS OF INSPIRATION FOR THEM TO READ THEN WHAT IS THE POINT, SO YOU CAN FEEL LIKE THE STRONG PERSON? THE STRONG ARE THOSE WHO KNOW WHAT NOT TO SAY?

MY SYMPATHIES TO NAJAI'S FAMILY, FIND STRENGTH IN ONE ANOTHER, THE FUTURE SEEMS UNBEARABLE AT TIMES I KNOW, BUT LIVE EACH DAY TO IT'S FULLEST AND KNOW THAT WHEN YOUR TIME COMES TO MEET GOD YOU TO WILL SE YOUR BELOVED NAJAI BY HIS SIDE.

NAJAI, YOU LIVED YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST EVEN THROUGH ALL THE HARDSHIPS THAT CAME YOUR WAY AND I THANK YOU FOR BEING IN THIS WORLD BECAUSE I KNOW THAT WITH ALL THE PEOPLE YOU TOUCHED THROUGHOUT YOUR YEARS IT IS A BETTER PLACE FOR IT. I WILL NOT TELL GOD TO HAVE MERCY ON YOUR SOUL BECAUSE HE ALREADY TOLD US HIMSELF THAT HE IS A MERCIFUL GOD. I KNOW THAT YOU ARE THERE WITH HIM AND I HOPE THAT I MEET YOU SOME DAY WHEN I COME HOME.

My condolences go out the family and the beautiful little girl... If there is anything that we can do for the little girl in terms of donations please let us know...

God bless!

Najai always seemed like the best man there.He was so bright and confident. He was just one of those people who you instantly thought they were cool. Me and my brother were in shock at the end of the show and I didn't believe my best friend when she said he shot himself. Najai was such a wonderful man, I can't believe he would do this. Sometimes this world seems like there's no hope and the only way alot of us get through it is knowing that if your a Christian you'll go to heaven and knowing that your friends and family will see you through. We're all with the Turpin family and we should help them get through it.

Najai you were my favorite boxer on the contender. My life goes out to you man.GOD BLESS,FAMILY AND FRIENDS Especially your 2 year old daughter GOD BLESS ALL!

After watching the show last night and learning of Najee death it saddened me. Here was a man who was accomplishing so much in spite of all the trials life had presented him. To take over for the mother he lost in raising those kids is a big trial at that age. I know cuz I was put in the same situation at that age.
First of all, you don't have the opportunity to grieve the loss of his mother. That probably led to his distrust of the world around him.
When you are still learning how to be a man such a responsibity of raising those kids interferes with that process. You never feel you are doing good enough.
Then you have a child of your own,which his love for her was so evident, and loosing in front of her was such a big thing to him. Even though it didn't mean a thing to her.
I can relate to Najee so much,not because of his boxing cuz I wasn't a boxer, but his life experience's were the same. I attempted suicide twice during this period in my life but the difference was I was fortunate not to succeed.
Najee was not a LOOSER he was just lost!!
My prayers go out for his family, his girlfriend, and daughter.
Love, forgive and pray
Greg Goga

My prayer's go out to najai's family and most of all his wife and mother.I am sorry for what happend and the way that it happend,just be strong and keep your head up. I dind't know najai but my dad did get to meet him in the show The Contender, my dad was the security guard there. We feel your pain may god help your family be strong and don't listen to what the stupid peolple say about najai you knew how he was and that's all it matters, there just being ignorant.
IN LOVING MEMORY OF NAJAI
May you rest in peace

the road to life has many turns, We dont always ask for directions when we feel alittle lost. (God bless the loved ones he left behind)

Stop It!! So what if Najai killed himself. I bet you the last things on his mind were his family. You have no right to judge him just because he did this. That is God's job and God's job only!! When he sent his ONE AND ONLY SON to die on the cross so we could go to Heaven the people judged him too saying he was a liar and theif. When really he was coming to save them. Najai sat in that car and thought about killing himself, probably something that a lot of you will think about doing yourself oneday, and he shot himself. BIG DEAL! Tons of you guys are saying how great he was and how cool he was but then later you guys are like he was so selfish. That's not fair. Give him a chance. Think of his daghter, instead of us arguing about him lets all contribute to his daughter's trust fund. How hard would that be, huh? Let's all honor Najai by helping his family thtough this tough time.

Such a TERRIBLE period to a wonderful potential boxer and person! Such sincerity and sportsmanship with his reaction to the loss of his bout. Most gracious at his loss. I am so saddened to the outcome of his life! A loss for us all who love boxing and entertainment in general. The CONTENDER is a wonderful production and the portrayal of Mr. Turpin was done with humility and respect. I do so hope the show is continued and Mr. Turpin is never forgotten! He was so young! You really never know how life will proceed. A great tragic lesson for anyone caring to learn a valuable lesson in the preciousness of life! I will never forget what I learned from this sad story of reality... The best to all who had the luck to know him.

ladys and Gentlemen reaing this you have compeled me to write again I would like to say to the family of naji my thoughts and prayers are with you I would like to espire to be like you and make a differnece in the world and help people like you self to do their best in everything I know one day I will have a abeautiful daughter just like yours I will try and follow in your foot steps you have tought us all something and that is to no give in when things get hard but to keep trying harder until we sucseed and to always do our best in everything and I thankyou for that so very much and may you rest in peace

No one will ever know what was going on in the mind of this young man. My heart goes out to his family.

I want health-you are forgiven.

I want wealth-you are forgiven.

I want happiness-you are forgiven.

I am free through forgiveness and I experience a truly wonderful life. AMEN.

it's sad that life makes you feel so bad and hopeless to the point of doing something so crazy. but i think we all learn something from this. my prays are with his family.

This is for manchi. You have no right to judge a person for something that he or she did in a moment of hardship. Najai had a whole life of hardship. For you to say that he deserves to be in a worse place than he was on this earth is absolutely horrible. RIP Najai

Najai,

You did not know you were soooo loved. Only a true champion receives soooo many wonderful well-wishes. I pray for peace in your next life and I wish your child all the love and happiness that you so much wanted for her.

God bless you in your new life!

I really feel that everyone should help out with his daughter’s fund. I think it’s very hard for a child like that to now grow up with out a dad.

Even if you can contribute one dollar please do, that would make a world of difference.

Thanks
Quote from the Website:

If you wish to donate to a fund for Najai's daughter, make all checks payable to the Anyae Chapple Trust:

J.P. Morgan Trust Company, N.A.
1999 Avenue of the Stars, 26th Floor
Los Angeles, CA 90067
Attn: Fiduciary Services Dept.

Donations made to the trust are not tax deductible donations as this is not a 501(c3) entity

My heart goes out to Najai's family
*Najai is the greatest boxer I have ever seen. It is sad to know that he took his own life. But after seen the show I can tell that he was going through alot. He is a true man. I have never seen a man like Najai we need more man in this world like him. Much respect to you my bother. Much love to Najai family.

Keep ya head up

**No disrespect to Najai family, but for all the people that have nothing nice to say please do not write anything. Ya did not know Najai personally so Stop saying those negative things and have some respect. Let God Jugde Him.

R.I.P Najai

He fought such a great fight. What a humble and sincere individual. The boxing industry should have more such participants. My husband and I were looking forward to seeing him fight again. Our hearts go out to his family. We are stunned - simply stunned. There are no words to adequately describe our feelings.

Najai, at the close of The Contender bout, you commented that you felt that greatness was ahead.

Your courage as a fighter demonstrated your quest for greatness, and the honorable desire to hit life head on. I hope you are with Jesus Christ which is the final greatness any of us will ever experience. May the true great God of Love & Mercy watch over your daughter and loved ones...I am sure they all will miss you.

Much love and respect to Najai's family.

najai sorry to hear of your death man we was just watching your show u have much love from your daughter, wife, i wishn u could have hold on a minute to see your daughter grow up. me and my girlfriend wish u a R.I.P. and send condelonce to your familt and u late mom too. i am trea much love to your daughter. i am also 23. so sad to hear this message. deb and trea

to all you ass hole peolpe out there you need to stop talking bad shit about my brother inlaw ok you dont know him like we do he is a wonderful person inside and out so it takes and ass hole to say some smart shit about him so i wish you stop talking crazy if you dont have anything nice to say dont say anything at all so PLZZZZZZZZZZZ STOP SAYING BAD THINGS ABOUT MY BROTHER ................................. TO MY BROTHER NAJAI I MISS YOU SO MUCH I WISH YOU WAS HERE I WISH YOU WILL WAKE UP AND SAY IT'S A JOKE BUT IT'S NOT A JOKE I CRY ALL THE TIME WHEN I SEE YOUR FACE ON THE CONTENDER I CAN'T STOP THINKING ABOUT YOU .YOU WILL ALWAYS BE IN MY HEART NAJAI. GOD HAS YOU NOW SO WHEN I WAKE UP AND GO OUTSIDE I LOOK UP IN THE SKY AND SAY I LOVE YOU NAJAI YOUR MY SUN AND MY MOON AND THE STARS IN THE SHY NOW NAJAI I LOVE YOU NAJAI NITRO .... LOVE YOUR SISTER INLAW HEATHER.........R.I.P.NAJAI NITRO

My fiance' and I were saddened at the end of the show when Sugar Ray announced the death of Najai. His family is definitely in our prayers.

May God Bless this family . I will pray for the whole family, i am 13 yrs old and I watched the show. Najai was my favorite boxer in the show. I never thought that he would of done something like this because he was having so much fun with his wife and daughter, and when I found out on the show that he passed away, I started to tear up. God Bless this family.

Najai was a really good fighter.I saw his match against the Latin Snake.He was beating him up but despite that he will STILL be a good person in my heart.And also i know he loved his daughter very much and his girlfriend I can tell the way he loved his daughter when he was playing with her.Also he was a great fighter and I will NOT forget Najai "Nitro" Turpin.God will take Najai into his hands and praise him.My heart goes
to Najai's family------------------ Rest In Peace Najai.

Your fan/friend,
Jeffrey A. Jones,Jr

R.I.P Najai Turpin! Our thoughts and prayers are with your family.

I JUST WOULD LIKE TO SAY TO ALL OF THE PEOPLE WHO SHOWEN MY BROTHER NAJAI RESPECT IN HERE WE LOVE WHAT YOU GUYS HAVE BEEN SAYING ABOUT MY BROTHER THANKYOU FOR SHOWING LOVE THANKYOU LOVE NAJAI FAMILY

I am so sorry about to hear of his suicide. To anyone reading this. If you see anyone in trouble, try to show them kindness or give them some help. I wish someone could have helped Najai. That poor adorable girl will be affected for the rest of her life. To anyone else out there who may be considering suicide, there are many people who care out there and you may be missing out on a brighter tomorrow if you commit suicide. You may think your family and friends will get over it but it will affect them the rest of their life.

I would hope that after something like this the contender's would set up a post fight interview with a doctor to maybe stop this from happening again. My heart goes out to Najai, and his family.

I do not know Najai personaly, only through "the contender." But i was soo touched by his life story. I had a great friend who took his own life once and know that he is in heaven. May Najai's spirit live on in "the ring" and be raised up on angels wings in heaven. May he rest in peace with his mother and our LORD above.

AMEN

..MAY YOU REST IN PEACE NAJAI. GOT BLESS YOUR BEAUTIFUL BABYGIRL...

I was quickly flipping channels when i came across The Contender tonight and watched it halfway through. Najai instantly took me as a good person and a down to earth guy that really cared for his daughter. I was disapointed to see him lose, although i was cheering for him the whole time, and how sad you were at the end of the episode (it made me really sad). Then i heard the news of your passing, and i was shock. After reading up on your life i am even more sadden by this story as you were such a genuine pure figure who had a lot of heart. My condolences to the family and i wish your daughter Anyae the best.

I thought Najai was an incredible boxer, but he lacked the love so critical to his life; the longing of his soul could be satisfied only by God, and without the Almighty in his life he couldn't handle anymore. Najai's tragedy wasn't about weakness, it was about unbearable longing to express his love tangibly to his daughter; the perfect source we all need was absent in his life, and we must never allow such a need to go unfulfilled. I was speaking to my dad as we were watching this, saying I might just have to start watching boxing to follow up on this guy (clearly an incredible talent), when they showed the death date... and if he did have God in his life then he's with Him now.

I was voting for Turpin because he was very fast, and I saw that he was very depressed, So all I hope he is very happy were he is so he wouldn't have to feel anymore pain, so he will not have to suffer anymore...... R.I.P NAJAI TURPIN WE ALL MISS YOU....BYE

I just watched The Contender and was cheering Najai on throughout the match. I was devastated in the end to hear the news of his death. My heart hurts for his little girl, girlfiend and family. You could see his love for his daughter was so very strong. Let's all make a donation tonight for this little girl. It will in some way show God's purpose for allowing us all to know Najai.Najai: may God hold you in his arms. And now you are in your mothers arms again as well. Bless your soul.

My thoughts and prayers are with najai's family.

Najai was a great fighter and a strong young man. "Like he said, he just fell short" My heart goes out to his family, especially his beautiful young daughter. Life is filled with problems, and though we may never know why, the lesson is no burden is to heavy for the Lord to bear. I just wished that he had reach out to someone. For us who fell in love with him on the Contender, take time to love one another, treasure the time we have now, for tomorrow is not promised. Always keep an open heart, especially to someone who maybe going through something. May his family be blessed and know that God is good and Najai is at peace now, continue to believe and know that we all have a purpose driven life.

I am truly saddened to hear of the death of Najai. I was drawn to his compelling life, and my heart was with him. I hate that he succumbed to the pressures of this harsh world. I can only say that our father GOD has a plan for everyone. In the loss of Najai, his daughter now has a fund that could change the course of her life. It was through Najai's death that his daughter may live, and I hope that his family can see things that way. She has her father's spirit pouring through her and will one day grow to do great things. Only GOD knows what Najai faced, and why he felt the way he did, and so it should be left to our GOD to place judgement on Najai. I pray that our merciful father has lifted Najai into his loving and wonderous arms. To GOD be the glory.

soooo! sad indeed. my prayers go out to the family and friends of najai. just the sadness of it all breaks my heart all together. my heart aches just learning of the tragic news. much luv to his daughter and deepest sympathy.

I think nobody knows anything other that what they've experienced. Most people, it seems, only think people are feeling the same as they are....It takes some people a long time to figure this out and some never get it.
For example, if you are have a great week and you win 1 grand in the lottery and you get a raise at work and you find out you are about to have a son you've always wanted, its very easy to be blinded by your good fortune and not really realize how others are feeling. Sure, you can acknowledge that others won't bve as happy as you are, but if you think hard enough you will know its more that.
Nobody will ever really know what Najai was feeling until they are there. Once they are there and have past it, they still won't know because they have been blinded by the pride of getting past it with no harm done.
My hope is that Najai's family will do well in the future and there will be very little pain to deal with.
As for the people posting messages about "thou shalt not Judge"....I only wonder if you think criminals should be jailed, because that is a judgement organized by our own design. If you really think about it, all life is about is judgement.....In your parents, in your teachers, in your school mates, in your choice of girlfriend, in you conscious choice of doing the right thing or the wrong thing, in which doctor you will have fix your illness....The list goes on.

Anyway, in this particular case, I judge that this is a sad thing and I wish very much that as little pain as possible is inflicted on the people involved.

I watched the "Nagai" episode for the second time tonight......
How could you not admire this couragous gladiator with such a heart and determination. He fought with his heart and his soul and with a passion that is rarely seen today; unafraid to give it all in return for the dream. He didn't quite get to the top of the mountain and everyone of us that watched felt his pain and swallowed hard as he grappled with defeat and lost sight of the dream. He was geniune and real and that is why it was easy for all of us - to get into his corner and root for him. A kind soul with a big heart and bigger dream. I am so sad that this fighter lost the will to go on. Condolences to his family and little daughter.

It is so heart wrenching to see this happen. He seemed so full of love and strength. I am truly sorry for what has happened and pray his only daughter will have happiness the rest of her life. May God be with you Najai and your family.

It was a great pleasure watching Najai's courage
and physical toughness in the ring. It was also
a pleasure watching the warmness,and love he displayed with his daughter after the fight. Any
one can father a child. It takes a Real Man to be
a DAD. Najai you are a true Gladiator. In every sense of the word. May you Rest In Peace.

To Najai's family who is left here to greive. Please know that God would not put more on you than you can bear. Also understand that it is us who are left behind that hurt the most when we lose a loved one. Hold Anja up before the lord daily. Place no guilt on anyone, and forgive yourselves for anything that you feel you could have or should have done. God has moved in this "thing already" he will never leave you nor forsake you. Be encouraged and remember, death comes also that God may get the Glory.

Now for those who are crying out for help in this posting, move from the place that you are in and cry out to the lord for deliverance, and to others who have genuine concern for you. Self termination is a sin and in the pits of hell shall you lift your eyes upon reaching the other side. Such a soul eternally burn. I said eternally. Suicide is not the way out. Know this.

Networks, Harden not your heart and hear me. Please do not take this tragedy and run on for the ratings, having the world hold their breath for the next clenching tragedy. Be responsible and screen your participants psychologically. This man's life was worth more than 1 million dollars. Too bad he didn't know that. However, i'm sure your CEO did.

Be blessed

Bridget

To Najai: I have never met you yet my heart is so sad to hear about your passing. May God Bless you and Rest In Peace.

Bridgette

MAY YOUR SOUL REST IN PEACE, MAY YOUR CHILD AND FAMILY BE BLESSED AND PROTECTED BY THE BLOOD OF JESUS!

I would've never thought that could happen.I feel bad.I wish his family the best.I'm a fan of the show, and he never looked like the type of person to do that.Well,I hope he's doing better in heaven.GOD BLESS HIM.

Last night I watched the Contender, I was shocked to hear of Najai Turpin passing because he was a good fighter. Najai loved his daughter so much, I don't understand why he would commit suicide. My condolences to his beautiful daughter and his girlfriend and his family. Please contribute to his daughter's fund at www.contender.yahoo.com

I taped Sunday's episode so I could watch it on Monday. I thought it was a great fight and both contenders put up a really strong fight. I felt very heartbroken after I saw that Najai had passed away. He showed alot of heart during the fight and I felt sorry for him and his daughter after he lost. Its only five rounds. But I hate to think that the results of those five rounds decided the outcome of his life. I pray for his family, especially his daughter. Seeing all these post really makes you feel sorry for what happened. Even in one hour you can change the lives of so many.

suicide wasn't the answer, he maybe realizing it now, unfortunately. So sad he couldn't find God in time, just that extra step could have been the one. Shame. God Bless his family, may they find His light, and bask in His glory forever through eternity.

I'm so sorry for Najai. My heart goes out to him and his daughter, the only other person in the world he trusted. I noted that his trust did not extend to his girlfriend...assumedly for good reason!

I'm sure you'll look out for your daughter from above. May all of your dreams for her be realized.

My prayers and thoughts are w/ Najai's family. I watched the Contender last night and really wanted him to win. The love for his daughter won my heart. I didnt know of his passing until last night. It's a shame how depression can take over a person. A big kiss and jug to his baby girl from my family. I have a daughter myself. So people please please donate to this beautiful baby's future.

najai...!!

my name is yeyethe, from the philippines..

ur a great person ..!! u really are...
but why?
u have a beautiful daughter hu needs you!!
and a girlfriend hu loves..
when i saw u in your episode, i thought u r very sweet to ur daughter and i admire u for that...and ur gf loves u...

ur a great fighter. ur strong!!

and when i found out about what happen i cried...
cause ur daughter lost u.. i feel bad for her.. it's hard to grew up w/ out ur father...
i will pray for u... and for ur family..

godbless
and god have mercy on u....

god is good and he will take care of ur family...

I know now ur forgiven....

to ur family:

god bless them specially ur daughter...
i'll pray for them always i promise....

A GREAT BOXER WITH A GREAT HEART
NAJAI R.I.P

Najai was a great guy, i just hope that his family will be alright. Donate to his daughters fund at contender.yahoo.com it'll help. Remember, even people dat don;t know you have love for you in their hearts Najai

As-salaam-u-alaikum

These fighters are all trying to live their dream and take care of their families. that is what makes this show so different from many of the other reality shows. Once your family is involved it brings you to new levels of determination you thought you never had. Remember when you could have an argument with someone then they said something about your mom? It was ON! We get into their lives and see how hard they train how much heart they have. When they flashed Najai's face with the tribute I couldn't believe it. The first thing i thought of was his beautiful little girl and how she nearly brought me to happy tears on the show. Having a little girl myself it changes a man emotionally, Najai loved his daughter with all his heart that was easy to see after how down he was and still managed to get up and play with his lil' girl. As a member of the fdny, in this crazy world, i am faced with the thoughts of leaving my baby girl fatherless and it drives me to tears every time. I pray to GOD i'll never leave her and i pray for Najai's baby girl and family to have the strength to get through this, and may GOD answer those questions they have. Naj is at peace with his mom in heaven and will check in on them from time to time and keep them safe. Step up, dig deep if you can, make a donation to help out that family your reward is peace of mind. So here's to you Nitro you lived your dream real life Rocky...You will be missed.

Najai,

Alot of people wont understand you ,and not even know why you did what you did.I hope you are at peace, and as people say, when one door closes, another opens, I pray to god, your daughters trust fund enables her to have what you never had and couldnt provide. My prayers are with your loved ones at this time.

Godbless you.

Jose.

P.S everybody donate..goto www.contender.yahoo.com

I just caught the show concluding with the tribute to Najai and was truly moved. Just prior to the conclusion I was thinking about how impressed I was by him, and wondered if he might find his way to coaching somehwere in the NE. It was incomprehensible to me that he met this ending, so accomplished and with such promise.

That being said, I have suffered from mild to more serious depression from time to time, and realize that rational "reasons" are not necessary for despair. I remain impressed by him, and wish the best for his family during what are surely difficult times.

jackie parker doesn't think najai was old enough at 23 to be going through anything painful or "crucial". you must live a very sheltered life. age has nothing to do with the cards that life deals you, or what pains and pressures you go through. we all are entitled to our own opinions, but i think it's very misguided of a person to think that just because one is young, he/she couldn't possibly be going through anything "crucial".

To Najai's family I am truely sorry. It was a terrible loss. Any suicide it terrible. And yes God will stand in judgement as to the fate of Najai because only He knows what was in the young mans head to cause him to do such a thing. If for some reason this young man thought there may be a possibility that the Contender would do what they have done if Najai was not here this all may have been done out of selfless love for his daughter???? Maybe reaching.

As an aside Kay (March 21, 2005 08:49pm post) you are an idiot and really need to read The Book you are discussing and do not preach to use about things you know nothing about.

najai was a great boxer i wish he was still here so ne day he would be able to go pro listen im only 12 & i dont really understand death but i know that when a person is doin somthing he loves to make his family better & has a preshis daughter like he did it isnt rite to kill your self he died sooo....young & i also dont know if he killed him self cause of the show or cause of the dispute between him & his G/F but i kno that u shouldnt kill your self over stupid stuff im tryin to tell people live life dont kill it like i said i am young but i think i know what death is & it is somtihing that shouldnt happen najai GOD BLESS YOU!!!!!!!!!!R.I.P. I WOULD ALSO LIKE TO GIVE MY HEART TO NAJAI'S FAMILY

IN LOVING MEMORY OF NAJAI TURPIN R.I.P.

Seemed like a great guy R.I.P Najai

Angela Chapple,

Not once should you feel it was your fault or there was something you could do. Continue being the best mother you can possibly be to baby Anje and let her know her father was a great young man who maybe lost the fight against Sergio but won the hearts of many.

GOD BLESS YOU,

L.S. Lockley,
Atlanta, GA

God bless you, wherever you may be...

Me and my dad just finished watching the show, and we were shocked to find out that Najai had passed. I thought that maybe he was shot by some one (living in philly and all)my dad thought that he killed himself, but when i looked it up on the internet it said that he had killed himself. So my dad was right. I am so disappointed to hear of this news. After he lost that fight and hearing what he had to say about losing, I thought to myself, this guy is going far with an attitude like that. He seemed really strong. But now we will never know and that bothers me. It totally breaks my heart. My dad said that we will be contributing to the fund for his daughter. Our heart and prayers go out to everyone in the family.

Najai's reasons for not trusting "anyone" else in the world are his own. The world can be extremely cruel to people with huge hearts, Najai, a man of his word ,entrusted in himself to not let his daughter down. For a man of his conviction.. losing was unacceptable and the pain he felt was obviously unbearable. May God bless his soul. For everyone reading this, be kind to your fellow man, it may make the differnce in preventing the next Najai tragedy. A donation in his daughter's name is the least we all can do for the impact he had on so many people in such a short span of notoriety, there are hundreds of Najai's who will never be known, but hurt just the same. Take care of your fellow man! Peace out.
The "LOBINATOR"

may God have mercy on your soul for ur shameless act.

If only you knew how many lives you touched, I wander if you'd still be here today? You were a good man and great fighter, with a big heart and will to win. Remember only god can judge you. May god bless you and your family!

LIFE IS CRAZY AINT IT! MY CONDOLENCES GO OUT TO NAJAI'S FAMILY,ESPECIALLY HIS DAUGHTER. I FOUND IT SO CUTE HOW SHE ROOTED FOR HER FATHER AND FELT HIS PAIN. TO HIS SISTER I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL I LOST MY OLDEST BROTHER TO A GUN, BUT BE COOL AND KEEP YOUR HEAD UP GOD WILL WORK IT OUT. I FIND PEOPLE VERY IGNORANT WHEN THEY SAY THESE HORRIBLE THINGS ABOUT HIM WHEN THEY DON'T KNOW HIS PAINS AND HIS TROUBLES. LISTEN, I SAY PRAY ABOUT IT PRAYER CHANGES THINGS AND I JUST WAS SO STUNNED AT THE END OF THE SHOW. I JUST THINK ABOUT ANYAE AND IT MAKES ME WANT TO BREAK DOWN AND CRY IT REMINDS ME OF MY NIECE WHO IS GROWING UP W/O HER FATHER AND NOW AT THE AGE OF NINE SHE HAS QUESTIONS. IT'S JUST SAD THINKING THAT SHE'LL HAVE TO GO THROUGH THAT IN THE FUTURE. SHE WAS A DADDY'S GIRL CLEARLY JUST LIKE MY NIECE.

It was just crazy knowing how the whole thing was going to turn out by the end of the show. You knew this was the show he was going to lose and the way it unfolded seemed so horribly surreal. You couldn't help but root like hell for him throughout the show. By the last round, I just watched and it seemed like his spirit was just leaving him as it became apparent to him what the fight's final outcome would be. I felt really bad for him and it just seemed wrong the way that Sergio was showing him up near the end. It felt like I was watching one of those Iraqi insurgents cheering over it's victims. To his defense, he didn't know what was eventually going to happen, but I just felt sick watching it.
It was also tough seeing how much he really loved his daughter afterwards. She was the only thing he had going for him. I guess he felt he let her down and had no use being around if he couldn't support her the way he wanted. I sometimes get that feeling with my kids that I can't ever fail to give them everything they ever wanted. The way he mustered up the energy to play hide and seek and they way she gave him the gentle patting hugs just choked me all up. It all didn't make sense to me by the end how this could ever have happened. I wouldn't ever be able to fathom having my kids wonder why their daddy didn't think they were special enough for me to stick around for them. There's no one in the world that will ever love you unconditionally like your mom and dad, no matter how hard they try. Now half of that love is gone. I know for sure that Najai would turn this all around if he could, seeing what he left behind. It's just too bad no one can ever feel the hurt of something like this before taking this uncorrectable action.
God bless all who knew Najai. You have a huge love void you have to come together to fill for that little girl, as Najai had a big heart for her.

I just wanted to say to Najai's family that my prayers are with you. I watched the show tonight and it was my first time seeing the show, I was rooting for Najai and I just pray that he knows in his untimely demise that so was his family. Although I do not know them I know that they loved him, and the love he had for his child was unspeakable and undescribable. I hope that you all take this great loss that you have encountered, one day at a time. May you finally hve peace Najai. ONCE AGAIN MY PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU NAJAI, AND YOUR FAMILY.

Najai u were one of the greatest fighters in the world and did it for the best of reasons. selflessly you fought for your family and most importantly your daughter. you are a true man, a true American hero. I'm not sure why you had to do this. maybe from all the pressure, but either way we will all miss you a great deal espescially your daughter. i hope that u may find some peace now wherever you may be.
-a true fan and supporter....Dominic

I am absolutley heartbroken that Najai took his life. Watching him on The Contender made me root for him to succeed and live out his dream. He obviously loved his daughter more than anything and was a great father. This makes this event that much more tragic and leaves me with a question that has been eating away at me. Did Najai really want this or was it a spur-of-the-moment mistake brought on by an overwhelming feeling of emotion? Based on what I know I would guess it is the latter, which is really bothering me. Although I did not know Najai, he left a large impact on me in a short time, and my heart feels shattered for another lost life of a great human being and child deprived of a great father. Only if this didnt happen. I will donate to Najais fund for his daughter. Rest In Peace Champ

I watched "The Contender" for the first time Sunday night and fell so deeply in love with Najai and his love for his family... I do not think this is a selfish act I think of this as a young man with so many issues that NONE of us could even compare to... I do not think we have the right to judge him on the choice he decieded to make..all my love goes out to his daughter and his family I only wish everyone in this world could one time meet a NAJAI "NITRO" TURPIN in his or her own life...

RIP NAJAI "NITRO" TURPIN great ones will never be forgotten and we will never forget you

MAY GOD BELSS YOUR SOUL....

So sad to know that shows like "the contender" seem like the only hope and chance for anyone to get recognized. When you take a kid of the streets and place him infront of the worlds sight and fails just like most of everything that surrounded him what would you expect? Sure it makes good TV. Making money of the crushed dreams of those who fail is the business of shows like the one mentioned. The chance that it claims to give called "the big shot" is a smoke screen to for the real shot that actually happens to people like Najai. Think about it... These kids are putting heart into this show where only one will succeed or win (or will he?) the others are tossed out and told better luck next time. When is their next time?? Najai may you rest in peace and may your beautiful little girl overcome all obstacles that will be in her way. With much respect. Mark.

I REALLY DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO SAY, IT IS REALLY SAD. SUCH A CALM AND POLITE PERSON, BUT SEEMS THAT THERE WAS A STORM OF WORRIES FOR HIS CARED ONES HIDDEN IN HIS BEAUTIFUL HEART THAT OVERTOOK HIS LIFE. MORE WORRIED ARE WE ABOUT HIS DAUGHTER, BUT WE KNOW AMERICA IS THERE TO TAKE CARE OF HER AND KNOWING THIS NAJAI'S SOUL WILL REST IN PEACE.

YOU WERE A CHAMPION NAJAI AND WILL ALWAYS BE "IN OUR HEARTS".

A FAN.

Najai, you had so much to live for. We all miss you so much. From across the globe, boxers all over the world mourn your passing. MALAYSIA

"There's no reason for me to feel the agony of defeat, when I fought with my heart. I gave it my all. Every single second. I digged in deep. Just got to keep on fighting, thats all. keep on punching." -Turpin

From what I have read in articles, and from what I saw on tv, Najai Turpin was a great man. He represents everything that this world needs. Men who fight through tough times, love their families, and appreciate the little things they have. It's so sad knowing the amount of pain, and suffering he went through. Like others have said, only God can judge him...not us. Many others, and I, will continue to pray and wish him the best of luck, wherever he may be.

The loss of Najai deeply saddens me..he had so much to live for and yet,he had to end it just like that.I hope we learnt something out of this.my heart goes out to Najai and his family.through The Contender,Najai will truly be missed all around the world.SINGAPORE.

My Condolences to the Turpin Family. I cried when I heard About the tragic after the show. I am 26, and workin hard as he did inspired me to Work hard as i can and support my family liked he always talked about every time they showed his face on camera. GOD BLESS THE TURPIN FAMILY. R.I.P. THE TOTAL PACKAGE

Najai 'Nitro' Turpin,
You are truely a boxer with heart. In this profession, many come and go and very few ever stand out. You are one of those few who has a huge heart and strength from within. You have shown courage, pride and most of all dignity. I respect your strength in character to choose a bigger fighter in the 4th episode of 'The Contender'. In my eyes and to many you are still the winner of that fight. You have been an outstanding man who has unfortunately lived a life of hardship. You will be missed by the entire "Contender" family and millions more. Thank you for showing what true heart and human spirit is, as an example to all. I will pray for your daughter Anyae and your girlfriend. I pray to the Lord to have mercy on your soul and to rest your soul in peace. God Bless, to the Turpin family.

It is sure not right to judge or condemn this man, since being fallible as well, we are subject to judgment. However, we have a right and a duty to pronounce judgment on his actions, whether right or wrong, and in this case without condemning him, killing himself is certainly very condemnable.
It may seem a courageous thing to some for one to take ones own life. However, I've been at the brink also; at the edge of the cliff, and it sure didn't feel courageous in contemplating jumping off. Giving yourself for another's sake is the ultimate act of sacrifice and it takes courage to do so. To kill one’s self by suicide is no sacrifice at all; rather it is an abdication of sacrifice; a supreme act of selfishness, a very cowardly thing to do. It cost nothing and doesn’t take much to kill one’s self, besides ample amounts of self-loathing and foolishness. It takes a great deal more effort and courage to live and endure the trials and tribulations of this world without blowing one’s head off.
The tragedy of it all is that Suicides, expecting a perfect world, struggle to reconcile themselves with the realities of our imperfect world, and faced with the futility of it all they try to balance things out by simply removing themselves from the equation of this world. An overwhelming sorrow!!

I watched the contender for the first time tonight at the request of my 25 yr old daughter... she told me the story as the show began... this was a rerun... I told her I did not want to watch it knowing how it would end... I did not want to put a face with the story I had just heard... I have a compassionate heart and I tend to feel anothers pain!... Like Mike 3/21/05 9:39 PM, I too saw the moment Najai gave up the fight!... I saw the punch that seemed to cause a little disorientation... I saw the look in his eyes just for a moment as he looked up into his opponets eyes... I heard Angela say...FIGHT BACK... he was tired... he was hurting and he was heartbroken... he was not selfish... he was selfless... at the tender age of 18... he took on more responsibilities than men twice his age are willing to do... may he be blessed for that alone!... he loved his daughter... there is no doubt... he loved her more than he loved himself... personally, I do not think his baby girl should have been allowed to see her daddy fight... just as love has a thousand faces... so does suicide... everytime Najai walked into the ring his life was on the line... just one blow to the head can kill anyone... yes he made the choice to pull the trigger... I will never believe it was because he lost that fight... he did not lose his faith in our Creator... he lost faith in himself... still it had nothing to do with the loss of that match with Snake... in my heart of hearts I believe Najai hit rock bottom... he was not going to be with the woman he loved for reasons that are of no concern to me... what concerns me is, I believe, he believed he was losing his daughter... she was his life, his reason for living... that is evident... no, suicide is not the answer... unfortunately a desperate dying heart sometimes seems to see that as the only way to end the pain and frustration... I lost a brother to suicide by hanging, he couldn't take his physical pain any longer... I lost a brother to that woman we call whiskey, he could not wipe out the memories of the Viet Nam War... I lost a close family friend who was like a daddy to me, he pulled the trigger after saying he couldn't take it anymore, "my daddy" was killed thanks to high winds, a drunk tool pusher, and a 40 ft fall to the floor and 5 ft bounce to the ground breaking every bone in his body... "my father," his heart exploded thanks to fried steak, taters, black coffee, camel cigarettes, coors light and younger women... I lost a good friend to cancer because she smoked like a frieght train, couldn't that be suicide... I could go on and on with the deaths of my family and friends by suicide, accident and even murder... I won't... their deaths matter to no one in here but me... if I believed my loved ones were all in the pits of hell because they took their own lives I would not be able to sleep at night and before long I am sure I would drive myself to join them! My God is a God of love and understanding, He also knows all there is to know about me! My life was planned before I was layed in my mothers arms... from the moment I took my first breath to the moment I will take my last... He knows exactly what I will do with my every second that I breathe! He knows how when and where I will take each breath up until I take my last, be it natural causes, accident, murder, or suicide! I do not know only He knows! God is a merciful God... It is not where we were going and what we were taking with us... it is where we have been and what we leave behind that matters... and look at what Najai left behind... a father's love for his daughter that people from all around the world saw and cannot deny... a young man of 23 who took on the world when he wasn't old enough to buy a beer! God will judge us by what is in our hearts... Najai was a fighter, he knew he had faught his last fight, he hung up his gloves!
The Only Unforgivable Sin Is Not Believing HE Is, Was and Always Will Be!

Here I am, a Norweigian ex-amature boxer, thinking i was just gone watch the newest epsisode of contender and it was fun, until right before the end credits. It broke my heart. I was in shock, couldn't believe that the young, healthy Najai, with that beautiful daughter who he seemed really loved, with all his heart, could come to the point of suicide. I felt bad for cheering for Sergio. The outcome of that fight i guess actually killed Najai, indirectly.
First of all i'll finish with a sentence to Sergio whom for the rest of his life will question himself, if i had lost, Najai would still be here with his daughter. Sergio, you are a man with a destiny, just as Najai had. Learn from this tragedy, feed on the pain and let go of the guilt. The best thing you could do is Win the Contender. So that Najai's last fight, he lost against the best.
Finally, to the beautiful daughter of Najai. Your dad was a fighter, a proud man. I have so much respect for what your dad did when his mommy died. It seemed like your father carried alot of pain. I myself had a bad childhood, so i can relate to it, i understand the nature of the pain of lost childhood. I'll promise you, the last Najai did before he went to heaven was thinking of you.
Najai, short life, big man, I hope you have found your peace wherever you are.. And no worries Najai, your daughter has alot of people in the world that's got her back!! Peace Brother!

I JUST WANTED TO CLARIFY SOME THINGS..MANY MIGHT BELIEVE THAT NAJAI KILLED HIMSELF AFTER LOOSING THE FIGHT TO THE "LATIN SNAKE" BUT THAT INFACT IS NOT THE CASE. THE SHOW WAS SCHEDULED TO AIR ORIGINALLY IN NOVEMBER OF 2004 SO ALL THE FIGHTS WE ARE WATCHING NOW WERE PRE-RECORDED THAT IS EXCEPT THE MAIN EVENT WHICH WILL BE LIVE IN MAY. (SO THE TRAGIC LOSS OF NAJAI HAPPENED A FEW MONTHS AFTER HE LOST THE FIGHT TO SERGIO). DUE TO NETWORK CONTROVERSY THE CONTENDER HELD BACK ITS PREMIERE UNTILL FEB 21, 2005..SADLY NAJAI'S DEATH HAPPEN 7 DAYS BEFORE THE PREMIERE. SO THE SHOW HAD IN TRUTH BEEN FILMED LAST YEAR. LOOSING THE FIGHT ALTHOUGH MIGHT HAVE HAD AN IMPACT ON NAJAI'S DECISION BUT WAS NOT THE MAIN REASON LIKE MOST OF US FEEL SINCE WE ARE BARELY WATCHING THAT TAPING. NAJAI WAS GOING THROUGH PERSONAL ISSUES THAT NOONE WILL EVER KNOW. IF YOU KNEW HIM YOU COULD NEVER CALL HIM SELFISH BECAUSE THAT HE WASN'T!!!!!!

REST IN PEACE CHAMP!!!!!!! GOD BLESS THE FAMILY

my comdolences to the family of NAJAI, i was shocked when sugar ray lenard spoke after the show that NAJAI was dead, and only to find out in this website that he commtted suicide... that was really sad.. again my condolences

"Nitro"

Man God have mercy on your soul.

Rest in Peace

My heart goes out to Najai and family. I didn't know Najai very well but watching the "Contender" on tv i liked the guy. For whatever reason it was the he did this will probably never be known but I'm asking that noone hold this against him. He seemed like a loving father and a very nice young man. I'll pray for you Najai, God rest your soul.

saw the episode and recognized the beguilling smile and eye aversions that indicated ANOTHER BRICK IN THE WALL (credit: pink floyd whose lead singer and founder is a functional NUT TO CRACK) everyone on the show saw it as Sergio Mora stated on the show; but DENILE is mo' dan a River in Egypt. Najia spoke about the self doubt and hoplessness and its sad that nobody steped to the brotha and gave him the hug he was looking for. yeah you want to smack him and say "MAN-UP, son! life is problems and livin is dealing with those problems so get busy livin or get busy dyin!" but even stevey wonder could see that this kid needed someone to play playstation with, someone to listen to how he missed his mom, how scared he was to having to take care of his family (siblings and his little one), and how he felt like how he couldn't live up to the unspoken promise he made to his deceased mother to take care of the family in her absence. his childhood was discarded. he worked while everyone else had a good time and he faced REALLITY while everyone else led a "Normal" existance. It's sad because all he had to do was make it to the morning and he may have learned what we've all learned. no matter how bad it gets the sun will rise, water will still be wet, and the sky will be blue again. sorry you lost it son and may god bless your little one anyae. BTW his lady nailed it when she wispered in his ear she don't know the difference and neither do I, all she knows is daddy is sad etc. I'm sure she's been trying to keep this broken vase of a man together and in one moment of weakness she couldn't stop to find the right thing to say or do to stop the waves of depression he was lumping on her. Unfortunately you never know when your lack of action is the Wrong time.

may god have mercy on ur soul najai....
dont watch boxing much but after watching last nite fight knew u were a good fighter....
r.i.p najai.....

God Bless.

Saw the episode of The Contender and it broke my heart when Sugar Ray spoke. Being a huge fight fan I saw unlimited potential in Nitro. All I can say is my blessings and my condolences go out to the families. And for his daughter...may she remember that her father always was and will be a champion! God Bless.

a reason to live: your daughter

NAJAI WAS A COWARD AND ALL THOSE CONTRIBUTING TO THIS FUND FOR HIS DAUGHTER ARE MISGUIDED...IT WAS SET UP TO WARD OFF A LAWSUIT IF HIS DEATH WAS FOUND TO BE BECAUSE OF THE SHOW...HIS DAUGHTER SHOULD NOT BENEFIT..OTHERS LOSE THEIR PARENTS TO SUICIDE SHE IS NOT SPECIAL...THERE ARE MILLIONS OF KIDS RAISED ON WELFARE AND HER MOTHER NEEDS TO GET A JOB...SHE PROBABLY ALREADY HAS ANOTHER MAN!!!!!THE CHILD GETS A DEATH BENEFIT FROM SOCIAL SECURITY!!! GIVE TO CHARITY IT MEANS MORE TO MORE PEOPLE...HE WAS ON A SHOW FOR A FEW EPISODES AND FAILED HAVE NO PITY FOR HIM...IF YOU WANT TO PITY HIM THEN PITY HIM FOR NOT BEING A REAL MAN AND FACING HIS TROUBLES AND FOR DUCKING OUT OF THE RESPONSIBILITLY OF RAISING HIS DAUGHTER AND LEAVING IT FOR US TAX PAYERS TO FOOT THE BILL!!!!!!!

As a mature retired African-American college professor
who has lived a long and largely privileged life - when
contrasted with far too many others - I have been
profoundly and deeply affected by the tragic suicide of
the gifted but troubled young fighter, Mr. Najai Turpin.
Though, in what seems to have been a depressed
emotional/psychological state, Najai, unpredictably and shockingly, killed himself, his relatively brief
existence on this earth should not and cannot be
viewed as a failure. He came into the world in sordid
circumstances of extreme poverty and deprivation,
losing his beloved mother when he was only 18 and,
despite his heartbreak and lack of a father figure,
assumed the burden of raising and supporting his
siblings, in a menacing and tough neighborhood.

Nitro, as he was known to his friends, achieved so
much in terms of self-respect, dignity, love [of his
young daughter & his family & friends], attainments,
and as a role model for youths seemingly "trapped" in
the ghetto [he gave them hope through his achieve-
ment]. His infectious smile and grit won Nitro admirers
the world over, and all humanity is, in some ways,
diminished by his inexplicable loss.

I will send my contribution to the Nitro trust fund set up
for his daughter, but, above all, he will live on in my
thoughts and prayers. May he find the lasting peace
and happiness that somehow, despite his triumph,
seemed to have eluded him in this world.

For other young men and women of Nitro's
generation and circumstances, take both heart and
hope from his attainments and his example of hope,
courage, perseverence, and love of others.

Contre fortune bon coeur ["against ill fortune, have a
stout heart"].

PEACE !

To: Compassionate Heart

THANK YOU! You expressed yourself very well. I hope those that read your writings, will stop condemning this young man. Your story touched me and I truly hope the hearts of Najai, yours, minds and others that shares our feelings will one day join us in our quest to bring back the pure heart that man once had but lost.

It crushes my heart to read the hatred of people even in death towards another that they know not of. I agree with some of you who pointed out that we don't know the real story of exactly what happened. We all read what is posted on the websites and draw our own conclusion and this is where we mess up. We need to stop accepting everything that the media put out because a lot of the news reports are inadequate. It amazes me that people are willing to accept lies then truth. Think about it, negative reports in our society gets the most attention while the positive reports receives so little. Even when learning the truth people tends to focus on the lies. So when you think of Najai, please think of the positive things that he has done in his life. And if you can’t do this, just give him the credit for just living this long.

In reading some of the responses here, there are those who expressed that they had a “hard life” growing up too. Well guess what, you too should applaud yourselves as well for living this long and having the belief to live even longer. You see no matter what obstacles you are facing, just remember that obstacles and circumstances are apart of all of our lives and it doesn’t last forever, only if you allows it to. Remember that you have control of your lives.

When all of this has been written and read referencing Najai, I hope that many of us will have the pure heart that we were born with restored within us. And may be, just may be we all will be able to speak more positive and not negative about any unfortunate tragedy of ones life.

Love To ALL OF YOU

Valeria, an earlier writer to this site

i believe najai was a o.k fighter, but he was off the show for a reason, i fee sorry for his daughter and that she will never really get to know what her father was about. i believe no one should take their own life, god has that responsibility.

When I watched the end of the show, I was sure it was a suicide.

I don't mean to spout cliches, but this is a tragedy. My heart goes out to his family and may his spirit rest in peace.

R.I.P. Najai Turpin

It is such a tragedy to hear someone commit suicide for any reason. Honestly, I can’t fathom the experience of extreme depression. Had I ever, I still would not escape through the back door. Although I did not personally know the man, The Contender made public a man and his dream, and I feel a sense of sadness as well as anger. Sadness because a man so young made such a daring and irreversible decision, and anger because the decision was also selfish. He spoke of using his loss on the Contender as a learning experience. What can he learn now? How to hurt his family? How to quit? Or perhaps his spirit now knows the fact that suicide should NEVER be an option. I feel for his daughter the most. My niece lost her father when she was 3, shot after a party in New York, and all she has for honorable memories are the ones we portray to her through stories. No matter how you put it, death never hurts just the individual. There are scores of people affected by Najai’s decision as we can see with this blog. I had respect for the man. He was a fighter in the ring and out of it. Yet he gave up on himself and his family, and most of all, he gave up on the power of our Lord. Please, to all who have read this far PLEASE don’t give up. No matter how horrible, terrifying, and pointless life can be at that point in time, DO NOT GIVE UP!! Even if you feel like the world has turned its back on you and NOBODY loves you, someone does love, His son, the savior of the entire world. Hitting rock bottom is not the end. Drilling through that bottomed out rock to an all-time record low is STILL not the end. Had Najai trusted in Him to help him out of whatever troubles he was facing, he could have grown to be one of the strongest fighters of all, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Living with the pressure may seem unbearable, but the Lord is the answer to all problems. I’m sure Najai knew that, but did he truly believe, did he truly have faith, because prayer does not work with hope or desire, it works by faith. May the Lord bless his family and have mercy on his spirit.

my heart truly goes out to najai, i do not even know him an i cried like i had know him for so long .My God have mercey on his soul

I dont know what can push a person to go as far as to take there own life, but that doesnt make them a bad person, there is a reason for everything and God works in mysterious ways. Rest in Peace Najai

No excuses for the man, but seeing the first episode, a man with a good heart fighting to have a 180 degree turn around in his life and provide a life of comfort for his family. And then 5 rounds later, its gone. That broke my heart and i cant imagine how the boxer feels who has all this weight on his shoulder only to fail. There are other alternatives in life but to have the golden egg in front of you only to be taken away is a heart break. Najai, may you watch over your family and be their guardian angel, and may your soul rest in peace.......

Sad thing has happen in a reality TV show. I feel Contender show should have offered in advance for even defeated persons with some kind of Cash or any position.

I've watched The Contender faithfully since the show first started airing. The West Coast is my team, but I betrayed my team when I first saw a glimpse of Najai. Especially, the way he interacted with his little girl. My heart goes out to her. Anyways, Najai won me over. I wanted him to win Sergio (o'well if that meant my team had to endure their first loss). When it came to pass that Najai would not be the victor it's the first time since I've been watching the show that instead of jumping up and down and all around cuz my team's guy did it again...I sat very sadly because Najai had lost...Then I saw Sylvester meeting up with Najai telling him he did great and he had won everyone's heart...I was tripping because telling everyone in the room "wow, holy cow, that's the first time Sly's ever went after a match and talked to the guy who lost the fight"...Next thing I know their posting the "In Loving Memory Of..." and it gave me goosebumps and made me terribly sad. We will never know what truly caused Najai to hang up his boxing gloves for evermore, we can speciculate all we want...most of you will pass unwanted judgement. All I really gotta say...is Sly was right he won lots of hearts...mine, especially.

I've never watched the contender before this morning. I had my comcast DVR start recording the series for me. I’m not a big boxing fan but honestly I’m compelled to watch more of it since Fight Night 2004 came out. Say what you will, that game is bad ass.

Initally I wanted Najai to win the fight against Sergio because I saw how badly he needed to. I could sense what kind of upbringing he had by the way he distanced himself from everyone else. Having lost my mother to HEP C in 2003 and my 16 year old sister to a murder in 2004, I have learned that if you choose not to get close to others it will be easier to deal with the loss. As opposed to the quote, “It is better to have loved then lost, than to never have loved at all.”

Raising a child at such a young age aint all it’s cracked up to be. He may have loved his daughter but he couldn’t afford it. As a productive member of the armed forces, I can honestly say Najai Turpin would have been better off serving his country. The military isn’t for everyone, but it is for everyone who can’t support their families. We may make very little money in comparison to the civilian sector but I believe his hardships would have been lessoned had he opted to serve.

It is said that the lord knows just how hard to push us, how much we can tolerate, and when to back off. But since our god is infallible and could never inaccurately measure the amount of stress to put upon one’s shoulders, maybe his intentions where that Najai’s daughter would be taken care of through this trust fund. With that being said, if he truly needed to win the prize money more than someone else on this show, (and I don’t know all of the contenders stories), then the lord would have seen fit to make that happen as well.

In closing, don’t have unprotected sex. It isn’t fair to your children to make them witness the difficulty raising them if you aren’t prepared. I was forced to grow up early as a result of my mother’s mistakes. Being exposed to drugs and domestic violence is no way to be brought up. It fucks up many generations to come. Case in point, the reason I am 26 married and refuse to have children. I think people should earn the right to have children and stop breading like rabbits. This is a sore subject for me so I'll just back away from my soapbox at this point.

R.I.P. Najai Turpin, May we meet on better terms.

Dan "Cayotic" Cayo
http://cayotic.com

I was shocked and saddened deeply by the news of Najais death. Even more so when I realized he had killed himself. Life can be unbearable at times, but there is no excuse for killing yourself. You are hurting everyone that loves you. It is a selfish thing to do. He should have thought of his child first, not his own misery. May God forgive him.

Its very sad that najai is not more in this world He could have tried another way out.God bless Him and give hope to his family.

Rest in Peace, young champ. We felt a desperation in your voice when you spoke of making a better life for your family and believe that you really wanted it. The pressures of life must have been too much to bear. We can only wonder whether a doctor had prescribed any type of antidepressant to help you deal with these pressures. You fit the picture of most of the people who are put on these drugs. These drugs (SSRIs & SNRIs) are increasingly being shown to increase suicidal ideation, attempts and successes. If Najai's family reads these posts, or anyone else who knows someone on these drugs, please check out the following Yahoo Group: ssricrusaders or go to www.antidepressantsfacts.org for more information. Our prayers go out to Najai's family and little Anyae.
Nathan and Terry Bearden
Arkansas
Parents of B.J. Poole
Effexor XR-influenced suicide victim

R.I.P. Najai, you were a great fighter.

I say a pray every night for you Najai, I cannot believe that you took your own life knowing that you had everything a man could ever want in your beautiful daughter. I have a two year old son and he is my shining light at the end of my darkest day. My prayers go out to your family and I will always remember your beautiful face...

No matter how bad things can get, and Lord knows they can get real bad - When you have children there is always reason to live. Rest in Peace Najai. I pray for your daughters well-being.

What a tragedy! I just saw the show the other day and never knew that he died till the end of the show when the tributes by Sly and Sugar were aired. I don’t think suicide is an option for anyone going thru a tough patch, but I cannot whatsoever judge those who commit it as I know, being a black male, how difficult life can be.

It's ironic... in this day and age, a black male is perceived by many, as a man who plays around and refuses to take responsibilities of his children; here was a black man, not only proud to have a daughter, but also took responsibility to look after his siblings and nephew and niece; did not opt the easy way of drugs or crime but felt he had to sweat for what he earned, yet did not have the support to do so. I feel sad that, like in most cases, it takes us such a tragedy like this to wake up and realize that we ought to lend a helping hand to those in desperate need of it. So many people have so much, yet others have nothing but a struggling existence.

Nana needed help, you could see in the episode, when he lost the fight to Sergio, that he was shattered; the only hope he had, to make it as a boxer, was destroyed. Remember, America, this was a young man with the responsibilities of a 40+ year old, yet he still felt obliged to earn his dollar to support those who depended on him. I just feel that, there is so much being talked about the black male, so much that when we see one who takes responsibility and is genuinely trying to earn their way in life through rightful means, we should acknowledge and help. I'm proud of him.

I just wish he had held on a little longer, because, there is always light at the end of the tunnel. I strongly believe that our experiences in life are lessons for us or others to learn from, otherwise this World would not progress. A message to all those who feel that there is no reason to live, think deeply... suicide is probably the worst sin you can commit. God loves you and He suffers and cries with you whenever you hurt. You see, we all perceive the Earth as a final stop for our lives so we seem not to accept it when we go through hard times; To God, life actually starts on Earth and the Earth is just a passageway to greater things, so when we suffer on this Earth, do not blame God for its not his purpose... but he sees you beyond this Earth. Remember, the closes people to God's heart are the very poor people who have nothing but their souls yet are prepared to take all that’s thrown on them without losing faith in Him. God will never put you to test... in fact hard times should bring you closer to God.

Hang in there, people, if there is one person who is always going to be on your side when everybody else turns their backs on you, is Jesus Christ, the Almighty Son.

I hope the power and love conveyed in this blog, by all the loving people of Nana, will help his one and only love, his daughter, to grow up with a chance in life her daddy never had.

RIP Nana.

We all acknowledge the sacrifices you've made.

Why Najia?When I heard Najia die I was shock. At the age of 23.You where a great fighter.My prayers goes to your family.R.I.P Najia! Much Love

Great Spirit receive Najai with love. His soul is one of a "great warrior", one who should live on into the spiritual world!!!!
Walk in beauty Najai.

I don't know why he did that. To me, that is a very selfish way and a cop out way to go. I mean, he had a child that he said he was working so hard to care for. Why kill yourself? Now, that child and mother will suffer even more. To me, that's a coward, even though it's just a one loss fight. Makes no sense! Don't get me wrong, I think the guy is cool and nice but I think he was a coward...to leave your wife and child alone to fend for themselves.

-fighter

My heart goes out to Najia's girlfriend,family and daughter. Only God knows why things happen the way they do. We can only pray and learn from our past. May God be with them all in their time of need. We all need to think twice before we post. This is a tribute for Najia. Don't put him down. Everyone has problems.God loves us all!! God Bless You All especially anyone who knew Najia.

Rest in peace Najai. You were a great fighter with a big heart. My thoughts and prayers go out to Najai's family especially his wife and his daughter.

i was so sad to hear that he had died i say god bless to his family and friends and that he will be miss

Such a tragety to loose such a talent, my heart pours out to the turpin family. May Gods eye's watch over your family and pull you through your sorrow. We'll pray for your well being.

reasearch shows that nitro got robbed of $900+ days before getting the invite to fight on the contender. now that will mess with you when you work hard in a fish market for the rent money and thugs snatch it (if your a regular guy), but if your a young boxer who feels superhuman with strength and skill and YG's take your manhood it'll mess with your self image bad.

Contender called him like three day's after the fact and he felt like a higher power intervened in his having to avenge his robbed manhood. the Dude was getting a weekly stipend of $1500 from the show to stay in shape for the final show where they planned paid re-matches picked by the audience as undercards to the main event showdown. I imagine financially he was doing a lot better then before the show. he was described as partying alot staying out late etc. I'm sure tensions were created between he and his lady.

The DEN MOTHER Ms. Kitner pontificates that Najai was distrustful of his lady, who for all intent and purpose was probably the only good thing to come into his life. But with the increase in Dough comes arrogance and with arrogance comes harsh words. dude stopped training and was partying regularly. I bet his lady told him to fuck off and keep his little grip shes out. he was about to lose the best thing in his life, and he was gonna lose his $1500 stipend because he wasn't training. he had been jacked before he kept a gat on the side. and when she bailed on him he fell on his sword like a soldier(or a coward: whichever side of the fence your on).

When I watched the contender where he got sent home.. I was bawling he gave his little speech at the end of how he promised to do good and he didnt. And then his little girl came in the room and i started crying more. I don't understand why he did it?! He had the most beautiful daughter in the world. Having a child should make you want to live more than anything! It was really sad. God bless his family he seemed like a really sweet and caring guy.

Well i first have to say my condolences to the family but something has to make you wonder what that chick said to him that he would stoop to something like that, all that hype about his daughter is his life, I guess she wasnt enough to push him over the top to live for her.Who knows maybe she said his daughter wasnt his or she wanted a divorce or she was cheating , but hey if that were the case he probably would have taken her out first then himself but in the end ONLY GOD KNOWS and the girlfriend she knows more than what shes saying of course its her fault he's dead but his fault for letting the devil get a foothold,thers no second chances after suicide when its over its over.

When I wathed the fight I thought I was seeing JO Frazier.I wish Najia could of seen that.

I could not stop crying when I saw the Contender and learned Najai committed suicide. Turthfully, I feel like banning the show from my life. It is yet another example of the rich taking advantage of the poor, ok, taking advantage of the poor except perhaps the winner in the end. These men are worth so much in their own right. They seem to feel their entire life somes down to a few moments of punching. It's not ok with me that these men have to work 3 jobs, that Najai had to work so hard for so little only to become so desperate in the end that he took his own life. Surely there was more involved, but it's clear these men see this as a chance in a lifetime to provide an easier (and they all deserve it- we all do!) life for themselves and the people they love. Meanwhile, Stalone and co get to live the high life... It's not fair and it is certainly not right. The rich are getting richer on the backs of the poor and the poor are probably to damn tired to object. I object, though, by banning the Contender and making it know. Even if I'm the only one. I'm just tired of the rich getting so damn rich and being lazy, thinking it's ok that people work 3 jobs while they fly around in private jets. Since when is that type of selfishness and ego a thing to be admired?? It certainly didn't help Nadjai...it's not a game.
What it comes down to is worth and importance, but really, what makes Nadjai worth less than Stallone or Sugar Ray?? B/c he wasn't in Rocky? Who says Najai should make barely enough to survive b/c he does construction or restaraunt work- I'm certain (as could many people) be more than capable of doing other jobs that are considered worth much more, but guess we need shows like this to connect people to the top... far as I'm concerned the top needs to be brought down...Frankly, it also digusted me that the fund is coming from the viewers when people are making a killing off this show! Where's the humanity?
We are all important and, Najai, I'm sorry there wasn't help for you out there or if you believed your life was not worth anything...
I will try better for you and the countless others that feel life is, as a poor and helpless person in a country with so much wealth, struggling to provide for your family-looking through a window into the VIP lounge, and then looking at the bargain basement education and minimal support you get simply b/c your poor.

In your name, Najai, you did not die in vain- I will try to help make this world better.

In love, peace and kindness.

In this life I'm on the ropes
On this bout rests all my hopes
Poverty l will break away
Will I live to fight another day
Inside my soul you can not see
What this life has done to me
For I am not just a contender
I am my families defender
I will not let them see my eyes
For that's where fear of failure lies
What brings about this tragedy
Is I did not believe in me

Why would you do something that can't be taken back? Anyone watching the show would see how much Najai loved his beautiful little girl, and her world rose and set on her Daddy. I hope that his family will tell Anye every day how much her Daddy loved her, and tell her stories about what a good man he was. I hope he is in heaven in his mother's arms.

I had a very good friend that comitted suicide at the age on 13 on October 28, 2005. No suicide note no nothing. Just left without word. No one will ever know why people do it. I am sorry for your loss of Najai (family)I watch thee show contender and he was awesome. I hope that all the good times are remembered and all the bad are left behind. Just remember that he is by your side and watching over you! GOD BLESS YOU!

my heart goes out to the turpin family and friends I feel for you I to have felt the lose of a love one .Naji was a hero in my eyes . if the family is reading this I hope you may find comforte in know ing we will all miss naji dearly and to his bautiful baby girl all I want to tell you is your father is a wonderful man who has alot of love to give to you and your mom the wonderful women that she is today I know your future will be brighter and happer for and to all of you out their with your kind words may god bless you for taking some time out of your day to this for the turpin Family and to naji may you rets in peace forever and know we will always admire you and you will always be my hero.

he was a good boxer ,may god bless his family may his menories be remenber from someone in houston

Najai one of the greatest fighters I saw...... May he rest in peace.....

I hope you are happier in heaven then you were on Earth. God bless your soul and may he watch over your family.

Watch over your daughter so that she will be protected from the storms that might come. God bless your family that they are conforted and bless your soul that your spirit will be calmed

Its sad that a young man left the world at such a young age.None of us knew what was going through Najai mind.Life is full of choices and I guess he had a Large burden eating away at him.No one can judge anyone because no one walking this earth is perfect.Many times you go to Family,friends,and loved ones and the don't understand! Men are taught at an early age (Especially Black men)to "suck it up" or "Stop being a Puck A**"!Maybe if he had a shoulder to cry on and let out his HURTS and FEARS, maybe this man wouldn't have taken his young life.His hurt was bottled up and he exploded.PEOPLE need to listen to others when they see a person down,even a stranger...You just may be saving anothers life!

*NAJAI....The Doves will forever fly around your heart and soul and family!

man what a shame, why didnt he think of his lil
girl........god give u life and he takes it ONLY!
when he says so.........

It brings tears to my eyes . so young ,all he wanted to do was be a good dad and provider for his little girl ,he really loved her ,she loved her dad,he was not a lazy man or a dead beat dad..he will be missed..

May you rest in peace, my brother...You'll be greatly missed.

I have just watched the forth episode of the contender in which Najai's fought and was shocked to find out he passed away! my Heart Goes out to Najai and his family!

My god Bless his soul!

I just watched The Contender and it left me in shocked and deeply saddened to hear Najai's selfish, questionable act!! Regards to his (match)lost, he did looks promising and whatever his reason was will remain a mystery.
Whilst I'm not here to judge his decision, all my prayers goes out to his beautiful daughter,Anyae and may God bless his soul.

East Malaysia, 21:07

My heart goes out to Najai, his family, and especially his sweet little daughter who now must grow up without the physical presence of this strong, loving, young man. This loss makes me think of this song by Don McLean. Especially the words, "This world was never meant for one
As beautiful as you." Perhaps that's true.

To Najai and family I hope the best for all. I saw the show me and my daughter she is going to be very very hurt when I tell her the news. Najai seemed to be a fine young man that wanted nothing but the best for his family. R.I.P.Najia Turpin.

may god have mercy on you and take you in his heavenly gates ,my heart goes out to your daughter for she won't see the thing's you did for your family the hardship you endured losing your mother, you may have lost the fight but you should have not ended your life ,

Dear Najai, I wish I had known you, maybe I could have helped you with talk and caring, ther is always help some where i am so sorry, may god bless you and your family.

Me and my whole family send out our condolences to the family of this young fine man. Its so saddening that things turn out the way we did and we'll be praying for him and his little gal. Rest in peace Najai. May God bless your soul and look after the loved ones you left behind.

The most important and sad lesson that can be learned from this tragedy is that life is too short. I hope that all of you who read this will take a second look at your problems in life and realize that SUICIDE IS NOT THE ANSWER.There is help out there if you seek it out. Najai now leaves behind a beautiful daughter and family and friends that will miss him dearly. His actions were wrong and his decision has cost those who cared for him to pay more than their share. We will never know why Najai went down this road but all of those who truly cared for him should pass on the better memories of him to his daughter so that she doesnt live her life wondering why her daddy left her. Go with God Najai and we will pray for you and yours.

That was a foul move my brother but, whatever decision caused you to pull the trigger I hope you found the answers to your problems. I pray for your family especially your daughter.

It makes me sad to think that there are people out there that have no hope. My prayers go out to the family and to his young daughter that did not ask to come into this world of suffering. Najia's destiny as already been set. But how about the life of his young baby? Life is hard enough with both parents much less with one. What kind of future did he leave for his daughter now?
For all those people out there with no hope, let me tell Jesus is our strong tower and there is nothing that you can't overcome if you will just call on the mighty name of Jesus! Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.' Jeremiah 33:2-4

Some people are right. We really don't know what transpired between Najai and his girlfriend so therefore we shouldn't speculate. This is a very sad time for the family especially when a child is left without their parent. We should take this time to pray that the family will pull through during this traumatic loss. Pray for all involved. Remember that his girlfriend has to explain to their child everyday that her daddy is not coming home. I haven't lost my family member but he is in a coma and he has a 3 year old daughter. It is one of the hardest things to explain. I can go on being angry at a person I have never met for not thinking about the people he has left behind but what good will it do. So I choose to pray for him and his soul. My prayers are with the Turpin family. May you all find the strength the move forward. God Bless you.

im so sorry to hear about his death.
i was rooting for him too.

RIP Najia

I was watching the contender the other day and found out that Najai had took his life. It sadened me as if I knew him. My prayers go out to his family and Najai R.I.P. IF you would I would like everyone to pick up a copy of the book " A Purpose Driven Life " I am sure it will make you think twice about any devilish thoughts that one might have. It changed my way of life completely not to mention chapter 33 of the book was read to Brian Nichols ( the man who was responsible for the Atlanta shootings ) just before he waved the white flag. Just remember we live for our God!

Najia seemed to be a wonderful man and a very loving nurturing father.My prayers go out to his family and friends. To his beautiful daughter I am sorry your daddys gone but he will always be with you in spirt.I am grateful that that little girl will have that episode of the contender to watch one day when shes older at least she will truly know how much her daddy really loved her.Please lets not judge him for what he did its not our place.Never judge a man unless you have walked in his shoes.I think the one thing we can all do to honor Najia is to donate money to that little girl.That seemed to be his one most important goal to provide a better life for his daughter.We will be giving her more than just money but also the love and kindness of strangers.She will grow up knowing that there are always people in this world that care about her even complete strangers who want her to suceed in life.Rest in Peace Najia.God bless us all

Najai,
I hope you are at peace now in the arms of the angels. Your death has touched the lives of so many people. You will be forever missed. God bless your family and your daughter. RIP Najai!

It's hard to understand why someone would commit suicide. Especially knowing that they are leaving behind a child. No one really knows what goes through the mind of a suicidal person. I believe that they feel all hope is lost. That things will not get better and the inner pain is so deep and hurts so bad, that the only way they can find peace is to take their own life. Last week was the first time I had watched the contender. That's when I found out what had happened. I will keep him and his family in my prayers always. We need to help our young brothas out there. For whatever reason, they don't view their lives as important. They are not supported and therefore, do not feel that they are going to overcome the hand they have been dealt. With him taking charge of the family at a very young age after his mother died, showed his character. By him wanting to give his daughter whatever he could, said a lot. But for whatever reason, he just could not see a light at the end of the tunnel. Who knows what the conversation was about between him and his daughter's mother. All we know is that we have another young man who believed there was no future. I hurt for him and I hurt for the baby. He will be sadly missed.

That was such a selfish thing, Najai did.
Obviously, he did think of the people he was going to hurt, especially is daughter. Hope just can forgive him. God bless. He will be sadly missed.

It's so sad to hear about what has gone on. He was so young and had a lot of heart for boxing. We can only keep Najai and his family in our prayers. God Bless

Good riddance, who cares about this coward? Good coping skills, did you ever hear of Zoloft. I'll be sure to contribute to a family who wouldn't have enen had a chance with him around, or NOT. I'm glad you loved your baby girl so much.

I have always been a fan of boxers...but The Contender has raised my level of respect for them to new heights. To say Najia inspired and touched me in that last episode would be the understatement of a lifetime. To say he hurt and saddened me with his heat-of-the-moment choice would be equally understated. I haven't cried this much since I was a child, so I can only imagine the pain his friends and family are experiencing. Unfortunately for Najia's soul, I strongly believe that hell translates to feeling the pain you've caused to others -animals and people- for eternity and exponentially. I pray that I'm wrong and that a chemical imbalance and past trials are justification enopugh in God's eyes...but I doubt it. Life is just too precious a gift; look no further than Najia's daughter for proof of that. I will continue to pray that you'll be able to rest in peace, my friend...and that your act may prompt others to seek help. I can't stop crying, though; the world was a better place with you in it.

SHAME ON HIM, I FEEL NO PITY FOR HIM !!!!! THE ONLY ONE THAT WILL SUFFER WILL BE HIS BABY GIRL. SO ANY PRAYERS THAT SHOULD GO OUT SHOULD BE FOR THE LITTLE GIRL AND HER MOTHER, SO FOR I WILL PRAY AND CONTRIBUTE FOR HER WELL BEING SINCE HER FATHER WAS TO MUCH OF A COWARD TO FACE LIFE AND REALITY !!!

I know the great sadness that the family is going through right now.i know know the family needs prayers for both the family and him. i know no words can not make it better. but i can understand how they feel. my brother was 19 years old and that was my Jr. in high school.i had no clue that he would take his life. but i know their are times they will miss the greatest accomplishments in there your life but will also help guide you in you dreams. but don't ever think no one cares because the world does, it may be your mom and dad sisters just like me.all i can say is i pray for the family and will you will be in my prayers.
god bless,
hodony A- az

i would like my thoughts and wishes to go out to the turpin family. after watching the contender Najia has inspierd me to start boxing and no matter what the odds dont back down thank you! RIP Najia

We all wonder why but only two truly know why...him and God! May God bless your daughter, your family and your soul!
My belief is that if it doesn't kill ya...it can only make u stronger! Whatever storm he was going through would soon pass....

I feel such a pain at the loss of Najai, a complete stranger. He seemed like such a beautiful person and filled with so much light. I wish he would have stayed and let it shine. He said he felt there was a greatness ahead of him and that greatness will be fulfilled through his daughter. My prayers go out to his family, may God give you strength as you go through this ordeal.

I know how it is to grow up black and in poverty, and I also know the struggles dealing with the feelings of failure when it comes to taking care of your family. I found God and he is helping me through these changes and I just wish this brother could of found him also. My heart goes out to his family and all young black men who seem to lose their way from time to time, I pray you find God.

FIRST OF ALL, THANK OUR HEAVENLY FATHER FOR THE TIME THE WE WERE ABLE 2 GET 2 KNOW NAJAI. AND ASK HIM 2 FORGIVE NAJAI, IN THE NAME OF JESUS. I DON'T KNOW HIM PERSONALY, BUT MY HEART AND PRAYERS GO OUT 2 HIM AND HIS FAMILY.

I AM IN DISBELIEF THOUGH, HE SHOOK OF THAT LOSS 2 THE LATINO BY JUST TAKING 1 LOOK AT HIS DAUGHTER'S SMILLING FACE AS HE BEGAN 2 PLAY WITH HER. THATS WHAT PUZZLES ME,YOU'D THINK THE THOUGHT OF HIS DAUGHTER WOULD'VE STOPED HIM. YOU CANT KILL YOURSELF WITH A 2 YR. OLD LITTLE DAUGHTER. THAT IS SELFISH IN MY OPINION.

Najai--

When I heard that you had commited suicide after the show it brought tears to my eyes. It brought back memories for me and my heart went out to you. .The father of my now 1 year old left this world one month before he was born. It makes me sad to think that you must have been so unhappy and in pain to bring you to this. I think it would have been a pleasure to know you. I know you are missed by your loved ones. And maybe, one beautiful day your daughter will feel the warmth of the sun, look up and know your love is shining down upon her.

"I feel greatness ahead of me. I feel greatness ahead of me..." were his last words on The Contender. My prayers go to his family and his daughter. It's very sad what happened to him. He was a great boxer. God rest his soul. Rest In Peace Najai.

WHILE WATCHING THE CONTENDER IT SADDENED ME TO HEAR NAJAI SPEAK OF HIS INNER PAIN AND SADNESS. HE SAID HE FELT HE COULD TRUST NO ONE BUT HIS DAUGHTER. HE MUST HAVE FELT VERY ALONE. HOW VERY TRAGIC THAT HIS FAMILY/FRIENDS COULD NOT HEAL THAT HURT. BUT SOMETIMES NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU LOVE SOMEONE THEY ARE UNABLE TO SEE OR FEEL IT, COMPLETELY, BECAUSE OF THE HAZE OF INNER TURMOIL. WE MAY NEVER KNOW WHAT WORDS WERE EXCHANGED JUST BEFORE HE TOOK HIS LIFE, BUT TO PUT IT ON HIS GIRLFRIENDS SHOULDERS IS NOT TOO FAIR. HER GRIEF AND GUILT MUST BE UNBEARABLE. LET'S JUST HOPE THAT SHE AND HIS FAMILY ARE ABLE TO COME TOGETHER FOR THE SAKE OF THAT MOST BEAUTIFUL CHILD. IN THE FUTURE I HOPE SHE WILL BE ABLE TO VIEW THE SHOW AND SEE HOW MUCH HER FATHER TRULY LOVED HER. MY PRAYERS ARE WITH HER ESPECIALLY. LOVE AND RESPECT TO ALL HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS.

NAJAI I AM VERY SORRY TO HEAR OF YOUR PASSING AND SEND MY CONDOLENCES TO YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS. I LIVE IN THE UK WHERE WE HAVE ONLY JUST SEEN THE FIRST EPISODE OF THE CONTENDER AND I AM SADDENED BY NEWS OF YOUR SUICIDE. WHATEVER RELIGION ONE MAY BE, I THINK I SPEAK FOR EVERYBODY WHEN I SAY GOD BLESS YOUR SOUL, MAY YOU REST IN PEACE AND FIND TRUE HAPPINESS IN THE AFTERLIFE.

As a huge boxing fan I have assorted a number of relevant quotes here with sources from both the world of boxing and other areas of life which we should consider at sombre times such as these. Please take note:

"Look, if you had one shot, one opportunity, to seize everything you ever wanted, one moment, would you capture it or just let it slip?" — Eminem, 'Lose Yourself', 2002

“We are just passing through this world on a little journey. Every little one of our actions has an impact on others, a domino effect." – George Foreman, July 2003

"If you want to succeed in the world you must make your own opportunities as you go on. The man who waits for some seventh wave to toss him on dry land will find that the seventh wave is a long time a-coming. You can commit no greater folly than to sit by the road side until someone comes along and invites you to ride with him to wealth or influence." — John B. Gough

“You have to always be ready. There are no second chances.” — Benny Georgino, 2003

"There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure." --Colin Powell

"I’ve proven throughout the years that I’m for real...I REFUSE to allow anyone to beat me, anyone." –– James Toney, September 2004

"I never win anything; nothing just falls in my lap. Everything I've got, I had to put my boots on and start hiking, I had to go out there and get it."
–– Alec Baldwin, 2004

"Hard work and persistence eventually pays off if you keep the faith and your nose to the grindstone." — Doug Fischer, Maxboxing.Com, December 2004

"Hard work, determination - I just keep on working" –– Glencoffe Johnson, December 2004

"Kept my nose to the grindstone... And I got results." — Eugene O'Neill

"Champions know that success is inevitable; that there is no such thing as failure, only feedback. They know that the best way to forecast the future is to create it."

I just finished watching the contender and Najai was very, very hard on himself. I just wish he had someone he could have truly talk to because he spoke like he was the biggest failure in the world. Someone had put alot of PRESSURE on him to succeed. May God bless Najai and his Family.

To every judgemental person who reads this:

It might not have been the best way to deal with his problems but instead of trying to take the splinter out of Najai's eye we should be worried about the 2x4 in ours. I am only 18 but I have more respect than all of you combined. I do not agree with his decision but I also do cast judgement on him. We should learn from this and apply it to our own lives. We should be an example for everyone we encounter throughtout the day. God put us on this earth to make a difference in it not to tear it down.

To Najai's family:

I pray that God with bless you and keep you. Know that God loves you all and has big plans for your family. Take refuge in Him and let Him heal you broken hearts.

to Najai's baby girl:
Your daddy loved you so much anybody with eyes could see that, don't let anyone ever tell you any different.

I DON'T cast judgement sorry typo

Najai Turpin could of been the next big thing, only god knows now, and lets hope Najai is with him, may god be with all his family

You may not post this, but Najai was a muslim, he belived in allmighty allah, he knew about the great quran, so lets hope inshallah, that allah will forgive him for all he has done, and may allah bring peace and hope to Najais family. Bismilah Irahmah Nerahim

Najai Turpin, i am so sad to hear about his death. This is the third letter ive sent. Man, if i ever get a chance bro, ill come and visit your grave man. Peace and much love

i am very sorry about wg=hat happen i dont kno naji but he reminds me of my cuzzins and uncles and brothers of they do something like this my world will turn upside down i am sure his family feel the same thats why i am so sad he is a human being he gat a family and he was love by many and many will miss him........RIP NAJAI u gone but u will not be forgotten sleep on the world luv u but GOD luvs u best!!!!!

Everything happens for a reason, maybe in his death Najai will save many others who were debating suicide. Hopefully they will see how permanant this is for a temparary situation. It saddens us and we grieve but, we must also learn from it. Let us help our teens and young adults who are putting pressure on themselves by having children and living in adult situations with adult stress. Without a support system a loss on national tv and then words with his girlfriend may have been too much. I too say why did he have a gun?
I just think we should all honor him by Not follwing in his footsteps and by ensuring if we know anyone who may seem depresed gets help. Imagine- not being here tomorrow??? No family, no childbirth,no sunsets, no beaches, no more beauty that exsists. The sad part is anyone who may do this has lost there vision of beauty.They have no hope for tomorrow. God Blesses us with life, it will end when it should, when our road comes to an end.It is his daughter who was cheated, there can be fill ins but there will be no other Najai in her life. Fathers live for your daughters, daughters live for your fathers, etc.... no family?? live for tomorrow, it will get better-it can't if it never comes. God Bless Najai and each of you!

Why Najai

why, may god bless ur soul. My condolences go out to ur family.Why?

Najai... i never got the chance to meet you personally but your hard work ethic and humble personality inspired me to become a better person and harder worker. You will be in my prayers, may god bless your soul and those of your family. Much Love

I was shocked to find out that Najai passed away. I was even more shocked to find out that he commited a suicide. Not everyone always wins, people often lose and learn on their mistakes. You can't take your own life if you lose something, instead try harder next time.
IT'S OK TO LOSE...
Patience is all that's needed because as Najai said himself: "God was letting me know that he had my back the whole time"
People, please make your donations for his family...his daughter...since she doesn't have her daddy to take care of her now...
God bless your soul, Najai and my prayers are with his family...
P.S. I feel soo horrible too because I was cheering for the other guy (that won) and I don't even know or care about him...if I only knew it was gonna turn out like this...so sad...

Let's pray for Najai and all the other people who has taken their lives. We can't pass judgement on that man. Stress will take your mind and rip it apart. We love you man.

man... that boy could fight, najai RIP dog its sad to see you go, gone but not forgotten but now you in a better place with your mom and my mom take care CHAMP ...one luv to family of a fallen soldier, Amen

my heart goes out to naji's family and friends at this time I would just like to say to naji family I'm kepping you in my prays each night . To niji beautiful baby girl your father loves you very much and I know he is watching over you all the time and your mom I would like to say stay strong for your little girl she needs you more than ever before and I know this a time of need for you but please know to me he was a man with a very big heart and today he is my hero and the person I look up to and respect alot I know the future will hold better things for you so stay strong and know we all miss niji very much and my family sends their condolances .

I have been watching "The Contender" and not being a fan of so called "reality shows"; I do like the struggle and reality of this shows format. But to be very honest about television and how that medium works;I wonder if ANYBODY really "gets it"? This situation with Najai and his suicide is about as real as it gets,people! Are you satisfied now? Is your lust for graphic life situations sated yet? These guys are skilled and dedicated and most have very little else to put their hopes and dreams into. This is verified by their commentary and descriptions of their lives and outlooks on life in general! They will never be "Rocky" or "Sugar Ray" but the implication that they could "if " they win on this show must be an insurmountable amount of pressure and weight to bear! If they are emotionally fragile, as we found out Najai was, are we surprised that he did what he did? YES!! Because if we look at what we, as the "audience" are thirsting for, it is not reality at all but escape from reality and we were fed this by television and what it is about! Najai just brought us "back" to reality!! To blame the girlfriend or his freinds, family and associates for missing the "signs" is ignorance and selfish grandiosity! Those people who are blaming others should keep staring at these reality shows to tell them to keep doing just that! Blame anybody other than ourselves for anything and everything wrong in our lives and look to television to cure our boredom with our own lives!! I am saddened that Najai was so very desperate to change his life with this dream for stardom, even if it was for his daughter and not himself, that he abandoned all hope when he lost and made a decision that the people left behind will have to bear, the pain of thinking they should have; could have done something more, something else,something different, anything! But most of all for this woman and girlfriend and his daughter for being there with him at his moment of emotional corruption, his loss on television!! Television is as culpible as anyone! For implanting desperate dreams that were never likely going to happen!! I will wager that the winner of " The Contender" and his $$$MILLIONS$$$ will be desperate, alone, afraid, used and used up within a short period of time after this show!! Be it a week, month, year or 10 years; it is a short period of time in lifes scheme!!

Tears came to my eyes after watching the show.I can understand how he was feeling ,I'm a 31 year old man whom has been struggling all my life. My heart goes out to Najia. I'll always prey for your family I'll always be your friend eventhough you never knew me. From one man to another ,Manuel Cadile Gilroy California. God bless

I forgot I have a two year old daughter same as Nijia I feel that watching this show has changed my life forever.I'm going to work harder on not giving up myself. Yes I've felt bad like you Nijia but I could'nt do what you did. I wish I could turn back time I would have flew out to help you. I just got a job yasterday and I'm going to hold on to it with my life. Everyone can't be rich with money but rich at heart. Peace Nijia and If God blesses me with riches I'll be sure to share some of mine with your family I promise, Manuel Cadile from Gilroy california.

My heart broke as I watched Najai break down and cry after the loss of his fight. He seemed so broken. His tears so sorrowful. May the True and Living God have mercy on his friends and family and of course may God have mercy on Najai.

I just finished watching tonights episode, and I could not believe this devistating news (Naji's death). My condoleces go out to all his family and those who loved him. Although I did not know him, Najis' story moved me. I honestly don't think that a person with so much strength of mind would commit such an act. Especially, since it entailed leaving his precious daughter behind. I couldn't help but wonder what where those last words that his girlfriend expressed to him. They must have been very cruel, enough to push him over the edge. May God forgive his girlfriend, allowing her to reflect. Hopefully, she realizes that words are powerful and can be fierce.

a good man lost to the world.

Najai seemed to have a bright future ahead of him. It hurt me when I found out that he had taken his own life. God have mercy on him. Bless his family. Bless his daughter, let her grow up to become a strong, beautiful woman.

please pray and hope that the Turpin Family and friends move on threw life with out a struggle. Also pray for najai...i find this story so sad. God Bless you.

Najai it's extremely sad that he took his life, i was hoping he would be the next big think its so sad his daughter was so beautiful i thought he had a great life ahead of him....

i understand - been down that road too - you will be missed

What a waste...
Selfishness sometimes seems the only way out

He comitted suicide -- does anyone get it. I feel for him on one level, but if he was truly a man -- he would have been there to provide for his daughter... I have thought of it, but never have, why? I want to still be there for my kids -- both my daughter and sons, I want to instill the beliefs that I have, I want to be there for them -- he will never be. He took more than his life -- he tok the bond between father and child.
I believe he has let his daughter down -- now a trust fund will be made for her -- great -- but who will be there for HER?
SUICIDE is not the answer -- It is a weak way out, he should not be praised for being weak.

i was so sad to hear that najai had passed on my prayers and heart are with his family his beautiful daughter and his girlfreind only he knew what was going on inside him may you rest in peace najai ..and may god be with his family may they have the strength to go on and cherish only the good and not the bad rest in peace champ

WE will never know what was going on in that car that early morning but something did happen and he took his own life. I pray for the turpin family during this greiving process.

My only question is why he did it? He was a good fighter could any one answer that. May god bless you and keep your daughter safe.

I hope Najai is in heaven. This is a reminder to all, that getting involved is always worth taking your time and energy to do it. Was there anyone in Najai's life who might have stepped in and made a difference before it was too late?---we'll probably never know, but we can learn and act when we see signs of this with anyone we know from now on. God bless you, Najai...you're a beautiful person.

I just wanted to say, i am sorry for the loss of this fine young man. I saw the show and i could almost hear it in his voice, i am so sorry to his wife and daughterand i hope you can forgive him as god will provide and my prayers go out to you and the small one. Its a tragedy i know first hand as my father also committed suicide and it was very sad.....my tears fall for you ty for letting me share how i felt about your loss ty

brenda fresno cali

OK OK, I cannot judge him, fine!
I know for myself, if I where to kill myself in such a traumatic manner and causing everyone else but me pain. I would say my action was for selfish reasons.

I wish his ex-girlfriend would state how much he "honored" her and their child as he pulled the trigger there in front of her. Or was she relieved he did not turn the gun on her 1st? (it’s a rhetorical question people)

But how can anyone live life without judgment of who you are near and affected by,
EG: Would any of you Americans hang out with Sadam knowing what you know of him, if you met him on a street and wanted to walk and talk with you? My discernment or judgment says “No, don’t do it!” But WAIT I’m judging… ooops!... Kill me now please Mr. Sadam sir.

1 Corinthians 3:17 now that’s judgment… judge for your selves!

I now get tons of H8 e-mails from people judging me about my earlier judgment on March 7, 2005 10:10 PM (the ironing is delicious, yes I said ironing not irony I know) so where will it end.? With Bush or Binladden maybe? (it’s another rhetorical question people)

Though looking back I might have reworded it a bit, as not to seem “so” cold to the loved ones.

My sympathies to this family and to that sweet little child.

Peace out.

why did he leave his two y/o daughter to raise herself? its sad. that is my only question. R.I.P. NAJAI. you were a great fighter.

Najai, I am sorry to know that it turned out this way.

My heart and prayers goes out to your little girl.

Keep fighting.

My heart goes out to the family and the friends of this young man. He may have called out for help, but that does not mean that he was willing to take the help that was offered. On February 28th, my husband and I lost one of our best friends that lived in our home to suicide. He had threatened for over 10 years. We always tried our hardest to persuade him that he had so much to live for. Eventually, one night he did not call on us for help and unfortunately we lost a best friend. It is hard to comprehend what is going on in the mind of a suicidal being. I live each day with the hope that God perceives this as an illness and forgives these ones in need. May God bless everyone that has ever had to deal with a fatality of this nature!
Ashley

God bless you najia even though i dont know you, i only see you in the Contender when we heared about what youve done in your life,hope you will be peaceful with God and i know you have a peaceful way to heaven and i also prayed for your family,lord God i prayed that Protect the family of najia and his daughter anyae,lord keept the daugter of najia in the hands of you and use this child to prosper your name oh Lord i know lord there is no distance in praying o Lord.and keept them always in the safetyier place and they could survive the trials that will come into there lives,teach them to be stong there faith in you o Lord... and mostlikely will always praise with your name and always speack about the goodness of you o lord and this i prayed oh lord in Jesus name i pray amen.
God bless you all...

Najai shouldnt do this stupid things....pls remember Najai, you have a young child who really need you...My sadness goes to his little child.

sad to have lost a boxer in such way... i understand him. i've seen his frustrations after that bout with the "latin snake" mora. he felt that he was humiliated by that loss in front of his wife and child. not to me and my hommies who watched the bout. he had every disadvantage and almost won - way below the 150+ lb, much shorter than mora and had shorter reach. he proved to us that there always is a way out of a well... it just so happened that he was not able to make it. it just wasn't about money - it's about his pride.

our prayers go out to you and your family, Nitro, and may God bless them. life goes on in philly baby...

I cried when I saw 'The Contender' today. It's so sad. Najai, your daugther will always remember you for your love for her. May the Almighty God heel the pain endured by the family and friends of Najai. May Anyae became a better person by this tragedy and may she remember her father's love forever.

Truely dont know where to start, how a young man goes from hope and promise to taking his own life. I have watched the contender since it first aired and i was watching the night we all found out about najai and i was rutting for him and i was sadden when he didnt win. But at the same time like he said "i gave 110 percent i left it all out there" when someone leaves all they got in the ring you dont feel sad for them you keep rutting and cheering them on because that will keep them going. I wish nitro would have heard all the cheers of everyone watching across the country for him that night. I am still in dis-beleif & very sad, he said himself "I have greatness ahead of me" i truely think he meant that and i truely think he did have greatness in him and ahead for him. we dont know what he was going through in life or what he has gone through so no-one has the right to judge. people say someone should have seen this comming, unfortunately in the world we live-in everyone is bussy looking the other way trying not to be burdened with problems or to selfish and caught up in their own. it's funny how someone we barely knew has touched our lives, najai i respect you not for just being boxer, but a father. i hope & pray your daughter grows up not knowing whatever heartaches you went through. i still cant help but feel that you will forever be more remembered than the show or whoever wins it. In my heart you have already won. I hope your with god now and free of all that pain that was in you, my prayers go out to you, your daughter & your family.
R.I.P Nitro

Ivan

Just finished watching the latest "Contender" episode and was shocked to find out about Najai Turpin's sudden passing.

It is a pity to have lose him in such way. I hope someday we will know why he did what he did.

This has truely saddened me. I just finished "The Contender" episode in which Najai loses out to Sergio. I really wanted Najai to win because I admired his attitude so much and the way he expressed himself after his defeat was really gracious and it takes a man to see a loss also in a positive way. Knowing that it is possible to improve and get yourself back up on your feet after a setback is something everybody should know. At the end of the episode I saw the tribute to him. It shocked me. I never enjoyed boxing, only after I watched this show that I gained interest in this sport.

My deepest regards go out to Najai's family and daughter.
God bless you, Najai. You were a fighter. I idolise you.

just cant believe this...najai was a gr8 fiter..i still cant believe he killed himself.i just watched sugar ray sayin najai had passed away..god bless NAJAI!!

i juz watched a few episodes of the Contender, it's shocked me for how's he dead. I'm a Thai people. it's a Buddhism country. i feel that he's a coward and foolish man who did such thing. How's about his daughter, who's gonna response for that?? it's a shame thing in my country. we all have different aspect of thought, i do respect u all, pls respect mine...

Anyae, I hope you read this one day when you can understand what has happened in your life. Your father made a horrible mistake and I am sure wherever he is, he wishes that he could take it back. I will definitely contribute to your trust fund and hope that you find real happiness in your life. I am a white, South African born father with a 17 month old daughter, and I saw in your father's eyes the love that I feel so deeply for my daughter. It must have felt to him like he was loosing you and that alone is enough to break any man - even a great warrior like your dad. May God have mercy on his soul and watch over you and your family forever. I wish you all the best.

It is truly shocking to find out on prime-time tv an amazing episode which millions of people watch all over the world that a person takes his life.I know that many teenagers some just entering adulthood like me 20yr male look for inspiration from shows like this or kind of make us want to do better and motivate us for our future life and an incident like this, well all we can say now is hope that people realize that your life isnt all about that one match.

Even though i only know you through tv, but i can see that you are a very kind person. Much too kind for this world to live in. May God forgive you so that you will be a fighter in heaven. We pray you have much better life in heaven. Even though the world is getting strange may this tragedy be a lesson to us all. Let us unite may there be NO RACISM, NO DRUGS, NO VIOLENCE and let's try our best to do good deeds and treasure our family and appreciate ourselves. You are one of the greatest person and fighter.
Rico - INDONESIA -

The look in his eye were that of a champion. But his soul was lost to dispire. God bless

May you rest in peace!

my his memoies live on for he is in a much better world than this.

I don't think Najai killed himseft but if he did I ask God to forgive him,and to his daugther, we will all see him again in heaven. R.I.P Najai Turpin

R.I.P Najai. takin the easy way is not the best choice ull regret doing it, remember ur daughter

Najai, your beautiful soul will live on in many people's hearts, including my own.

In your own small way, you can show how Najai's story touched your life by donating something to the person he loved most, Anyae Chapple. For every donation made, you know Najai is looking down proudly -
www.contender.yahoo.com

Anyae, you are a beautiful little girl, and I seen the love come out of Naji when he played with you. I hope you can forgive your father for the way he ended. God bless you and your family, and don't lose your fathers memories of the time you had together.

นาใจ คือยอดนักสู้คนหนึ่ง และผมเชื่อว่าทุกคนคงคิดเช่นเดียวกันนี้
ยอดนักสู้ขอแสดงความเสียใจกับครอบครัว นาใจ และขอเป็นกำลังใจให้กับภรรยา และลูกสาวตัวน้อยด้วยครับ

a great and young soul lost.you will always be remembered najai.you've inspired me,not only by the quick ,strong and smart moves in the ring,but also by the stories i read and heard about your personality and how you survived the many obstacles of life.najai may not be able to read this,but this is what i think of him and what i want to share with those reading this.may his soul remain in peace.God bless najai..

to anyae..you'll grow up to fight for peace of mind and soul..God bless you too honey.

hey najai if u can hear me from heaven i just want u to no that when i watched u fight against that guy and lost i felt so sad that u had to leave but anyways when me and my sister were goin to turn off the tv we saw sugar lenard we had to see it whenhe said u committed suiced i was cry my butt off and prayin that ur family would be fine but i say i love u with all my heart and hope u rest in peace in heaven i wont be there for a long time so najai's family i want to say vest of luck to all of u and a good life sincerly sol

sad...life still has to go on..y commit suicide just becoz of the $1million?kinda stupid...sad for his family her her daughter...may god bless nijai's family.

very sad. just wanted all of u guys to know that u can still help najai by donating money to his daughter-whom he loved the most- on www.contender.yahoo.com

it truely is sad the first moment i learn about his death.he was a great fighter n will truely be a great loss to the boxing world.Najai you will always be remembered!god bless your family and friends.may the reasons for his actions be reveal in time.Rest In Peace Najai.

Why Najai? how about Anyae? May god bless your family and R.I.P Najai! Your acheivement will always remembered!

In Memoriam for A Man Dying Young:

As a mature retired African-American college professor
who has lived a long and largely privileged life - when
contrasted with far too many others - I have been
profoundly and deeply affected by the tragic suicide of
the gifted but troubled young fighter, Mr. Najai Turpin.
Though, in what seems to have been a depressed
emotional/psychological state, Najai, unpredictably
and shockingly, killed himself, his relatively brief
existence on this earth should not and cannot be
viewed as a failure. He came into the world in sordid
circumstances of extreme poverty and deprivation,
losing his beloved mother when he was only 18 and,
despite his heartbreak and lack of a father figure,
assumed the burden of raising and supporting his
siblings, in a menacing and tough neighborhood.

Nitro, as he was known to his friends, achieved so
much in terms of self-respect, dignity, love [of his
young daughter & his family & friends], attainments,
and as a role model for youths seemingly "trapped" in
the ghetto [he gave them hope through his achieve-
ment]. His infectious smile and grit won Nitro admirers
the world over, and all humanity is, in some ways,
diminished by his inexplicable loss.

I will send my contribution to the Nitro trust fund set up
for his daughter, but, above all, he will live on in my
thoughts and prayers. May he find the lasting peace
and happiness that somehow, despite his triumph,
seemed to have eluded him in this world.

For other young men and women of Nitro's
generation and circumstances, take both heart and
hope from his attainments and his example of hope,
courage, perseverence, and love of others.

Contre fortune bon coeur ["against ill fortune, have a
stout heart"].

God Bless!

PEACE !

damn Najai, I wish it didn't have to end like that. I wish I could've talked to you before you made that choice. I only knew you for a hour, but it felt like I knew you all my life. You were undersized for the show and took on a guy who was taller, bigger, and stronger than you. Many people don't know that you jumped up in weight class to be on the show. But that's all in the past and as I rewind the show, I can't stop crying. You remind me of myself. I've been close to the edge a few times. I know how hard life can be. I know how dark things can look. I know I'll see you again in heaven, where there is no hurt or pain. Look over your daughter and your family, keep fighting with your heart and leaving it in the ring. You said you saw greatness ahead of you and you're finally some place where you'll always be great. Najai, we love you.

we love you so specail as your fans... why did he died?? i think its might be his to do with his wife in a sex before he was died...

im so sorry to have mercy him...
i'll be always to pray for him...
he would be in heavin...
i hope it don't go even to the hell...
i know he is very good, brave, great!, powerman...
he got number one!

I believe that if Najai had not had a gun in his posession at that exact point in time, he might still be living.
I have never been one for gun control, but the more and more I find out about the ill effects of this issue, the more I side with those who favor it.
Not hunting rifles or anything for sport, but handguns, etc...

The stats show that the mere presence of a handgun significantly increases the potential for violence/ death.

People say that they need it to protect themselves from intruders but the majority of times in home incidents when the firearm is used it is actually from one family member against another.

If one is feeling suicidal and has a firearm readily available in his or her residence, he or she is much more likely to follow through...

When someone acts so impulsively, they cannot think rationally about this and that. It all goes so fast.

When your mind is caving in and the gun is there, it is just a split-second reaction: saying "fuck it" and putting to your head and pulling the trigger.

There is no time to think about it (and the consequences.)

If Najai had not had a gun with him, he may have goten over it, given some thought the his situation(s) and moved on to the next day.
He still might be living today.

He was not a selfish person.

what a fool. its terrible that he did that. life cant be so bad that you would take it and be willing to spend an eternity in hell. i feel terrible for his family. he left a little baby behind. he was selfish. but he had alot of spirit and passion for boxing.

i can relate a little bit about this situation i'm a former profesional boxer two year a ago on my last fight i end up in the hospital few days after the fight i had a subdeal hemathoma blood in my brain so the doctor told my no more boxing or i could die so i was very depress ihad been boxing for almost 15 years and now the end and to make it worst i haven't see my daugther since last years my ex don't let me so i thoght of killin my seft but the only 2 reason i dont do it is because i have others kids and inow know the lord Jesus so hopefully i can see my dauther soon i also had read that najai have problem with his custody of his child

ive never been so saddened..Najal.. living in india and raised in africa i looked up to you many in this subcontinent did too you where a hero here..the amount of hardship in the US is not even a fraction of the amount of hardship here in the third world...God loves his angels ,, he will raise the small girl.

I think of him and how I felt the presence of a great man at such a young age. I have cried many tears for him after seeing the show and feel very sadened to learn of how he died. I want him to know that I don't judge and he had a special presence from what I saw and for me that means alot. Take care to those who have been left behind and I hope that they feel good when they see that others felt him too. WHAT A BEAUTIFUL MAN.....I say.

"Nitro" was murdered w/ words and the threat of never seeing his lil girl, so what more should he have wanted to live for? I am sorry he got in the car that night w/ Anyae's mom because it's clear she killed his every hope and dream which is why things went to far and now Anya is w/ o her daddy! How feel for Anyae's mom for the day she has to tell her it was her fault for her losing her daddy, but hope she'll let her know he wanted her and she said no & tried to not allow him to see her @ all so that is why her daddy isn't here physically w/ her. To those ignorant people posting notes on here remember the ones who were there do view this! Also don't judge him judge the women who got out of that car after her murdering words!

Rest N Peace Nitro
Best Wishes to Those He Was Closest To

Remember to donate to Anyae!

To Najai: I didn't know you, but have been touched by you and your beautiful daughter. I was so saddened to hear of your death. I only wish you peace. I wish you had found it sooner so it did not have to come to such a tragic end. I don't think you knew how much you truly inspired and touched others...maybe you will know now. God Bless and rest in peace.
To Anyae: God bless you sweetheart. You are a wonderful little girl. Please know that your Daddy loved you very much. It was so evident by how he talked about you and the look he had in his eyes as he watched you. He will forever be looking out for you from heaven.
To Angela: I don't know you or your situation, but I'm sure you are feeling the loss too. May God give you strength to get yourself and little Anyae through this. Stay positive and tell Anyae what a wonderful Daddy she had.
To Najai's Family: May God bless you all and keep you strong.
Love & Prayers to all of you

As all persons leaving a tribute I also am very sadened by the untimely death of a rising star. Whatver happened to make this young man take his own life could have been worked out or avoided. Its very startling when a person so young does something like this. He and I are about the same age and hopefully God will have mercy on this man.

NAJAI LOOKED LIKE A GREAT FIGHTER(LET ME TAKE THAT BACK)HE WAS A GREAT FIGHTER.HE GAVE HIS EVERYTHING ON THE LAST MATCH HE HAD WITH SERGIO MORA.HE ALSO HAD A BEAUTIFUL BABY-GIRL HE SHOULD OF THOUGHT ABOUT HER BEFORE TAKING HIS LIFE.(BUT WHO ARE WE TO JUDGE.TO LITTLE ANYAE YOUR DADDY LOVED YOU VERY MUCH NOW HES IN HEAVEN WITH YOUR GRANDMOTHER SMILING DOWN ON YOU AND LOOKING DOWN ON YOU.
R.I.P NAJAI TURPIN AND FINALLY HES GONNA BE REUNITED WITH HE MOM.
TO:NAJAI'S FAMILY MAY GOD BLESS YOU ALL.
SINCERLY,
EVELYN

Najai, you are a great fighter,the scene of you and your daughter touched my heart, God will take care of yer lil girl for u,live well in the mansion up there aite.......

My heart goes out to his family and friends, first and foremost. There is nothing that anyone can say to make this pain you feel go away. I had never met Najai and feel that I missed something special simply from watching the TV. To your precious, beautiful daughter: Know that your father loved you and your mother probably more than any man could. There is no love that can ever compare. I gained so much respect for him as I watched the show....working to make his life and his family's life better. There is no greater love any one person could ever have. I am at a loss of words to understand why such a beautiful person would leave, but in all honesty....know one, and i do mean no one, could ever understand....until you have walked in his shoes.....All my prayers, love and respect...

Jackie

najai. you have been de best boxer. atleast in my eyes. my condolences and prayers go out to u and ur family.. i hope ur daughter would lead a great life and hope u would cope well up there. may god bless and be with u. you would always be my best boxer.

-Sean

I just started to watch the Contender. Najai gave all his best. To him maybe his best wasn't good enough but to his daughter. I think he did do his best. He was and still is the best in her eyes and heart. God Bless.

i myself have been the victim of what suicide can do. a year ago a close friend killed himself after a troublesome period in his life. I foundout through a random persons discussion. I deeply feel sympathetic towards the loss of Najai, a great man, who encompasses all a man could ask to be. He was humble, gentle, hardworking, and looked after what was deer to him. He must be commended not only for his attitude but for his dedication to God. May he rest in peace, God bless his soul.

najai rocked the ring. altough he lost, his strength and dignity will be remembered by all. he is a winner

i was shock,,when i saw the news,,but all i want to say it may god have mercy on you....

may your soul rest in peace buddy....it's like the lost of manny pacquiao to erik morales.... a great man manny was defeated....may god have mercy on you.....

"Tears of a Clown" {If there's a smile on my face, it's only there trying to fool the public.}

I saw the pain in your eyes after your last fight on the show Contender. I knew you were hurting deeper than anyone could imagine.

Rest in Peace Najai, my heart cries out for you and your family.

Mutiple tragedy begins when guns are easily available to the public

I feel bad for his family and for him. I know that we have all bad times in our lives and some of them are hard to overcome. With the love and support of family and friends we can over come them. My prayers and thoughts will be with his family and friends. Just remember if someone ever feels that they can not take it anymore it is okay to ask for help. As a society we should not think of those who commit suicide as losers but as those who did not get help in time.

It's the problem of our society.
Banning guns would create a better place for us

"As a society we should not think of those who commit suicide as losers but as those who did not get help in time."

Amen!

i was watching contender just 2nite n it was the episode were Najai lost the fight even tho you lost 2 me in my eyes u were still a winner it seeme u had so much potential but u dint realise it i knw my words dont mean anythin sice i am half way across the world and have probably never felt the hardship and pain he did but i cant help sendin my respect out 2 him n wish that he just realized how important life relle was...Najai may u rest in peace n God have mercy on u hope u find ur way bro....

i hope u have the best dreams and hopes up there i hope u can hear everthing we say i have so much love for u only god knows how special u are god took u because u where a ANGEL who needed to be loved more godbless u and your family RIP much love to you from us down here in the ATX 512 holla nice to know u najai bye for now.......

A terrible tragedy. Watching "Contender" with Najai again tonight I can only hope that those in deep despair seek professional help before taking this irreversible choice. Clinical depression can be treated and normally, with medication and therapy, is aleviated in about 6 months. Please, help those who need help seek the proper avenue for relief.

Najai was selfish when you think about it, not to be mean or anything, but he didn't realize that the moment he would kill himself, he would leave his wife, and kids behind to be all alone and suffer even worse without him. It's a shame people who commit suicide don't think of others, only themselves. I hope his family can get through this and may God have mercy on his soul.

hereing all the things he said touch my hart seeing the way he played with his daughter and spending time with his wife. seeing this really makes me wanting to become a great fighter like him when i reach the age im going to do all that i can to box and make all the money i can for his family... now im 14 going on to fifteen november 14 and i am going to try my hardest to get all i can for them......

God Bless Najai and his family through these difficult times. I pray that he is in a happier place now and give my deepest condolences to his family, especially his wife and his beautiful baby girl.

Watching you with your little girl really touched me. I know us fathers sometimes don't receive the respect or recognition we deserve for being loving and caring fathers. God bless your little girl and I know you will be right there watching her every step of the way. Whatever your reason we should not judge you one way or the other, you should be remembered for what you accomplished while doing the Lord's work here on earth. I know you are in a better place now, God Bless.

Richard Gonzalez

I was just watching the Contender, and seen his name and his birthdate and death date 2005! So I can online to see and WoW- I dont understand! He seemed to have so much faith in god! So much inspiration to become something far more than what he was. He wanted to be great! I hope that one day maybe his daughter can grow up and remember her father for the great things.. not for the reasons he died.. but for the great things he achieved and let her know her dreams are never too far! God Bless you...
Love always- Krista Leigh!

najai. shuda thot bout yur lil girl. thot he would be the most unlikely person to do sumthing like this.

Najai had the biggest heart i ever seen on contender. Me and my family would like to send our deepest sorrows. God Bless you all

Before tonight I never knew who this young man was, but after tonights show of the "Contender", Najai, has a place in my heart and in my deepest prayers.. I am also saying extra prayers for his little angel and her mother. May the Grace of God lay his hands on this family through these hard times now and forever..God please take care of Najai where ever he may be..And please help his soul rest..in your sons Jesus's name I pray..Amen

Im saddened to hear that Najai commited suicide. Why, this is an unforgiveable sin. I hope in his death he can find happiness. May his family be blessed by the rays of christ our lord savior.

Peace and happiness
one love

WOW I CANT BELIVE YOU DID THAT. BUT EVERYBODY DOES SOMETHING FOR A RISSON. WE DONT KNOW WHY YOU DID IT NAJAI, BUT NO MATTER WHY YOU DID IT ILL RESPECT THAT.

GOD BLESS
-STEPHANIE FROM WISCONSIN

I am praying for Angela & Anyae. I am sorry for your loss.

I never really written anything like this before. But, sitting here swallowing in my own sorrow. the death najai has hit me hard. just watching him in the epidsode he losted in I could tell something was wrong. i felt it like i was a part of him. i never met this man in my life but it hurts too hear what happen to him. ITS HARD OUT HERE WHEN YOU TRYING TO SUPPORT YOUR FAMILY. ESPECIALLY IF YOUR CHILD IS A LITTLE GIRL. NAJAI DAUGHTER WILL ALWAYS BE IN MIND. I TRUST HIS SACRIFIES BRINGS HAPPINESS IN HIS DAUGHTER'S LIFE. LIFE WORKS IN MYSTERIOUS WAYS.

Just saw the episode with the tribute at the end. Jaw dropped to the floor, but before I even went online I knew what he had done. You could tell when he lost, he was now lost. All his hopes and dreams were in this one event. No-one could have saved him In a sense he was a drowning man and the show was his last chance. He'd already made his decision. I just don't understand how a person, a 'fighter' could quit fighting the greatest challenge of all, life. He could have been something, could have been a role model and a hero, but now he'll just fade away as the victim of another senseless suicide. And it is a selfish act. You go, but leave behind people who will never understand why. He should have broken the cycle, he could have broken the cycle. I'm not judging him, I just wish he had made a different choice. I hope you find what you couldn't on earth wherever you are now.

Well Najai I don't know why tou would do somthing like this, but it had to be for a good reason to go and do somthing so horrible to your girlfriend and your precious little, innocent baby girl.I will pay for you.

Lord bless Najai's family & friends, though it may be impossible to understand his troubled soul, I do know that when a man competes at such a level that he puts everything on the line (or in the ring)it can be hard to keep things in perspective, Oh LORD JESUS be our perspective! we can only pray for this man's family & friends, that in time God will work even this to his glory. Romans 8:28 TimOthy, Milwaukee WI.

To Najai's family, I'll shall keep you all in my pray's! Even as I type this tribute I find it hard to believe. To Najai's family, keep you head up. My brother once told me before he died(we were both 18), "Before things get better, they must first get bad!" Use his life as a way to better yourselves not hender yourselves. Be thankful that God gave you Najai for the 23 yrs. he was with you!

How do you get that lonely...and nobody knows? I would like to dedicate the Song "How do you get that lonely? by Blaine Larson (new country hit) to Najai's family and friends. You can see the full video of this song on Yahoo Launchcast Music Videos under Country Genres. It is a beautiful song that will enlighten any one from any race, ethenic background, or religion. My prayers are with all who held Najai close to their hearts. This world is so cruel and sometimes it's just too much to bear. May God open his arms to Najai with understanding and show him how much he was loved here on earth, how much he is missed, and give Najai a point of reconciliation with himself and his maker. God will bless his daughter with the strength to carry on the championship her daddy started. God Speed.

I just watched the episode, and the dates shocked me. He seemed like a great person, how could no one see the signs. As I watched the show, after the fight the sadness rised through his eyes. May he rest in peace, and may good give his family great strength to deal with this traggic lost. R.I.P

Latoya P

I just finished watching the episode of the "Contender" in which Najia fought a great fight and loss. At the end when his name came up to dedicate the episode to him my heart stop. I could not believe that a young black man with so much promise felt that there was no more reasons to live. We must at all cost preserve and encourage our youg black males in all there dreams and goal. And if we see that there's trouble up ahead please offer help. Women encourage your man in everything you can. Do not bring then dowm with your words of anger but instead help them and encourage them. " Life and death rest in the power of the tongue" I never met Najia but tonight I feel great sorrow for him; for we have loss another black male in a world where we need all the ones we can get. For those who say he was selfish; Only God who gave him life can stand in judgement. Who are we to judge? we are but just mere mortals on Earth who only have to answer to God. My heart and prayers go out to his family. Please tell his daughter that daddy loved her greatly everyday of her life. Talk about his goods things and never talk him down to her. For dead or alive that is the only father she will ever have.

I pray the God has open his gates to Najia. May you rest in peace and God bless.

People who commit suicide are in hell...No hope for this man...God watch over his daighter...

After looking at the episode of the Contender tonite I felt compelled to leave a tribute for Najai and also a donation for his daughter.After looking at that episode I just broke down and cried because after the fight he felt as though he let his family down and that he just couldn't do anything right. Then they showed him playing with his daughter and it seemed as if everything was okay and that he was at peace with the defeat. In my eyes he is the Champ. RIP!!

I hope you rest in peace and may God bless you and take care of your precious daughter.

STEPHANIE FROM WISCONSIN if you are still following this blog, I was concerned about your comment. I hope you are not looking for repect for something you are thiking about doing. I hope this is a misunderstanding on my part, but I have been thru suicide with a girl friend and i promised myself that i would "but in" if I was concerned. There is no Respect in suicide. He was a man that needed help and support. If you need help, find it. at your church, with a hotline, a true friend that will find you help that you are afraid to find. or respond again.

Anybody reading this please remember something if you have a friend with depression. If the person has made a muraculous cure, look out for them, they may have made the decision to take their life.

Najai Turpin The greatest fighter and battler of all time. God Bless.

My Heart goes out to his daughter!!

Hello, i just got finished watching the episode of the "contender" and i just began to fall in love with Najai and his defeats. I noticed in the show how he was a great competator and a great father! I have great respect for Najai. I can't admagine how this must be for Najai's family and friends. I send all my prayers out to you and hope that everything begins to get better. I admire you Najai and you will be greatly missed.

He who kills himself shall not go to Heaven. What a shame... I feel for his family and loved ones. Someone should have noticed he was a lost soul before he did that. How sad.

My heart goes out to Najai's family and friends. Seeing him on Contender, I believed that he was even a greater boxer than he thought, at his size compared to 6 foot man. He brung his A game into the ring. Its sad because thinking of his daughter growing without her dad is a heartbreaker, but his family will be in my prayers.

to najai family and friends,my condoleces. I'm very sorry for your loss.I hope you and your family will remember him for his love he had for all of you!And forgive him for his death.... Depression is a disease and he didn't understand that.His love for his wife and daughter was shown on the contender show...when talked about them. I will keep his family in my prayers and may god help you all in this time ..

I just watched the contender and deeply saddned by the death of Najai. He seemed to be a very good father and a good fighter. Whatever happened that early morning is between him and his girlfriend, but I just hope it was not the love of money that drove them both to this end. I send my deepest sympathy to his family and friends who deeply cared for him. My prayers are with you all.

I lost my brother who was my best friend to suicide in 1996 and not a day goes by when I don't think of who he was and who he could have become....My heart is heavily saddened for your family Najai but more for you. Being in the position that your family is now in, I wish you could have let someone soften your heart just a little more to be able to help guide you onto the right path. I wish you well in your new journey. I send my prayers and love to your daughter and wife and all of your family and friends. I am sure that the Saviour is now holding you in the palm of his hands. Bless you and yours.

I am still sick about Najai's death. I sit hear on Easter thinking that Jesus died for all our sins. I wish Najai could have realize that life was going to get better. I feel like I lost a member of my immediate family. I am so sick about this. I watched another episode of " The Contender" and I thought about Najai and his suffering. I pray for every one who is in such great pain and know God answers pray. People spread love and acceptance not hate.
Remember, THINGS HAPPEN FOR A REASON. Najai's death may be saving others. Encourage not judge people.

i never really watched the show until they did the tribute to his death....most people dont know whats its like growin up in a rough town haveing limited oppurtunites to do somethin with ur life...god bless you....

To the family of Najai and other's whom wish the truth about suicide. Is it a sin? Yes, but do not use you're own Interuptation to make the dicision on where Najai's sole is... Study what bible and Pray for a better understanding and comfort! To Najai's family if someone has said something that has discouraged you check this out! www.bible.com/answers/asuicide.html

Najia no matter why you did it you and your family are in my prayers now and forever. GodBless you my friend.... michael o'brien

I never knew Naji and 2nite was my first time watching the show and it felt like i seen that episode for a reason. all my life i faced poverty but i wont complain as long as god blows breath through my lungs. on earth we lost a soilder, but in heaven we gained an angel. R.I.P Najai Turpin

I am so deeply touched by Najai. To learn about this tragedy after watching the show was a big shock not only to hear about him taking his own life but to learn that his daughter as well as his brothers and sisters will be without a father and a mentor. Myself being a mother of a 2 year old can not even imagine what his girlfriend Angela is going through without the father of her child being there. My love and prayers go out to the family and friends of Najai, my God be with you!

We send our deepest heart felt prayes to the family of Najai Turppin, I watched that fight tonight, and the interview afterwards and you know that what he said was sooo true he was ment for so much more. But throught the thoughts and prayers of well wishers and his family his striength and heart will live for ever through the eyes of his beautifull little daughter, may God be with them and may God forgive, take Najai by his side and take care of him. With LOVE, THE GREENE FAMILY Keyshane, Liliana, and Soraya. GOD BLESS!!

WHAT CAN A PERSON SAY TO EASE THE HURT? NOTHING. ALL YOU CAN DO IS LET TIME, AND PRAYER HEAL THE WOUND.THIS IS A VERY SPECIAL POEM I WROTE WHEN I WAS AT MY WORST IN LIFE. I PRAY YOU FIND SOME COMFORT IN THESE WORDS I SHARE WITH YOU. YOU KEEP YOUR CHIN UP AND STAY STRONG ANGELA.''''

The Light Of My Candle
By: Antoine Williams

Like a child in the night
I shudder with fear,
Of a disturbing furure
Flowing rivers of tears.
Then suddenly I realize
There's nothing I can't handle,
For you are my light
Which ignites my candle.
When obstacles of life
Begin pulling me down,
And hope is a dream
Nowhere to be found.
The fire of my candle
Burns bright as the sun,
Your voice whispers to me
Thy will be done.
You're a true inspiration
For helping me see,
Tomorrow promises
A brighter me.

God Bless his girlfriend and daughter. It's a shame that little girl will grow up without her dad, but I'm sure she will always know her daddy loved and adored her. You could tell from the show. God Bless

OMG I couldn't belive when they said that Najai past away.I didn't know Najai as a person but I started crying then I cried even more and more when I find out the way that he died.Cause I went through the same thing as his wife is going through.I am feeling so sad,I am sure God forgive him.Najai is in heaven watching his family specially his little girl that he loved very much.From my heart, I give you my truely condoleces to the family.I WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND WHY HE TOOK HIS OWN LIFE, HE HAD A LOT DREAMS ON HIS LIFE.JUST LIKE WHAT I EXPERICENCE MY SELF,I WILL NEVER KNOW THE ANSWER WHY MY HUBBY DID IT TOO.(I will make a little donation but when I have more money I am donating more) GOD BLESS YOU!

I am very distressed by one of the comments on here left by "T man". How very callus, this fine, but deeply troubled young man deserves better from you/us...Who is anyone to judge anyones actions....? I did not know Najai, but feel as I did, and I feel so hurt by the action he decided to take. No one EVER knows anothers feelings...When we r troubled and down many seek freedom from their pain in this way..It's not a matter of weakness or being a "LOSER" as "T Man" put it...It has to do with human frailties and how we are able handle them...Some drink, some do drugs, some beat their spouses...This young man was unable to cope until he could move beyond his pain...that's not to say he wasnt strong..He was!
Killing ones self is not a cowardly way out...It's harder to kill ones self then to take anothers life, in my opinion....So my suggestion to us all, is to love our families with our WHOLE being, our whole fiber; be there for them in good times but especially in sorrowful times....No one is to blame for this death...Relish in the happiness that Najai gave to each and every one of you...Remember the good times an remember his sweet smile...Prayers to his family, his girlfriend and his small beautiful daughter...Hugs!!! LK Winstead MT.

Why did you do this najai? Why didnt you think about your family? All you did was think about yourself and thats very selfish. god bless.

I watched the episode of the contender for the first time this evening...Easter Sunday. I truely feel for this man, wanting only the best for his family yet possibly did the worst for his daughter. I really wish someone could have helped him. I think he was beautiful yet troubled spirit. He will be dearly missed I am sure.

My heart goes out to Najai's family. May God bless you all.

We all need to remember that at the time one pulls the trigger or jumps off a bridge or which ever way one committees suicide, that person is not in their right mind. It could be a chemical imbalance at the time. It may not be a conscience choice. So please don’t judge another person, for one day, G-d forbid, it could be you!

I was moved when I heard that Najai took his life. It's clear to me that he had no one to turn to. He needed a father figure to guide him. Some of you judge him and say he was cowardly.
But, you did not walk his footsteps. From what I understand of Najai's history, he was dealt the wrong cards from the beginning of his life. However, he still continued to fight through his despair. There is a breaking point for everyone. He reached that breaking point. Unforetunetly, there was no one around to help him. I am sure he thought about his family before taking his life and came to the wrong conclusion that his family would be better off without him. It seems to me that someone out there who knew Najai and could have helped him, failed to reach out to him in his time of need. It's trajic, but don't blame this young man. It's alway easy to blame the victim instead of trying to really understand all the elements contributing to this trajedy.

why the world in here that all these guns related issues happens, guns suicides, car jacking, school shootings, gang fighting, robbery and more happen throughout ..

He fought like man in the ring and out side the ring. He gave everything that he had. He lost but we still love him. This great man was never a looser !! My prayers are with Najai and his family.

I noticed some people are new to "The Contender"
and may have missed some footage of the show, particularly Najai.

You can catch up by going on Yahoo Contender site. Click on the Najai tribute and you can play all the footage. Weeks 3 & 4 are especially revealing.
In week 4 you can see the inteview w/ Jackie Kallen and in week 3 you can see the footage of Najai sleeping in the closet and everyone making fun of him until he explains he sleeps in the closet back home in Philly w/ a shotgun...

Also interesting is where the guys are talking about Najai and one of them says something like,"He seems like he's not happy about something..."

When watching Najai on the Contender I was touched by him. Finding out about his death has saddened me greatly even though I have never met him. I can not imagine how his family and friends are feeling, but they will be in my prayers for a long time. My deepesnt sympathies go out to all the people whos lives he touched.

I sat down after a long Easter day and turned on the T.V. only to find out that Najai took his own life. I was just sitting there omg no way! I had no clue that it happened I was very shocked. And it brought back lots of pain cause my brother recently tried to do the same. The day he tried my mom found him and took him in and he got help. He's working on getting better. I wish Najai had the same chance as my brother did.
But it didnt go that way so Im very sorry about that his little girl wont have him there.
And my Prayers go to her and his family.

im really saddened about what happened to najai... i saw that episode in the "contender" last night and saw him played with all his heart.. he is a good fighter. too bad he ended his life jz like that... but we cant blame him. i adore how much he love his daughter. i extend my deepest condolences to his family who grieved upon his loss. may ur soul rest in peace man...God Bless!

no words can express how sorry am i for the tragic loss of a good man like najai. may god let him go in his kingdom, eventhough i don't know much about him i surely believe he's a good man for sure.....

I don't have to write my feelings, but I'm doing so because it just seems like the thing to do. I could see how dejected and disappointed Najai looked when he lost the fight. It must be so hard to do what he does and have to face losses. Maybe it's too much to lose on a show like Contender. I really got into it from the first episode and I've never been wild about boxing....but this tragic incident has cast a shadow on the show. And Najai's not the only one that I have worried about after a loss on the show. Even that Ahmad guy worried me....I can't imagine how he must feel after being so arrogant and boastful on the show and then losing. He doesn't seem to be operating in the real world....and that's sad to me. It just seems so dangerous psychologically. People that are so passionate about these kind of competitive sports hang too much on being a success. It seems that, in their minds, winning is what they must attain and losing means they are shamed, they're letting people down, and have too much despair, in general. A strong support system is, undoubtedly, a must...and if they don't have one that's strong enough those close to them don't know the right things to say or do for them, it must be very problematic for the fighter. I would like to see the boxing federation (or whoever) offer counseling for all fighters or at least have a list of referrals available for them. Maybe a support group of boxers feeling dejected with someone strong, for instance a counselor with a boxing background that can relate to guide them. It's too much to deal with on their own. I'm sure a lot of them don't have much outside of boxing and, as I said, they hang too much on their success in boxing. I don't know....just thoughts running through my mind. Najai, obviously, needed help and it's just so sad that he never got it. If he could have looked at himself from a different perspective and would have been able to see how valuable, wonderful and successful he was in his life thusfar.....if only. So sad. I think about him a lot. Maybe he is, somehow, getting our messages. I hope so. He needs to know how much he was loved and admired by family, friends and fans. My best wishes to his sweet little daughter and Angela and the rest of his family and friends. Patricia J., Austin, Tx

That selfish punk took the cowards way out, screw him! I feel terible for his daugher and
family, my heart goes out to them.

I pray for all of us, oppressor and friend, that together we succeed in building a better world through human understanding and love, and that in doing so we may reduce the pain and suffering of all sentient beings

Hard luck bro.. u r wasting ur own talent.

the first time i saw najai in the contender i already admired his principle in life and how hard he works. i even thought that he could win the championship. i was really really shocked, may god have mercy on your soul and ill always pray for you.

one love najai r.i.p, i pray for guidance for your girlfriend and your daughter. may god bless your soul

To Najai's family. You have my deepest condolences. At least 3 times I wanted to commit suicide but the thoughts of my children gave me the strength I needed. It is a shame that the love of his daughter was not as strong as he professed. She will not remember him as a fighter but as her father who commited suicide and left her. I hope he finds what he was looking for on the other side but strength & good wishes to those he left behind.

god bless you najai´nitro´turpin,,
i wish for god to have mercy on your soul
becuase you were a good guy..

This message go to KELDA!

HOW CAN YOU SAID THAT NAJAI IS A PUNK? YOU DON'T HAVE NO RIGHT TO JUDGE HIM FOR HIS ACTIONS,ONLY GOD WILL.ARE YOU 100% PERFECT KELDA??? YEAH THAT'S WHAT I TOUGH. DID YOU EVEN KNEW NAJAI? IF YOU GOING TO WRITE CRAP ON THIS BOARD ABOUT NAJAI DON'T EVEN BOTHER TO COME HERE.DOES YOU FAMILY TEACH YOU ANY MORALS?

COME ON KELDA HAVE SOME RESPECT!!!!!!!!!!!

My condolences goes out to the family and friends of Najai Turpin. I saw the news story then I watched the show and to put the name and now the face together. It's just really sad that he felt he had no way out. It's really sad he's such a young guy.

I just saw the show last night too. OMG I am shocked to learn that Najai took his own life. I thought maybe he was in a car accident or died of health reasons, never had I imagined the young man would take his own life. And his little girl, she was the cutest!! :( Poor baby!

I wonder what was said that night, too bad we don't know. The brother endured a lot during his youth and young adulthood. Having lost his mom and being responsible for his younger siblings must have been hard. I know he was struggling financially.

Too bad he did not see past his troubles. Rest in peace brother Najai. You will still be remembered as the talented boxer and caring man that you were.

Najai was passionate about his family and his boxing career. by the sounds of things he worked his arse off trying to provide for his family. this man deserves respect! maybe his was selfish in commiting suicide but not in general so noone say he was a selfish man because he did everything he did, not for him but for his kid and g/f. his kid wont have a dad, but atleast she will have a good start to life because of the money been donated to her. najai rest in peace as soon as possible, wherever you are

DONATE MONEY TO ANYAE

In junior high school i had a really good friend who was raped by a family friend then learned she was pregnant w/ his baby. She did what she had to and put the man in prison. With the support of her family she did have the baby and she was only 13 years old! Over the following 2 years she drifted in and out of counseling, started running w/ a bad crowd and ended up in a juvenile detention facility for 3 yrs. Her second year there she decided to hang herself in one of the facility bathrooms at 15! The news was devastating to everyone, she had gotten through already some terribly hard times. The hardest part for everyone to swallow was the fact that just an hour or so before she took her own life, she was talking about what she would wear tomorrow and if she could borrow pants from someone. The reason i'm sharing all of this is because i'm reading alot of how people don't understand why or of how selfish this act is. It is hard to understand and it is selfish but to the people on the other end no one will care. To them it is not selfish and in fact they believe they are doing the world a favor. Most people who are depressed to this extent do not seem happy until they make the decision to actually take their own lives. We can not judge his reasons and we can not judge his girlfriend because no matter what she may or may not have said, his mind was obviously already made up.

To the family of Njai: I did not know him but would like to share a word of a comfort in his name. I'm deeply sorry you all are at loss for this gentle spirit but know that while we are shedding tears he would want you to be happy knowing that he's got all the glory that a man could dream of- he's high above with the lord. the way he got to heaven is the happiness and mercy he shared with others.He seemed to be a strong person and was a good fighter he deserves to be remembered for that.In the bible are words that will give you light when darkness is all you can see.I hope that as a family you all turn to god for comfort in this time. I'm sure this has been a tragic loss and no one can truly point their fingers to why and it may not be our place to know. That is now between him and God.God knows the pain of his children and know's Najai's heart.There is a verse in the bible about taking his people home- Najai just got there before us It was his time to shine as for little baby Anyae her Daddy will always be with her heart and angels watching for her better than he may have been able to do here at least now he'll be with her night and day.wether his time was now or later and how it all ended it's about how he will always be forever remembered in everyone's heart so wether he gave up this fight he was in control at the last moment he closed his eyes no matter what words were spoken it was more matters of a young mans heart. he was a fighter which should say it all in itself he did what he had been doing his whole life. Wether it was a fight in the ring it was a constant fight for his soul. He will forever be remembered and I pray for the comfort of your souls and the safe journey home for your best friend,father,brother,and uncle. To Anyae; your daddy loves you more than life itself and know that everytime you smile you bring him closer to your heart may peace be with all of you and God bless you all.

To: Najai Turpin family and Friends,

For a Sudden Loss there are no words that can truly ease the pain of a sudden loss like this...
But if caring thoughts can help they are with you there right now.

With Heartfelt Sympathy,

Nelson,Blanche,Jacko
From White Plains, NY

May God Bless You All.

My heart goes out for his little girl, while I was watching the show I saw what a good father he was and how much joy that little girl brought to him... It even made me sadder when I saw that he passed away.. I could not believe it in my head I thought maybe it was the place he lived at.. I went to make the donation and I saw how he passed.. It really disturbs me but I'm not one to judge. Now its all about the beautiful daughter he left behind. I am sure there was alot going on but the way he seemed in the show I felt as long as his princess was there nothing could hurt that bad! I still think he was a great guy and dad, he just most of hit hard that night.. God bless him and his beautiful daughter he left behind!!

I have to say, I'm addicted to the show. It seems to be the only real reality show out there right now. It shows the true aspirations and hardshipships of these men and their families. While watching the challeges and the matches I cheer for them. By listening to their stories and dreams I feel hopefull for them. And when one of them loses my heart feels heavy with sadness for them. You could tell that Najai had an inner pain but no one could know what he would do about it. I hope he didn't do this because he felt he let his family down. He did the best he could and that all any family could expect. I'm sure they would see themselves richer to have him than to have lost him. If he would have stopped to think of it that way, I'm sure he would still be here being the good daddy he was and the provider he wanted to be. God bless and protect his family.

To baby Anyae, as I watched you chase your DaDa
after his last fight, Who would have ever known
that you will now be chasing him for the rest of
your life.
Please know that he is not hiding from you, and
I pray as you grow older, through your
trials of trying to deal with your loss that
someone will reach out to you and let you know
that God loves you.
I pray that God will give you strength and grant
you peace, so that you may live a life that your
DaDa had always dreamed of you having.
Trust him, and you will have to chase, no more.

I am an absolute die hard fan of the Contender, even though I never really got into boxing before. A week ago my mother told me that a young man from the show had commintted suicide. I couldn't beleive it. Last week was the first episode I missed, so of course I couldn't quite figure out who it was until yesterday on the Easter episode. When I found out it was Najai, I was pretty sad, especially for his girlfriend and little baby girl. I don't think it is right to judge people, so I'm not going to, its not my job. I just thought that he had it all going for him, even after he lost, he seemed ok with it, like he had even won deep down. It was really cool seeing him chase his daughter and his daughter trying to find him. They seemed like that had a pretty close bond. My best wishes go out to Najai Turpin's family. I am sure he will be missed by many. God bless all and donate money to his baby girl!

Najai was a great fighter.It's a shame he gave it
all up.He good have beat that jerk Sergio. He was my favorite and will stay my favorite. He had a beautiful two year old daughter. Sergio is a big show off and Najai should have won.

From,

Alex Duffy and Dylan Bombardier

I cannot stand Sergio and I hope he gets beat next time. But there will not be a next time between Najai and Sergio.

I think it's sad that he took his life when he has a daughter that is depended on him. May God bless his soul.

My condolence goes to the little 2 year old girl whose name doesn't bear his father's and is not legally the beneficiary of Turpin.

I feel sorry for Naija, cos there were a lot of good and great things that he would have acomplished.But life goes on, and i wish him well were ever he is.

Hello, The first time I had heard of this was the night he fought. I cried like a baby feeling so sorry for him and his little girl, I was confused why would he leave his daughter to grow up with out her farther? I sat there and I was thinking back on the show and I remebered somethings he said like "I cant lose with my daughter watching" Then when his girlfriend came in after the fight he was obviously upset and he was saying the touture of him losing he could not bare. I beleive he felt as though he let his daughter down and he could not take the fact that his only chance to provide a good life for his daughter finacialy was gone. I dont blame the show at all I think Naji had issues way before the competion. My heart cries for his little girl.

Najai Turpin,

You came into the game fighting and strong. For some, life is too hard i have survived two attempts of suicide.
It just seems a little hard to go on sometimes. Wether others wanted it or not you did and you had to make the decisions.
Good luck in heaven my friend and god bless your soul.

IT'S SOO SAD AND SCARY THAT SOMEONE COULD ACTUALLY TAKE THEIR OWN LIFE! ESPECIALLY YOU FEEL WEIRD WATCING THEM ALIVE AND WELL ON T.V AND THE NEXT MINUTE YOU HEAR THEIR DEAD! IT IS SUCH AN AMAZING THING 4 ME! IT REALLY MAKES YOU THINK ALOT ABOUT LIFE AND HOW QUICK SOMETHING THAT HAPPENS CAN TAKE IT AWAY! MY HEART AND PRAYERS ARE WITH NAJAI'S FAMILY!

u were 1 of my favourite contestant in d contender....
y did u commit suicide if u can feel greatness coming 2 u?
did u think of ur daughter b4 doing it?
well....
may u rest in peace ...
n may your daughter have a wonderfull and happy life....
R.I.P NAJAI 'NITRO' TURPIN

Not many of us have the type of courage or motivation to make that leap, to the other side on comand by pressure. The kind of love that builds inside for a person can sometimes lead one to the ultimate. One not apreciated by our partners in life, when you love, you give all, when is rejected or stumped on, it can be devasted. I know, I've very close, only did not have enough rage to do it, and Im glad that God stoped me. Please dear God take Najai under your wings and forgive him for taking his own life, for only love could have made him do such act against your rules. Bless his soul and may his children be blessed. Najai youre just one dimension away, I trust God, will confort you and reunite you with your Mother and other love ones.
God bless you man.

Wow. Such a young attractive, talented man. A lot of the writers here have negative things to say. I have at some point in my life said " Suicide is for cowards. I will never do that. I am above it." Lately, I have been a bit depressed, and believe me, thoughts of suicide